View Full Version : My FIL is a tight a**!!!!
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 15:10
Hey everyone,
My FIL is a really big Tight A**!!!
Today he calls us up and says he needs to come over and give O a present.
So we say yeah sure come over after his sleep, no problems.
He gets here and hands me a Target voucher for...........wait for it.........$5 :eek:
What the????????
Dont get me wrong I dont expect FIL to bring O anything, a visit with his grand father is enough of a present but I am just astounded at how cheap he is :mad:
I could tell you a million stories of times when he has been just plain stingy and it annoys me coz he is very well off and O is his only grand child.
Where as my parents are not well off and have four kids plus two grand kids to help out and they bend over back wards to help us. They would give us the shirts off their backs! But my FIL is soooo not like that and it amazes me!
I can not understand what would posses my FIL to give us a $5 voucher?????
Sorry just need to vent, do you know any Tight A**es LOL??????
Yes, my Aunty. When we were kids my mum always said to her not to buy Xmas presents as money was tight. But my Aunty always had to buy us a $5 Woolworthes voucher. I think she was trying to say something, I'm not sure. I guess we didn't mind it too much, we would go and get $5 worth of lollies, but it was a weird gift.
oh hon!!!
((hugs)) - really just a card would have been better!!!!! :rolleyes:
did you say - well thanks... that will buy him at LEAST 10 disposable nappies!!! :D
did you ask him why??? what it was for??
sorry to make the situation worse... but did someone give HIM the voucher?? and he thought that O might like it more??? (it made me think of the re-wrapping thread!!)
aren't families funny..??!!! and you dont get to choose them....
((hugs to you and O))
xxx
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 15:20
Jenny- I thought the exact same thing, I bet he got it in a show bag or something (he gets them through his work) and just thought "what can I buy with $5 Ill just give it to O"!!!!
Yeah I could understand if FIL wasnt loaded LOL he owns two houses and rakes in over 100k a year!
DH thought it said a $50 voucher but when he saw $5 he just shook his head.
I often joke that yes FIL is well off but only becoz his so tight :D
When O was born we went shopping with him and bought about $300 worth of nappies and other useful stuff. FIL offered to buy something and we said "that would be really helpful" well FIL pulls out $10 note and says "here what can I get him" I said "um baby wipes?" coz what else can you get for $10 LOL :rolleyes:
He put the $10 back in his wallet and said "oh no I meant what toy could I get him" HELLO he was 3 days old :eek:
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 16:12
See now I just feel bad TF :o
Here I am b****ing about a voucher for $5 and some people would love $5 to buy a meal with...............Im a very self centered selfish person!
Will pay it forward and keep my B****y thoughts to myself.
Sarah
oh KB I see you are getting dangerously close to your 2000th post! :eek: Are we going to have another little game of hide and seek to commemorate the occasion? :p
Hey Sarah.. I know what you mean. It feels bad to be ungrateful but at the same time, it's like hardly worth the petrol to drive to the shop for a $5 voucher. :rolleyes: KB's idea is a good one I think.
You guys are so funny. :rolleyes:
Just some messages:
KB: Only 2 more posts to go. Don't waste them. :rolleyes:
I've emailed you.
Sarah: Yes, you are a very selfish woman. But compared to me, your an angel. ;)
Gees your quick you got to 2000 before I even finished my post. :rolleyes:
She's on fire today Happy Rady. I think she's got her head down and just ploughing through trying not to think about it. ;)
Har har ......
I'm sorry but I have the best one.
My nana.
She would buy one of those Fun Size mars bars - like you get in the 12 packs - and would proceed to divide it up between seven or eight of us grandkids ......!?! :eek:
Yes, who was that?
Very strange................ :rolleyes:
Hey, it's all for the good of the environment. ;)
Big W: At least your nana gave you stuff, mines a sour old thing and gives us nothing but dirty looks. :(
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 18:35
TF totally know what you mean about paying it forward (remember we share one brain, which can be a bit tricky at times :D hehehe)
Poor E what a mean old grandma you have!
I only have one, well one alive LOL the others in Heaven :) Love ya Nana Mavis (thats the german granny who died before I was even thought of!)
Any way back to the one thats alive, shes wonderful so spunky and full of life I have always looked up to her and cherished her words of wisdom :)
I think I've missed something here............what's with the TF thing???
