Here is an interesting question

[catalicious]

Ok you know how at most weddings now there is a wishing well...

And its normally because you already live togther...

Well what about when you BUY your first home ( i got told you can only ave a house warming party when you actually buy the house) people bring presents then...

But you normally have lived out of home right...

So could you hav like a wishing money well thing there...????

I mean the money then could be put in the best possiblle place, back on the house...

What do you think??

[Lunar]

I don't think it is right, JMO, but I don't think having a house warming party is about presents:no: . It is about welcoming ppl into your home, inviting them to share the excitement of something that is yours!(well going to be anyway... onnce its paid off:rolleyes: ) NOT about gifts.

Its all about PRESENCE, NOT presents....:thumbsup:

Its a special time in ones life, moving, but I don't think asking ppl do give money is right. I would be horrified if a member of my family did this and I'd prob only give them $5...lol, cos that's all I can afford...lol

Hope you get what I mean babe.....?

[catalicious]

Oh no i get what you mean and I would never ever as my family for moolah or my friends.....

But I know that generally when you go to a house warming party people bring things....

I wouldnt have on id just had a few people over here and there...

i was just thinking about it today as a friend just bought a first house and she said when sje moves in in 2 weeks that this is what she will bw doing this was her justification...

[Lunar]

oh no!:no:
I think it is very... ummm, what's the word.... prosumptuous??? I dunno, i'm blonde today:rolleyes: :laughing:

I just know I would never do that. Even for a wedding, I wouldn't do it. It just seems a lil selfish??? (I can't find the words tonight...)
even rude.

[CandyJane]

I don't think its rude at a wedding, but I do think it is at a housewarming. Especially if the money is used to pay the mortgage. IF I gave someone a housewarming gift of money, I would expect that they would buy something for their house with it. I would be really annoyed if they used it to pay off their mortgage.

Also, with weddings, it is pretty much expected that you give a gift, with housewarmings I think it is optional. For a wedding I would usually give about $100, so that does make a dent in a honeymoon, etc. For a housewarming, to a couple that already had everything they needed, I would just give a bottle of wine or something. $15 ain't gonna go far on a mortgage ;)

[Tubbychook]

I think its ok for a wedding we did this as we had lived together for 2 years before we married and we really needed a new bed ours was borrowed and very very old. We found a little pome and put in with the invites. Alot of people were really glad to give money it saved them trying to work out what to buy.

But the house warming is a big no no :shame: Ive had house warmings but never expected gifts they have only ever been an excuse to show off the house and have a bbq and a few drinks I think the only present that should be given is maybe a plant.

[2boysmama]

If I had a housewarming party I wouldn't want people to bring presents and I think it's rude/lazy to give people money for presents anyway.

Why I wouldn't want people to bring presents is because you can bet any money you'll get something you just can't stand or that is not your style etc and every time that person visits they wonder where it is etc etc.

Know what I mean?

I would give a housewarming party though to "Christen" the house, welcome friends etc
:)

[kiah]

Oh dear. I hope u don't need to take presents coz i hve two housewarmings this weekend and I was just taking a salad to one and a bottle of red (basically for me, but i might share) to the other.:D

[katherine]

it would be heard, because with money people are able to see the amount you are "spending" one them. so do you give what you can afford, and feel like you are being stingey, or they think you are poor... or do you give heaps and put yourelf out of pocket slightly....

where as presents, i find are more thought, and you can hide the cost of it :)

(althought saying all that, we had a wishing well at our wedding, and for our second baby shower)