Please tell me what you think

[kewlchicmum]

:confused: Ok ladies I was wondering what you would do if in this situation your DH/DP comes home from work and you find a couple of sms on
his mob from a number not programmed in his phone and one sms says happy valentines day xxx you confront him about it and ask who
is this from whats going on he then says that he does not know who it is and its prob a mistake and you then say well you have another sms from this number he still says he does not know who its from he thought it was sent to him via mistake and did not even check to see who its from and maybe its from one of your friends of sisters you call the number from your mob and it does not come up with any numbres you have in your phone. So you leave it at that and then he goes away to work you call the number and a lady answers the phone you ask her how is know your DH/DP and she thinks then says ya I know him you ask her how she says it was a long time ago you ask if she is in contact with him she says yes when he is at work, you ask her when was the last time you contacted him she says while he was at work last you then ask her if she is seeing him she says that he has a girlfriend/wife and she then asks who this is....then you get a call from your DH/DP and he says whats going on I get this strange sms from a number I dont know who saying is every thing ok I got a strange call from a girl asking all about you and stuff and he does not know who the number is but sorta thinks that it looks like the number from the other night he then asks who this is and she tells him who she is the penny drops and he puts two and two together and says you whats going on....
Please tell me what you think is he cheating is it all a mixup is he covering his tracks what the?? :confused:

[Laksa]

i wouldn't know what to think of that! i get quite jealous so i would probably be screaming at him!!!
hope its all just a mix-up :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[mummyof5]

Aw babe, he's scrambling to try and cover his tracks, if you ask me.:mad: How can it be some strange girl if she knew who you were talking about and that he was in a relationship? If they had known each other from long ago, how come she has his current no? Why keep messages you think have ben sent by mistake? Too many coincidences if you ask me.

:hugs: for you that you get to the bottom of this. My Dh cheated on me, and I know how hard it is to deal with.

[2boysmama]

Why are you reading someone else's private mail?
I think marriages/partnerships should be built on trust.

He can't stop someone sending him a message.

These things happen. If you hadn't seen it it would probably just be a passing incident. But now you have made something of it , your partner knows you read his phone and his trust in you is broken.

I am not trying to defend him. I would have the same opinion if it had been him that had found a message on your phone.

Haven't you ever had a male say to you that you look good today, or happy birthday etc? To me it's the same thing.

You should feel good that your DP has people around him other than you that care about him. We all need friends.

[kewlchicmum]

Oh no hang on some how all of my post did not get on thread maybe it was to long or silly me did some thing wrong prob pressed the wrong buttons lol :o any ways what was at the bottom of the above is I was asked this from a person I don't really know who I only really just meet she asked me my option cause my DH works FIFO and she had just found this on his mob.....shucks and you thought it was me and my DH nar nar sorry guys I feel a little shamed now lol my mad....but it was hard for me to say any thing esp since I did not know her or her DP but it would be a tough one I think that you would have to trust your DP or DH cause if you dont have trust what do you have thats what I said but what do you guys think or feel if it was you? mm

[2s'nuff]

LOL, I was a bit worried about you for a moment.

I think when your DH/DP works away there has to be a lot of trust in the relationship. My DH is a real socialite and because he treats the girls her works with with respect they often befriend him. There was a rumor at one site that he and a girl were doing the deed. He openly told me this and we had a good laugh about it. That fact that the girl called regularly when they were on break and I spoke to and met her just showed that they were good friends.

If I was this girl I'd be asking lots of questions as her DP seems to be shuffling his answers lots.