i was wondering

[jess_live_die]

i was wondering if you ever look back and wonder what it would be like if you were still with the father/mother of your child/children. i look back and wonder what things would be like if my self and alyvea dad were together what would of happened never diannes coz i know what would have happened then.

[sunnyflower]

no never because the father of my child rarely pays maitenance or see my child and he is five.he is totally useless and i'm so glad i didn't waste a second more on him.

[jess_live_die]

no never because the father of my child rarely pays maitenance or see my child and he is five.he is totally useless and i'm so glad i didn't waste a second more on him.
thats the same as diannes dad but alyveas dad has truned into the best father anyone could ask for lol

[SweetSerenity]

:no: Not anymore because i know what it would be like... I used to.

When we first split, i constantly thought about my ex DH and what things could be like and then we did get back together 5months later and things went back to how they were before hand so i knew it was never going to work. We even did counselling and things didn't work out.

I never think "what would things be like" as we both tried our hardest to make things work last time and they didn't...so i got my closure on that side of things and i'm able to move on alot easier now.

Its been almost 3 months now since we split and to be honest the time has just flown :) Im loving being me again :yes:

[munchkin05]

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Its been almost 3 months now since we split and to be honest the time has just flown :) Im loving being me again :yes: [/COLOR]

i love being just me and my boy not having to worry about anyone else and just doing things that involve me and ben
but i still do miss his father and i often expecially when at parks and that and i see dads and mums playing with their kids
but this is the path he chose to go down and i am slowly getting on with things
theres no use dwelling on the past to much

[immy]

Yes I think about it but to be honest it frightens me. I think of the strange things he does in a supervised access environment then I think about what would happen if we were still together, thankfully we are out of there.
It's hard and sometimes lonely but we are better off.

[Chanelc]

I did at the begining but now I see the ending would of been no different it just would of been more years of hell and we would of split anyway.

Once upon time I considered giving him a third chance but :shame: he aint worth it.

[Dadandtwo]

No, never do and never did from the day she left. Life is so much easier now...only have two kids to look after instead of three. My ex was lazy so my entire existence involved working, having the kids thrown at me as soon as I came home from work and listening to lots of whinging when she actually had to do anything. It's so much better here for the kids now too. Important though not to fall into the same trap with the next person you meet...which lots of people do.

[Pobblebonk]

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

*Runs off screaming*

[oleander]

DD's father left while I was still pregnant so I have never known what it would be like if we were all together as a family. Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like but not in a way where I would want him here, more in a way of me just wondering 'what if'. Kind of like that movie 'Sliding Doors'.

[OneBabyBoy]

lol pobblebonk!!!

I have never had my ex around as a full time dad (he's not even a good part time dad) so to be honest, no not really. I guess i've thought of it but not in a wistful way. It's always just been me and bub I can't imagine if there had been someone else here full time, I'm so used to it just being us lol

[SweetSerenity]

There is such a better life out there, you just have to wait for your prince.

Aww i love that line :D

[Snuffys Mum]

I did a lot in the beginning. Not so much now. My ex did me the biggest favour by leaving me (now, leaving his son is a completely different issue :shame: ). Besides, there wasn't enough room in my marriage for him, me AND his girlfriend so she's welcome to him. :laughing:

[Dadandtwo]

Probably the only thing I think about is what could my kids be thinking. No idea as they are still young, but when we do the 'kids swap' each week, the kids seem to get pretty excited...never sure if it's because they are glad to go from one parent to the other or whether they like seeing us together :) But my kids are very well adjusted, considering, so no drama there. But again, I could never imagine myself with my ex or any woman like her...these days, much pickier :)

[ashleerose]

When i first left my ex, i did but then again i was a complete mess and still thought that i had to make my marriage work........

Now though the thought of it never enters my head.

I couldnt go back to that kind of darkness again and
I wouldnt dream of putting my kids through it.

I only have to look around my house and realise that i have achieved so much more in leaving him not only mentally, physically but also materislisticy.

Its good to know that the kids and I have enough food to live on for a month (should times ever get to tough) rather than starve.

I also enjoy having pay tv and the internet as well as my gym membership and being able to provide my kids with a private school education and setting them a good example of what one can achieve if they only chose to believe in themself.

And so i silently thank my ex, for the journey and of course our two beautiful children that he choses not to see and in a way thats more of a blessing then
most people will ever know.

So dont look backward........... Look forward.
What you want tommorow.......You can have today.
You only have to see it to believe it.......

Gosh i am in a good mood today .........

[SimplyMum]

And so i silently thank my ex, for the journey and of course our two beautiful children that he choses not to see and in a way thats more of a blessing then
most people will ever know.


Couldn't have said it better myself. It's a cliche but you read my mind!

[Issey]

When we first split, i constantly thought about my ex DH and what things could be like and then we did get back together 5months later and things went back to how they were before hand so i knew it was never going to work. We even did counselling and things didn't work out.



ATM we are doing the counselling thing, I got DH to move out. Not sure where it is headed...as haven't had our session together yet. I don't want him back if nothing is going to change.:confused:

[foolish2]

no nver because he left me when i was 3months pregnant,and wasnt even there for the birth and has only seen her 3 times and all times included court apperances so no i dont..

[Chanelc]

I believe things happen the way they are meant to happen.
I think irrespective of the outcome the dads/mums of our children they crossed our paths to give us our beautiful children - no point wondering what could of been we are where we are and can only go forward -
and when reflecting I think if we didn't have those relationship (good or bad) and had sex - we wouldn't all be so blessed to have the angels we have -
Mine is fast asleep and I thank god every day - my mistake (as it wasnt planned pregnancy) happened as I love seeing her smile, laugh and grow into the little person she is.
As for the ex don't regret nor re-live what could of been as it if was meant to be I wouldn't of meet you all or experience what I have... and that I am thankful for.