Or is that some sort of secret thing that I don't know about?? :rolleyes:
Come on tell me!!!!!
Actually now with my new status I can read your thoughts.
Heheheheheheheheheheheheheheh..............
Just give me a minute. :rolleyes:
There's always a conspiracy theory huh KB???
I'll never tell. :p
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 18:58
Thanks for reminding me your a mod E I keep forgeting.
Is that why your PMs have been so tame lately ;)
Hey, what's that supposed to mean KB???
My boring PM have occupied you quite sufficiently on many boring nights.
Sarah: They've never been anything but tame. ;)
Peaceangels
11-12-2005, 19:06
Coming into this one a bit late (my usual fashion), but I can see where you are coming from S.
It's not really about the dollar value or the fact that it is a gift, just a bit confusing :confused:
I'm sure O would get more happiness from an afternoon in the park with his grandfather (and mum and dad could have a some quality time together) - now that's a nice gift!
Can't think of an appropriate limerick?? :rolleyes:
Deranged sums it up pretty well though.
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:07
Oh here she goes again :eek: my threads going to turn into one of KB's crazy rants!!!! hehehehe :D
Yes, I think peaceangels tried to bring some order back but now she's gone. :p
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:09
Thank goodness your here Ness, the voice of reason and sanity and peace lol :)
Where have you been hiding lately Ness??????
Yes, my ..................KB.
:rolleyes:
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:10
What does that mean E??????
Yes my KB????????
$5!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You can not be serious! :eek:
I didnt even know thhat you could buy them for only $5!
What is the point! He would have been better of giving him nothing!
Seriously some people just have no idea!
Gotta love inlaws dont you! :rolleyes:
Peaceangels
11-12-2005, 19:12
I'm still here don't worry!
Now where are we up to, I'm having trouble keeping up!! :D
Your little light is off Peaceangels................maybe you need a new lightbulb??
I was trying to be good but I meant "my a** KB".
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:14
here here for Brooke! The voice of reason and sanity and peace LOL didnt I just say that?????? :D
Yes :)
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:15
So now your posting in codes?????
E you have to keep me updated on this stuff other wise Cool E and the gang will just be Cool E without a gang and thats not so cool :cool: LOL :D
hehehehehe I made myself LOL :p
Peaceangels
11-12-2005, 19:15
Your little light is off Peaceangels................maybe you need a new lightbulb??
huh? Sorry I'm a little tired, but I don't follow??.......................
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:18
I will fill you in Ness, no codes needed LOL basically E has an intruder alert which goes off everytime someone she actually likes logs on...............get it now :)
LOL Sarah....
No, the little dot next to your username is blue (not here), if you are here it should be green.
Oh and the intruder alert too. ;)
Well, my in-laws are a bit funny about giving presents. They can be generous with their help, if not steamrollers with it (they take you over), but when it comes to gifts, my MIL has issues with them. She always has an opinion about them or makes a big deal about giving a gift or not giving a gift. She will even tell her relatives/family not to bring one for a function or the like that you may be having if she feels that you may have already have recieved too much (in her opinion). You know that when you receive one it is through gritted teeth. I don't mind if she is not into gift giving as I know some people are not big on it anyway, and prefer to do other things, but it is the attitude of her gift giving (or not giving) that gets me. You can tell that she hates it.
I did hear a funny one the other day on the promo for the show "Grumpy Old Ladies Christmas Special" on the ABC about a MIL who gave her DIL a used soap on a rope for Christmas. There is worse out there :D
Peaceangels
11-12-2005, 19:24
Hey, I don't remember my light having ever been green :confused:
Am I a "claytons" bubhubber? - here but not really here! :D
What does a red light mean????????????
Hey, you can be here in secret.
When no one thinks your around you can sneak up on them. ;)
Red light??? :confused:
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:28
OMG are you truly an angel sent to bubhub to help bring peace into our lives???????
OMG now Im ranting like TF :eek:
Milly OMG OMG OMG :eek: hehehehe what's with your MIL?????? :D
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:29
Red light means you've been banned for giving rotten advice and telling lame jokes ...................TF be warned that includes bad poetry!!!!
What's this TF thing?? :mad:
Peaceangels
11-12-2005, 19:32
Red light means you've been banned for giving rotten advice and telling lame jokes ...................TF be warned that includes bad poetry!!!!
