Message for Kirstlea

[ouchies]

Sorry I didn't see your post before you closed it. Here is an amazing story I think you should read:

http://www.plus-size-pregnancy.org/CSANDVBAC/shouldbegrateful.htm

Give it to anyone who says you should be grateful, they will soon realise just how much those words hurt you, and how cruel they really are.

I know it is easy for me to say, but do not regret what they have done. I know your recovery from major surgery was difficult, but a "natural" delivery isn't always the best thing.

I didn't have a CS, so I don't know how hard it is. I do know that a so called natural birth can also be a disaster as it was for me. My son is now a year old, and I am still in a lot of pain and unable to return to a normal life. I gave birth to my son, but I didn't experience the thrill that other mothers have described to me either. Like you, I feel that I was robbed of something that should have been a very positive, beautiful memory. My son was in a bad position, and I was later told it was a harder delivery than a breech.

I know how it feels to have your choices taken away from you. There are many things that could and perhaps should have been handled differently for me too. If you can, get some counselling. I am still in the process, but it can help a huge amount.

Big :hugs: to you.

[Kirstlea]

Ochies

Thank you for your kind words :kiss:

I actually just read that article in a thread from Becstar she is ever the informative poster god love her.

Today I met up with a lady who I have not seen for a very long time and her baby is breech at 36 weeks, I found myself pouring my heart and soul out to her on how much I hated having a c/s just because my baby was breech and all the other things that I hated about it.

Fortunately she has the fore sight to research the alternatives where as I had my head in the sand because I would not accept that my baby may not turn so left myself 2 days to get my head around it. Which I guess is more than many others have when it comes to an emergency c/s.

My friend showed me a video of a woman birthing a breech baby naturally and it was very inspiring. The whole time you could see that her support crew was allowing this womans body to do what was natural it was awesome to watch.

Surprisingly I thought it would upset me but instead it restored my self worth in the fact that I know I could have done it naturally and my baby would have been fine. I don't care anymore what anyone else says, I was not the problem the doctors and mid wives were the problem.

So anyone that reads this will be pleased to know that I have taken back control:smiliedance:

Something else that also helped was that my husband and I spoke about it very openly tonight and he has admitted that if we had our time again he would most certainly support me in my instincts and regrets that he supported the doctors and midwives. I understood why he did not support me at the onset as he was scared for my safety as well as our cute chubba bubba, and we had already lost one at 19 weeks so there was a huge scare factor in all of this, but if there is any advice that I can pass on it is this.

WHAT EVER CHOICES YOU MAKE YOU NEED 200% SUPPORT FROM ALL PEOPLE AROUND YOU.

Once again bubhub has been my lifeline and I thank you all from the bottom of my heart.