Nothing is ever good enough

[rtc]

We have been living with my parents until our house is ready and we only have a couple of weeks left but i just have to have a whinge.
Nothing my DF does seems to be good enough to my Dad. He is always having a go at him for something.( not to his face mind you...just to me) This morning my DFs boss called saying they arent working this morning and my dad knew this but when i walked out to the kitchen he says "Speaking of lazy, is he still sleeping?" (it was only 6am) My Df is working 3 jobs at the moment and i work some casual hours but Dad always has something to say. :mad: It really makes me mad!
Anyone else have similar problems?

[V8]

Yes the subtle digs, they really bother me too, my dad says some off-hand flippant comments a lot and wonders why people get so offended. :rolleyes: He's much better now mind you, but he used to be pretty bad.

How much longer till you move out?

BTW just wanted to add we live with my parents too, for at least another 4 months. So i can understand the annoyance!

[sam's mum]

have you told your dad how much it upsets you? He might think he is being funny.

[EskimoMumma]

My FIL is like that. But I just whinge to his wife and then it stops for a few months :D Can you whineg your mum and try it that way?heh

[lachys_mama]

my dps mum makes comments about him like that to me all the time!! and its her own son! he was telling her about his plans to do up his car and she just out of the blue said something along the lines of as if you'll even work on it! i admit sometimes he doesn't get around to doing some stuff because he can't be bothered (usually because he's stuffed from work and he just wants to relax) but if you listened to her you would think he is an unmotivated lazy sloth!!!

[rtc]

we have lived here for 6 months and i havent said anything to him to avoid any conflict. He isnt the easiest to talk to and mum tries not to get involved.
We have 2 weeks until we move out and i really want to leave on a good note.
They have been so helpful with DD but its just so frustrating! i hope it stops when we move.

[Grizabella]

That really sucks Hun! If you want to keep the peace, then just keep this thread open and vent away! That's what we're here for!

Just think 6 months down - 2 weeks to go!!!:smiliedance:

[sam's mum]

I think that sometimes 6 months is easier than 2 weeks. when it is 6 months you tell yourself that you have to put up with it. You get to two weeks and you can see the end of it, soooo close...

hang in there. (now if only had that picture of the little kitty holding onto the tree branch)

[rtc]

Thank you for your replies.
The count down is on...2 very long weeks. ill just have to try and ignore it all.
I feel like im 17 again....well kinda. :rolleyes:

[mum33]

my dad does the same thing... whinges to me about what DP isnt doing for me...:rolleyes:

if i wanted his opinion i'd ask :mad:

i think in a fathers eyes, no man is ever good enough for his little girl

[SassyMummy]

I live with my mother, and she likes to "subtly" bring down DP, and even me.

My mother keeps an immaculate home. She goes to work all day and expects that when she returns, the house will look like nobody has ever lived in it. It's very, very difficult when you have a toddler. Needless to say, she is ALWAYS annoyed with me.

She likes to say things like, "Well, I managed to keep the house very tidy, and I had two kids!" and when DD chucks a tantrum, she likes to add, "You and your brother never did that!" as though I'm a terrible parent, and the only reason DD tantrums is because of my parenting ability.

Sometime I feel like yelling at her when she makes the remarks about what a great parent she was compared to me, and how SHE could keep such a clean house etc. I feel like yelling, "YEAH, and look how happy your life was!" (She was pretty much father's servant for 20 years, before she finally divorced him, and now she's stuck in some dud relationship with a man who strings her along, but won't make any official committments...etc etc).

She also likes to suggest what DP SHOULD be doing in order for us to move out together (DP and I don't live together because he can't live here due to his work - he's share-housing, and we can't move out because of the rent crisis we can't find anywhere...etc etc).

She likes to make comments about him being lazy, despite the fact that he's an apprentice chef, which mean 12+ hour days, never getting weekends off (just two random days per week), $8 an hour...etc etc. No wonder he slacks off when he's not working - all he ever DOES is work!

I can also tell she thinks he should just "get an office job" so that he can earn more money. I guess she's more practical like that... but I think it's good if he can learn something, and in the end, work out to be better off financially, and enjoying his job. We're poor for now, but down hte track we're sure to be better off (with DP's boss, the head chef, earning $150 000 a year!).

