Is it rude?

[*Chels*]

To not have bombannaires?
I know they are suppose to be a thank-you to your guests,but surely putting on a $6000 reception with free food and alcohol is enough of a thank-you?

[Jinglebells]

no its not, I never had them, and I know of a few others that havn't either, people are there to celebrate the day with ya, rather than just for the chocs and stuff

[Aquamarine]

All I gave my guests at the wedding was a free candle at the church!

I had 250 people at mine so there was no way I was giving out any expensive gifts to everyone!

You just do what you want to, it's your wedding:thumbsup:

[Chumps]

No it's not rude!

Do what you want - there are no rules when it comes to weddings :thumbsup: .

[Littletreasures]

hmmmm i don't think its rude not to have them but for my wedding we will have them more as a special something for the guest to take home and remember the day.....i found some really cheap ones on the net and they doubled as name holders as well they worked out to be about 50c-$1.00 each and they look fab

but if you don't want them or cant afford them then don't worry im sure people really wont mind

[Ruby Slippers]

don't bother with them , my family helped me with them it took forever and then there were so many left on the tables after the reception what a waste :thumbsdown: .

[*Chels*]

Thanks guys!
I sound like a cheap B!tch,but seriously all the costs mount up so quickly!
I think instead of doing bombannaires,I will just send out thank you cards with some photos and maybe a CD of the wedding songs.

[Mamaduke]

It's a European tradition which companies here have grabbed onto and sold as a 'must for weddings' because they can make money out of them.
We didn't have them - the only weddings I've been to that have had them were Italian/Greek weddings.

[oleander]

I don't think it's rude although I did have them at mine only because it was an Italian and Greek wedding and it's expected:rolleyes:

[~rambox~]

I dont think it is rude at all

[ButterflyMama]

I don't think it's rude however I think it is a nice touch that people really value..

[SassyMummy]

I don't think it's rude, but if you're worried your guests will find it rude, you could always MAKE them all something very simple and cheap.

Write down a list of your 10 fave tunes (related to some of the music to be played at your wedding or yout Top 10 Love Songs), then make a CD for your guests featuring those songs. Print off a little cover, with a photo of both you and your DH/DF and give that as a gift.

It's cheap and easy.

[Mum&bubs]

I don't think it's rude at all. All I am giving my guests are a CD with all our wedding music on it and a photo of Karl & I in the cover :D

ETA- Didn't see Sassymummys post, lol thats the idea I'm talking of ;)

[WeloveHarriet]

We chose to combine the bombonierre along with the place card and so chose a little photoframe (from Woollies) in which I made a little card with the person's name along with a thank you message from us. I think that they cost me around $1.50 per person then when we sent our thank-you's out we included a tiny wedding photo (which I printed at home) to put in the frame.

[SorenLorensen]

I love getting them......but i never do anything with them. so no i dont think it is rude to have them, if you dont say anything most people wont even notice anyway

[Aquamarine]

I don't think it's rude, but if you're worried your guests will find it rude, you could always MAKE them all something very simple and cheap.

Write down a list of your 10 fave tunes (related to some of the music to be played at your wedding or yout Top 10 Love Songs), then make a CD for your guests featuring those songs. Print off a little cover, with a photo of both you and your DH/DF and give that as a gift.

It's cheap and easy.

That is an awesome idea. I will remember that one for future parties/celebrations etc.:thumbsup:

[cheezelkat]

My favourite one ever was 4 lindt balls (brought in bulk) in a minature box. Very cute! (and yummy). But I wouldn't say it was a necessity.

[mum2bubba]

I don't think its rude, you could give little gifts a week or so after to say 'thanks for coming to the wedding' and write a nice thankyou card/note with them, it doesn't have to be anything really expensive either, maybe a framed photo of you and your partner as bride and groom or something like that.

[Cupcake]

Nah Chels it will be cool.

I kinda had them, I hired martini glasses & filled them with candy(I spent $500 on candy :eek: )peppermint creams,smarties,all the Allen's lollies & I had a heart on a stick in each glass with peoples name on them, the glasses where empty before we entered the room :laughing: & at the end we poured all the centre pieces (vases full of the same candy)back into a huge container & put them in clear bags with a ribbon & placed them at the door for people to grab on there way out.

U can do what ya like really :thumbsup: it's all about you :D

[Mahjong]

Dont stress hunny, Im sure that everyone that is attending is not there for the gifts you are giving THEM at the end, but to see you as a beautiful bride, Mark a handsome chap and your little man (and an absolute CUTEY) Riley start a new chapter in your life.

[misskittyfantastico]

Don't stress. We had licorice allsorts in a bag with a hand written thankyou note for ours. I did have a few very elderly Italian relatives who I bought special things for:D (they didn't come to the wedding but it's big time tradition)

[Bewitched]

I don't think its rude at all.

Hubby and i made our guests a wedding cd, we barely spent anything just by burning tonnes of copying and putting our wedding pic on the cover of the cd saying thankyou for attending our special day. The cd had our ten fave songs on :)

[shed]

I'm not a huge fan of the ole bomboniere, I think its some newfangled thing that seems to be catching on and getting more and more ridiculous. I don't remember them when I was a kid, back in NZ, maybe its more of an aussie thing? who knows?

I think they are....um...not sure if the word is "weird" just really unnecessary and a bit lame.

that said, my cousin has offered to make my bombonieres, she actually offered this when I first told her I was getting married, so obviously some people hold great stock in their value.

So I said she could do what she liked.

[aardvark]

It's a European tradition which companies here have grabbed onto and sold as a 'must for weddings' because they can make money out of them.
We didn't have them - the only weddings I've been to that have had them were Italian/Greek weddings.

That's what I think of them. My grandmother went to a lot of weddings, and ended up with heaps of knick knacks as a result. When she died, they were all sitting covered in dust in the cupboard - if that is representative of what happens with them, I'd save my money.

We didn't have them at our wedding. It's a easy place to cut costs without affecting the quality of the event.

[Bubble*Crazy]

Thanks guys!
I sound like a cheap B!tch,but seriously all the costs mount up so quickly!
I think instead of doing bombannaires,I will just send out thank you cards with some photos and maybe a CD of the wedding songs.

That'd be such a lovely, thank you gift!

[hellsbells]

I had them at mine, but wasn't going to due to them being so fiddly and time consuming to put together. But I found them ready made on the net with the 5 almonds in tulle with ribbon & flower, you pick your colours and was only $1.30 ea delivered. Only gave them to the female guests. heartsandthemes was the place.

As Mammaduke said, it's a European custom. It's become commercialised and people feel pressured to have them, and yes, the cost can blow out very easily and guests may not even notice them.

[MonkeyMum05]

Chel, I don't think it would be rude at all.