Now I'm really worried :eek:
What colour is my light to you guys or is there no light at all.
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:33
I would call it slate grey but some may argue with me :)
What colour is it on your screen???
Milly OMG OMG OMG :eek: hehehehe what's with your MIL?????? :D
She is a true character! :D She is almost amusing actually with what she comes up with. :D She has my friends amused too. She is a bit out there. LOL
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:35
What's this TF thing?? :mad:
Sorry this is strictly confidential info that can not be passed on to any MODS
sorry about that :( ....................... :)
Peaceangels
11-12-2005, 19:36
It's..................it's........................ red..................... :eek: ................ :o
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:37
Milly your MIL sounds alot like the one off Everybody loves Raymond............is that ringing any bells :D
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:38
No No No say it isnt sooooo Ness it cant be red please say your joking :eek:
Peaceangels
11-12-2005, 19:40
Actually I am deadly serious S...............what colour is yours to you?
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:41
Hmmm thats better :)
I knew that would pull you into line TF :p
E your still the leader of the pack................even if you no longer know all our secrets :D
I would of said, "OMG thank you sooo much, but I just can't accept this amount of money, it's not enough to buy anything" :D
Yep if you can't use it pass it on someone could buy some cheap sherry with it :D
LOL - just dropped in to catch up on threads... and I have to say that you guys are loooney!!!!! :D
please continue... you are providing interesting reading :p
xxx
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:43
Actually I am deadly serious S...............what colour is yours to you?
Everbody is green, their light I mean :D
Why is yours really red? Why is it red? E help Ness shes got a read light! Your a MOD do something :confused:
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:44
I would of said, "OMG thank you sooo much, but I just can't accept this amount of money, it's not enough to buy anything" :D
Yep if you can't use it pass it on someone could buy some cheap sherry with it :D
Hmm yes I know a few cheap drunks LOL maybe I could use it after all ;)
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:46
LOL - just dropped in to catch up on threads... and I have to say that you guys are loooney!!!!! :D
please continue... you are providing interesting reading :p
xxx
Join in Jen, let the stress of motherhood wash over you and drive every sane thought from your mind........................hmmm doesnt that feel good :D
dam if I wasn't pregnant I would of given you my postal addy :p
Sorry had to have dinner....
I have no idea about the red light thing. How come it's red to you but blue to us???
Maybe it's because you are the specialist person of them all. ;)
Peaceangels
11-12-2005, 19:50
Everbody is green, their light I mean :D
Why is yours really red? Why is it red? E help Ness shes got a read light! Your a MOD do something :confused:
Nice to know somone care's of my plight in this mad, mad world of bubhub land....
Peaceangels
11-12-2005, 19:51
Sorry had to have dinner....
I have no idea about the red light thing. How come it's red to you but blue to us???
Maybe it's because you are the specialist person of them all. ;)
ROFL - Thanks for the compliment, but I seriously doubt it!
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:53
Maybe your the chosen one Ness...............to lead us beyond Thunder Dome :eek:
We dont need another Hero...........we just need to know the way home!!!!
:D :p :)
Is there something that has been changed in you settings?? :confused:
I really have no idea.
Maybe one of the wise ones would know??
Where's Draught when you need her?? :rolleyes:
yep the lights are off peaceangels, but it appears someone is home, saving on the electricity eh :D
Ana Gram
11-12-2005, 19:55
Know exactly how you feel. For me it isn't about the price of the present but the thought that went into the present. I don't care if you got it from the bargin bin at the $2 Shop, if you took the time to think about me and what I might like as a gift that makes me feel special.
My partner's father gave us a $100 gift voucher when DD was born. Ok, generous, not exactly thoughtful. Until we found out that they has received it for Xmas from someone else. That really annoyed me. We never get birthday or Xmas presents, just cash which only ever gets spent on bills. This year we aren't even getting cash. They are moving to a smaller house and need to get rid of somethings. So we are getting his mother's old bed which she died in for our DD to sleep in. Um I don't think so!
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 19:56
Wheres Veve gone???
Shes left us to our madness...............are you there Jen? can your hear us?
They are moving to a smaller house and need to get rid of somethings. So we are getting his mother's old bed which she died in for our DD to sleep in. Um I don't think so!
