Gift for ex-H

[ChristineM]

My ex and I get on, don't fight etc and as our kids are all teens I leave them to work out their own relationship with their dad so don't have visiting issues etc to deal with.
My problem is that MY mum has bought my ex a Christmas present this year :confused:
We have been divorced for 4 years, they always got on and still run into each other in social circles sometimes which I don't have a problem with.
We split up because of an ongoing gambling problem he has that put us into financial ruin. After 16 years I basically lost all respect for him and consequently fell out of love with him.
I have a wonderful new partner and we have an 8mth old daugter. What I'm trying to say is my kids & I have a new life.
My ex is part of my first 3 kids family but he is no longer part of mine.
I feel really upset and angry that my mum still wants to treat him as part of her family. I just don't understand.
What do you think?

[brooke]

I can see why you would be upset with your mum for buying a present!
It would seem a little bit odd...
But you do have to remember that he was also a part of her life for 16yrs (which is a very long time) and will always be a part of her grandchildrens lives forever!

It would be very hard for her to just pretend like he no longer existed!
As long as she doesnt start inviting him around for xmas lunch or something then I wouldnt be too worried.

Good luck and have a fantastic xmas

[razzle]

My mum wanted to send my exH a Christmas gift and card when we first separated (before the divorce) and I was horrified and told her not too. I asked why on earth she would want to continue a relationship with someone who hurt me so much. After she thought about it for a minute she agreed, and my family and I cut all ties with him and his family.

Of course your situation is slightly different in that you were married longer and have children, but I would think that the thought is still the same.

[ChristineM]

Thanks for the feedback, I appreciate it. It just hurts me that my mum would make this gesture after 4 years of divorce and her knowing the situation so well. I don't have a problem with any of my family being friendly with him but I do have a problem that she still wants to treat him as part of our family, because he is not. Anyway, I am going to talk to her about it and tell her how I feel and then it's up to her.
Thanks again, it's great being able to bounce things off all you wise women here! :D