[mum2bubba]

My dad is a bit like this not with Grant but with past boyfriends (though I don't know what or if he says anything behind his back though I am sure he doesn;t)

[TeamAwesome]

My MIL used to make sly digs at me such as "when I was pregnant I was digging ditches all day" (as opposed to me choosing to take it easy after a kidney infection and having a bad back pain day), or "what have you done all day today Natalie?" cos even though we'd tidy up say 30 mins before their arrival our DS would have pulled every toy possible out and spread them on a trail through the house to our and his rooms. And my mum used to attempt to make me believe my DH wa splaying up with cos he worked with another trainee I'd never met and they happened to be a female.(didn't work by the way!) Just cos her life was pathetic and she had jealousy issues didn't mean she had to pull him down all the time.
I don't think they always realise they are doing it but the sly digs just seem to hurt more, then the blunt to your face ones.

[chameleon]

I know what you mean. My DH gets it all the time. When we first had DD he got, "you better be working hard to support your family... you need to work longer hours." (Mind you DH works extremely long hours!)

When he got a 3rd job, at night, he got, "you have to get your priorities right... Family is more important than work... You need to spend more time with your family." :rolleyes:

[mum33]

When he got a 3rd job, at night, he got, "you have to get your priorities right... Family is more important than work... You need to spend more time with your family." :rolleyes:

oh my god....i get that too...when DP was having a slow period at work my dad used to whinge about him not working and now he is busy and always working he needs to be home with me :rolleyes: :banghead:

[Tubbychook]

i think in a fathers eyes, no man is ever good enough for his little girl

Spot on sw33tn3ss.

my dad does this all the time too. I have lernt to tell him to lay off him. my dh works 13 days a fortnight and works from 10 to 15 hours a day (night shift) and when we were living with them (yep we did this recently too) he was traveling 50-60 mins each way to work because they lived so far out of town. so by the time he got home he was tired and went straight to bed as he had to be up at 9pm to be at work at 10pm this would happen every day. If you dont want to rock the boat then i would hang in for 2 more weeks and just say something if it continues after you move out then maybe say something. :hugs: it is only 2 weeks after all.

[~rambox~]

When you do leave buy them a thankyou gift for the house that might help :hugs:

[FunkyMonkey]

My MIL is such a trouble maker, she hates me and her eldest sons finance and has no trouble telling me at every opportunity. Snide comments like, "If only I could choose my sons partners, they would be so much happier." and " My eldest was weaned, sleeping through the night, toilet trained, walking, talking and eating with proper cutlery when he was 1, you must be doing something wrong."
I just think to myself how totally deluded she is and ignore all her statements that begin with "It's just a suggestion, but....." I especially liked last nights 'suggestion' of starving TJ to make him eat larger amount of solids. "Don't give him any boob during the day, he'll eat more at dinner." :banghead: Of course he bloody will, you stupid old slag!
Thank god we'll be out of here soon.
Best of luck, and know you're not alone!

[Tracy79]

I know exactly how you feel, my father treats me and my husband like we are the biggest screw ups on the face of the earth. I found out that I am pregnant yesterday after trying for 3 years and I am worried about telling him because I know he is going to act like I murdered a bus full of nuns. I am 28 for goodness sake.

[damien's mum]

Parents can be so hard!!!

I went through something very simliar last year with my mum and dh, and now they are the best of mates!

I really don't have any adivce for you babe, but wanted to send lots of :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[rtc]

I can also tell she thinks he should just "get an office job" so that he can earn more money. I guess she's more practical like that... but I think it's good if he can learn something, and in the end, work out to be better off financially, and enjoying his job. We're poor for now, but down hte track we're sure to be better off (with DP's boss, the head chef, earning $150 000 a year!).

i also get this feeling from my parents. My DF is a jockey so he doesnt have a normal job as such. It has irregular hours and money isnt always the same every week.

mummy to a princess - We get that too. Because DF isnt here much, he doesnt get the time to learn what every cry means and what he should be doing and when. So sometimes i think they look down on him for that.

At least i know that im not alone! Thank you

[lachys_mama]

:banghead: Of course he bloody will, you stupid old slag!
Thank god we'll be out of here soon.
Best of luck, and know you're not alone!


I know he is going to act like I murdered a bus full of nuns. I am 28 for goodness sake.

omg too funny, i mean the situations aren't funny :no: but the way you girls put it gave me a little giggle, believe me i know how you feel... the last bf i had before dp my mum said "why bother being with him he isn't rich" i was like wtf:confused: needless to say i paid no attention to her!

[melfunction]

Anyone else have similar problems?

OMG yes...and here is my father thinking he is the greatest father in the world :rolleyes:

F would always have a dig at my Dh, because he didn't play rugby, drink to excess, was too soft on me :ecomcity::ecomcity::ecomcity:
Telling me he thought Dh must be gay was the last straw even though he said he was teasing. It just showed me (once again) the lack of respect F has for me and my choices. I told F to give it a break or he'll never be welcome anywhere near us again, including my child.

So far, it has worked and F knows I won't tolerate anymore of his cr@p.