Scared to Death!!

[Kristy07]

Ok, So I am a little scared right now, I have been told that my baby is already bigger than average! I am only 21 weeks pregnant and they said that is bigger than they usually are for this time frame.

I am already scared to death about the labour and birthing process but now I am really scared if I am going to have big baby!!!

[Lirael]

the only way to know how big or small a baby is is to give birth. a lady on here recently had a 12 pound+ baby at home vaginally, with no tearing.

[damien's mum]

:hugs: A few of my friends, got told similiar things, to have it not be the case!

Don't stress :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[kimbo]

Hi Kristy07 :wave:

Firstly congratulaions on your pregnancy.

I was told by my Obstetrician from about 26 weeks that my baby was a really good size and that bubs was going to be big. This happened at each visit. needless to say I was starting to get a bit scared.

I ended up being induced at 38 weeks due to health problems and the first three midwives that saw me that morning said 'gosh that's going to be a big baby!!"

My DS was born weighing 6pd 10 oz.

Certainly not the 9 - 9 1/2 pounder they were sure I was having.

They are not always right. :)

[GraceUnhearing]

they told me bub was a little below average at my 34 week ultrasound and they said he should be any bigger than 7lbs

well he proved them wrong and turned out to be 9lbs 2.5oz

dont listen to what they have to say
they are rarely right :(

[bekkyboo]

I was told this also - i was always meaureing ahead.... G turned out to be 9lb 1oz....

Sometimes they are right, sometimes they arent.... Everything will be fine tho :D

[stompy]

I agree with what others have said, they don't always get it right. I keep getting told this bub will be a big one but the only way to know for sure is when you finally meet your little one.

Good luck, and try not to stress.

[the_queen]

I measured ahead in the middle of the pregnancy with DS. Then later in the pregnancy his growth was less rapid. MW said he probably just had a growth spurt because my morning sickness stopped and I was eating better. He was born 9lbs 2oz, "above average" but not huge by any means. I didn't tear at all, only grazing. His big sister was 7lbs 9oz, and I tore and "had" to have an episiotomy.

[SamanthaJane]

Charlotte was 9 lb. I had no tears/stitches. I didn't feel like i was pushing out something humungous (sorry tmi). I believe we are only given what we can handle.

The OB suggested i may have a small baby, because i was measuring smaller than average. Trust me, they can only estimate... and the reality is that sometimes they are WAY off!

[reAllytee]

What a load of .... yeah lol !

As someone has said in a previous post the only true way to know the size of bubs is to give birth !

I always measured ahead when pg with Boof & they expected that due to daddy being so tall. We all got a shock that he was just a smidge off 10lb & 57cms long but i bake big babies !

I have just recently spoken with an Ob in regards to what happened with his birth as to whether it will be the same etc. He advised i make big babies simple & that was fine ! He said inducing me early was a waste of time as well as bad for bubs & that the u/s is only a rough estimate ! This was awesome to hear from him especially when it was all that i had read recently !

So do not stress some of us bake big babies & thats fine its what nature intends for us. Go with your gut if you feel fine then dont stress !

[~Emmylou~]

As everyone's said already try not to stress.
I was told constantly by my OB that I was having this HUGE baby when I was pregnant with DS.
He was 8 lbs. That is dead on the 50th percentile (ie. average weight) :rolleyes:

The real kicker was that OB KNEW he was going to be 8lbs (had done u/s measurements that actually were quite accurate) yet he still insisted on saying that he was BIG. He was also an idiot did I mention that LOL.

You'll be fine don't worry.

[Kristy07]

Thanks everyone, but I guess I cant help but be a little scared as this is my first and I havent been to antenatal classes yet so I'm not really sure what to expect.

I dont have a very big pain threshold either so every little thing is adding to my fears!

[stellarella]

DS was ahead of the norm for alot of my pregnancy, then he slowed down to normal.

Just relax, you have enough things to worry about, stress wont help you.

[Ky]

Honey ... they are calling anything over 8lb big these days ... why??? I'm not sure - it seems ludicrous to me!

My mil is tiny - not quite 5ft tall and of the 3 babies she had, the one that was over 10lb was the easiest birth. My DH was the smallest at 6lb 7oz and by far the hardest!

Apparently (I have had 2 c/s so this is just me repeating what others have said), a bigger bub is a bit easier to birth as it doesn't slip back up the birth canal between contractions leaving less chance of grazing, giving your body more time to adjust to the stretching and less pushing required which, I'm sure, has to be a good thing!!!

As the others have said ... no-one can really tell how big your bub will be and the only time they should be saying your bub is going to be huge is if there is a really big discrepency in size for dates.

I was told that my dd would be tiny and she ended up being 8lb 7oz. I had low fluid and was having u/sounds every day and still they misjudged her size by a few pounds.

My ds was a different story, but they knew all along that he was going to be huge as the size for dates (measuring 42 weeks at 29 weeks!)discrepency was very large - he ended up being 13lb 2oz born at 36 weeks.

[Pixie]

I think we're all told our babies are big my daughter measured 2 weeks ahead on most scans came out just under 9lbs. Don't be scared :)

[mikaylasmummy]

dont listen to what they have to say
they are rarely right :(


This is right also, this is what they told me and Mikayla was 7 pound 12ounz, perfect size, try not to worry too much

[SassyMummy]

Nobody will know how big the baby is until it's born.

Another BHer was told her baby was measuring about 5-6lb and really small. She had her baby and he was born 9lbs something! Her belly looked REALLY small and compact her whole pregnancy, and I truly thought she'd have a tiny bub. But she didn't... he was just curled up a bit.

I was told DD was going to be "slightly" bigger than average... but she was 10lbs 4oz, which is a fair bit bigger than "slightly."

Some women are told they're going to have WHOPPER kids, but end up having average-sized babies.

I've also found a lot of posts around the place saying that bigger babies were easier to vaginally birth than their smaller babies... I have no idea why, but a lot of women have declared it on BH.

[Lirael]

what is average?

[~Emmylou~]

what is average?

On the growth charts, 8lbs exactly is "average" - that's the 50th percentile at birth :)