OMG Chelle!!! That is just weird. :eek:
I think KB has gone!!! :eek:
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 20:00
Its sick thats what it is :eek:
Are you truly going to except such a "Gift"???????
My dad gives us all cash for birthdays and chrissy etc he has since we were 18 or so. He just hates buying gifts and know we could use the extra money, I used to think it was thought less but now we need the extra $ I really dont care :eek:
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 20:02
I think KB has gone!!! :eek:
Do you think it was something I said????
TF where are you?????????????????
:( x 10
No, just heard from her. I should know by now she's always around here somewhere. :rolleyes:
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 20:06
well if you heard from her then it must be something I said :eek:
Who actually takes care of their child around here??
You are really responsible KB. ;)
Mine was asleep 3 hours ago, thank god!!!! ;)
Hence all the noise I've been making around here. :rolleyes:
Will probably be in bed very shortly though.
Nice and cosy tonight with fresh sheets.
I love fresh sheets. Only get that luxury once a week. :)
nemosmum
11-12-2005, 20:22
Nighty night all :)
hmm ya I would have to say the $5 is waaaayyyyyyy better than a bed that someone has passed away in :eek:
Yes TF I agree. :p
I would have the $5 any day!!!!
Well off to bed.
Nighty night all my pretties. :)
Chellegoth that is shocking :eek: there is no way I would sleep in it let alone my child, just so creepy...I'd take the $5 anyday. As for the $5 voucher, I guess you just expect a bit more effort from the FIL as its his only grandchild...
Wheres Veve gone???
Shes left us to our madness...............are you there Jen? can your hear us?
sorry hon :) screaming baby to feed....
I'm back now - for two minutes before I have to sleep!!!!!
((hugs))
xx
Ana Gram
11-12-2005, 22:31
Yep not all that happy about the whole bed think. We are letting them drop it off and then it is either going to charity or the tip without them ever knowing.
Ever noticed how the well off are always really stingy and the poor are always really generous?? You just have to look at who has more fun and see whos really 'better off'!
the bed thing is ewwwey.... I've never been a fan of handing down beds
on brainiac tonight where they got a couple to use a bed for a week- within that week they had sweated a large beaker of sweat into the mattress!!! in a WEEK!!!!
as I said.... ewww
xxx
Jadesmum
11-12-2005, 22:47
Yeah, that's why they're so wealthy because they're such bloody tight asses!!! I've got a really wealthy uncle that doesn't even help his own kids out who are all struggling and the funny thing is he is really miserable!!
My olds have never had much but they would give you the shirt off there bloody backs. Mum saved every week for about five years to take us kids to disneyland when we were kids!!!! Worked two jobs to do it too. '
yeah, well i think a five dollar voucher is a bloody insult. Someone else said, just a card would have even been better. Let's hope he pitches up with something better on Christmas!!!
Chell u poor thing, the bed thing, that's very unusual. Even if she hadn't passed away in it, i'm still not a fan of second hand beds - uuuugggghhhhhh!
reAllytee
11-12-2005, 23:58
Well i will never out do the bed thing .... :eek: thats just plain yuck !
But my MIL always give me "gifts" at Christmas or my birthday of gifts she obviously got throughout the years she doesnt want. One year part of my Christmas gift was an Avon perfume which they dont even make anymore WTH !!!!!!! Oh & last year i got this pencil case thing which i was like "oh great thanx" trying not to laugh but my partner was like " WTF is that ??!?!?!?!??! why does she need a pencil case ????" and her response was " well it might come in handy " again i was trying not to laugh ive learnt to just always take unwrapping my presents with her as a comedy .. just laugh !!
They also havent bought anything for bubs since his birth & the only reason they bought what they did before hand was to keep up with my mum ! My mum got the pram for us so she was like oh we will get you a cot yet whinged over the expensive ones so i chose a cheaper one to get " well this is a bit cheap & nasty isnt it ! " gggrrrrr. Then because my sister got a whole heap of newborn clothing which she found out about she went & bought a jumpsuit ... ONE jumpsuit which cost $8 & a pair of booties, ok now dont get me wrong im not asking to be showered in gifts but they know we are doing things tough & they dont even offer to buy a box of nappies yet my family have pretty much helped clothe him & will just drop by with a box of nappies when saying "hi" & yet my in-laws are more wealthy etc are always going on holidays overseas etc yet its hard to buy something for their grandson. Which i dont get considering the running joke with my partner & i is that she seems to think she gave birth to him !!!!!
