berkshirethaway
19-03-2007, 17:57
Hi all,
I am new to bubhub. My girl is 20mths old and I am 28yrs old. Like other ordinary woman/mum, I too have my own sets of problems and pains. However, after reading all the thread postings, I am encouraged to know that I am not alone in this world, facing all sorts of battles. All my pains have became hardly visible in my mind and I wish to thank all of u for sharing your hearts out here. As u have encourage someone unknowingly by sharing here. And for this, pls know that u are not alone in this world going though wat u are going thru now. :)
when I look back at the painful breakup of the relationship I was in before my marriage, I can see that the suffering and subsequent growth I went through was exactly what I needed to prepare me for a more mature and lasting relationship later on -- although I certainly didn't know it at the time. The pain forced me to grow. I faced my fear of living alone. I got my butt into therapy to work on my fear of being left behind. And I developed self-respect. I learned to treat myself better, which in turn, naturally raised my standards for how I would allow others to treat me in the future.
For example, is there something going on in your life right now -- a breakup, a problem at work, the slow growth of your business, or the chronic stress of trying to find time for your life -- that might be attempting to prepare you for what's next? Think about it. What if your current challenge is a call to action -- the kind of action that will prepare you for the next phase of your life? What are you being invited to learn? What qualities of character are trying to be strengthened or developed?
As I've dealt with my own challenges over the last several months, the belief of "disappointment or suffering as preparation" is something I hold onto as a reminder that we are never alone, that there is a purpose to our suffering and pain, and that when we get to the other side, a great opportunity to use what we've learned in service to ourselves and others awaits. Take heart. Every day, in some way, we're all being prepared for something better . . .hope this helps anyone out there. :hugs:
I am new to bubhub. My girl is 20mths old and I am 28yrs old. Like other ordinary woman/mum, I too have my own sets of problems and pains. However, after reading all the thread postings, I am encouraged to know that I am not alone in this world, facing all sorts of battles. All my pains have became hardly visible in my mind and I wish to thank all of u for sharing your hearts out here. As u have encourage someone unknowingly by sharing here. And for this, pls know that u are not alone in this world going though wat u are going thru now. :)
when I look back at the painful breakup of the relationship I was in before my marriage, I can see that the suffering and subsequent growth I went through was exactly what I needed to prepare me for a more mature and lasting relationship later on -- although I certainly didn't know it at the time. The pain forced me to grow. I faced my fear of living alone. I got my butt into therapy to work on my fear of being left behind. And I developed self-respect. I learned to treat myself better, which in turn, naturally raised my standards for how I would allow others to treat me in the future.
For example, is there something going on in your life right now -- a breakup, a problem at work, the slow growth of your business, or the chronic stress of trying to find time for your life -- that might be attempting to prepare you for what's next? Think about it. What if your current challenge is a call to action -- the kind of action that will prepare you for the next phase of your life? What are you being invited to learn? What qualities of character are trying to be strengthened or developed?
As I've dealt with my own challenges over the last several months, the belief of "disappointment or suffering as preparation" is something I hold onto as a reminder that we are never alone, that there is a purpose to our suffering and pain, and that when we get to the other side, a great opportunity to use what we've learned in service to ourselves and others awaits. Take heart. Every day, in some way, we're all being prepared for something better . . .hope this helps anyone out there. :hugs: