Christmas

[Brooksy]

Hi everyone,

I'm due to give birth on 31st Dec and so dh and i decided we wouldn't do the usual christmas thing which was have lunch at my parents place and then go to
inlaws for dinner and stay the night there.(they live on the sunshine coast about an hour from us). Dh just wanted to stay at home and not go anywhere but i said can't do that , so we are going to lunch at my parents place as they only live 5 mins away plus have a pool, plus not far from the hospital.

so my mum said why don't you invite dh's parents, his only brother and his wife and their two kids for lunch. So I did, but they turned us down becasue FIL doesn't want to drive on christmas day, but they expected us to. I said to dh when are we going to give his neices their christmas presents and he said why don't we go over to their house to see them. They live on the southside of brisbane which takes about an hour to get to from our house as we live on the northside. I'm cranky because they have been to our house once in two years to visit us, we have always driven over to see them i don't know why they can't make the effort to see us since i'm close to giving birth. I also said to dh why don't you invite your brother to drop in on christmas morning before they drive up the sunshine coast as its on the way. BIL said no as they wouldn't have time.

so at the moment we won't be seeing ILaws for christmas it will probably be after i give birth.

thanks for letting me vent

brooksy

[Crazy Monkey]

Hey Brooksy,

Firstly, all the best for the arrival of your little bubs... Its an exciting time for you, so thats what you should be concentrating on...

If I was in your position I wouldn't even be going to the BIL place... If they can't make an effort to visit you, then I wouldn't be visiting them, especially so close... I hardly went to visit my in-laws when I was close to the end and they are only 5 minutes away...

Enjoy your xmas and relax..

[Ana Gram]

Yep, enjoy your Xmas, relax and be thankful you don't have to be around such slefish people before the birth. Spend the time with family who is actually thinking about your needs!

[Brooksy]

I think I'm more upset for dh as he loves seeing his nieces, its just sad that they can't make the effort. But im not going to let IL's get to me this christmas as
we have more important things to concentrate on.

[Supermum]

Hi Brooksy

Not long to go now ... which is your priority right now. Looking after you and bubba.

Having gone through two Christmas Day's pregnant and trying to keep everyone happy, I say to you - look after number one. I'm getting sick to death of society's reticence, and in particular family, not pulling their weight when it comes to helping out mummy's ... expectant or existing. Whatever happened to a sense of community?

I hope you have a wonderfully relaxing and cool Christmas Day.

All the best for a fabulous labour and a healthy and happy mummy and bubba.

[xkwzit]

Hey Look, you've invited them and they decided not to come - it's entirely their problem.

I guess you've invited the BIL separately as well. Did he also turn you down? If he has, post the pressies to your nieces (or donate them to the salvos:D ). If you haven't asked them yet, see if you can hook up for a while either Chirstmas Eve/Day/Boxing Day. Maybe you could meet somewhere central so you don't have to travel very far (who would blame you in this heat)?

But just don't let anyone spoil you precious day with their own selfish decisions.

Cheers

[Milly]

Hi there!

Just want to say that I cam completly relate! We have been caught ina very similar dilemma. I am due in the New Year. I am still trying to figure it all out. Our compromise that was almost perfect has gone somewhat pear shaped too. MIL is still annoyed that we won't come to her place for Xmas an hour away.

[Kaileysmum]

Hi, I know how your feeling, people are funny at christmas time, we are having troubles with my inlaws being selfish too. What can you do though??? There family!

Good luck with your bub, best of luck with the birth...

E:p