AlbertaJes
12-12-2005, 03:53
Oh gosh. Sounds like my MIL would be in good company.
First off, she can't for the life of her remember my DH's birthday. (You gave birth to him, woman, why can't you remember?!) So the one birthday we spent with them, we happened to be spending a week at their house, and MIL& i went to the store & I made mention of needing to get something for DH's birthday. So she runs to get a card. And then brings it home and scavenges for a gift.
He got:
- Canadian Tire money (vouchers given out at the till worth 10% of what you purchased) But only 60 cents worth of Canadian Tire money...
- a coupon from a fund raiser chocolate bar. Not even the chocolate, just the coupon that comes on the wrapper.
- and one pair of socks out of a 6-pack that she had purchased for FIL.
I was astounded.
Then at Christmas last year, DH, his brother, and their sister's husband all got the same gift. A teeny little computer cord holder. Apparently you're supposed to wrap the computer cord around it and it keeps it out of the way. Well, DH's brother doesn't even own a computer, much less need one of those things. We were looking through a knick-knack catalogue a couple of weeks later and found that those cord keepers come in a 3 pack... She split it open and gave them each one. :eek:
Oh yes, and the Christmas before we got married, we had stayed at their house and noticed that they needed decent pillows and kitchen knives... So we bought them some for Christmas... Well, guess what we got for wedding presents! The set of knives and ONE pillow. unbelievable.
nemosmum
12-12-2005, 05:30
OMG where do these people come from :eek: I was always taught to be generous with what ever I had LOL I mean come on a pair of socks from a six pack and the pencil case!!!!
Even when this year we dont have alot of money to splash around I have bought these lovely gold noddle boxes and put beautiful ribbon on them and am making some chocolate fudge chrissy cookies to go inside them for everyone in our families. I know its not much but its a thoughtful yummy gift and thats what matters right!
I just have to say one more time OMG :eek:
Oh and E just for future reference- you cant use the term TF, sorry its a private in house joke ;)
Feel free to Pm me E if you have any other questions :)
Oh, sorry TF, didn't realise. :p
So TF looking forward to a wonderful day at work I'm sure. :)
Have a good one! ;)
They also havent bought anything for bubs since his birth & the only reason they bought what they did before hand was to keep up with my mum ! My mum got the pram for us so she was like oh we will get you a cot yet whinged over the expensive ones so i chose a cheaper one to get " well this is a bit cheap & nasty isnt it ! " gggrrrrr. Then because my sister got a whole heap of newborn clothing which she found out about she went & bought a jumpsuit ... ONE jumpsuit which cost $8 & a pair of booties, ok now dont get me wrong im not asking to be showered in gifts but they know we are doing things tough & they dont even offer to buy a box of nappies yet my family have pretty much helped clothe him & will just drop by with a box of nappies when saying "hi" & yet my in-laws are more wealthy etc are always going on holidays overseas etc yet its hard to buy something for their grandson. Which i dont get considering the running joke with my partner & i is that she seems to think she gave birth to him !!!!!
We must have te same MIL :D Only she also goes on about all the gifts we have recieved from other people and how our daughter has 'so much' therefore, she contibutes diddly. They never got us anything for our daughter either and the clothes she made (reluctantly) were out of the fabric I bought and supplied. Gotta love em! :D
reAllytee
13-12-2005, 00:01
orlandosmum - But i need a pencil case whats girl doesnt !!!!! :p
But yeah we also dont have much to spend on gifts so my partner has taken some great water & bushland views as well as plants & trees over the last year ( he loves photography ) so we got some prints made up & went to a cheap shop & invested in plain black frames which suit the pics & TA-DA !!!! pressies ! so all up its cost us around $10 per piccie & it looks like its worth at least $50 ! awesome ! hehe.
Milly - Yep pretty sad hey oh wells i guess we cant fault em on one thing they had our wonderful partners right hehehehehe :D
Milly - Yep pretty sad hey oh wells i guess we cant fault em on one thing they had our wonderful partners right hehehehehe :D
Yep, that is the amazing thing. Somewhere out of those personality quirks they produced nice young men. :D
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