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Hey there defence partners! Just a check-in to see how we are all doing. Who has partners still away? How are you all coping?
As for me, hubby is due home on Thursday - but guess who has a duty Thursday night :rolleyes: So I should see him Friday though there is a SLIM chance they may dock tomorow instead :fingerscrossed:
How is everyone else travelling??? :hugs:
Hello Pink Lady. My DP is away on exercise at the moment and he is with the Army. He left last week and will be down there for another three. I'm coping fine, as i always do, for my little munchkin. We just both go about our daily routine (i work fulltime and DS goes to school) and we cope just fine. I actually find myself more organised that when DP is here!!! But i must say that friends are a godsend!!!!
:fingerscrossed: for you that your hubby does come home sooner!
Well, we are 6 months through this deployment with just under a month to go. He is due home around Easter weekend.... cant give the exact date but as usual the Army couldnt have them home in time to spend Easter with their families - considering they missed Christmas, New Year etc you would have thought they would try to get them home for this holiday... grrr
This is our second deployment but by far the hardest. Its done a lot of damage to our relationship so Im not sure where we will be once he returns home. I still cant wait to see him, I'm very nervous though.
You have gone through so much Sharvs - I cant believe you have stuck around for it all.... your much stronger than what I would be :hugs:
Rellebelle - thats awesome that you have a routine. I think that is something I have learned (and unfortunately only recently) that a routine is critical to keeping sane. It really is - even if it is just having dinner at the same time each day, or going for a walk or swim at the same time each day - its something that you know is happening and you can plan your life around. (Gosh I sound sad dont I .. lol)
No you don't Pink Lady, whatever keeps you sane, I say do it (within reason, of course;) ).
We are slowly getting used to having a weekend partner/parent again, but have to say I am hating every minute of it...I don't have an issue with him being back in, but I hate being a part time wife, and having him home last year has just let me know what I am missing, if that makes sense?
He's been told if he completes his etcc, he's a cert to make cheif as they are so short of them and he is way over minimum time, but that means he will probably do another sea posting, and I'm not sure if I can do much more time in this situation. I would love to just up and move to a MQ with him, but then I have to source all new services for the youngest 2 and am in the process of more testing with hunter genetics, so if we were to move it means going on the waiting list to get back into westmead, etc, etc. God I sound like a whinging old cow now don't I??
Feels good to actually write this down and know that the people who read won't think you are a complete nut job:o . I just don't quite know what to do about the situation..he loves the navy and I want him there if it makes him happy (was a pain in the proverbial while working on the outside), but it feels a bit like it is at the expense of my happiness at present. My poor kids, I am not the easiest person to live with at the moment.
Sorry to turn this thread into my vent, but it was nice to get it out. Won't change anything, but nice to air my greivances once in a while.
PL did he get in early or do you have to wait for his duty to finish?
Sharvs, you are amazing for coping so well with what this deployment has done to your relationship. :fingerscrossed: for things to improve when he lays eyes on you and your boy next month. Oh and have lost count of the amount of deployments DH has been on, and no matter what the situation between us while he is gone, and there have been some cr**py ones in the last 11 years, I still get nervous:o .
Let it ALL OUT Mummyof5 :yes:
I understand where your coming from - if you are going to have a partner around its good to be consistent; either consistently there or consistently away!!! Its so easy to get used to one way or the other that when your hit with a change its like beginning all over again :rolleyes:
And with so many kidlets a move is definitely a pain in the backside; especially with the treatment that your FINALLY on the list for!!! Could they possibly do something 'spesh' for you and pull a few strings if you had to move???
I didnt realise your partner is a an ET too... Mine is on Ballarat at the moment - thankfully its going in for refit in a couple of months! WAHOO (still no word on whether its in Sydney, Hunter or Williamstown yet though...)
Oh - and hubby did dock on Tues; but only for an hour. They are somewhere in the harbour tonight, and dock tomorrow - so I will see him on Friday cause he is duty driver tomorrow night. If he has to do an airport drop though then he MIGHT be able to stop in home for a quick hello (Shhhhh!!! lol)
Yeah, it's really hard at the mo, cause I know he is in Sydney every night, but now that they are starting to sail more, hopefully it will feel better to be here instead of back in Sydney, if he's going to be on deployment and not home anyway. That's another reason we didn't uproot everybody (again!) and move with him. Still sucks not having him home at night though.
Don't you love the whole docking a couple of days early, then back out again thing!? What is with that:confused: . Hopefully your hubby will get an airport run then;) .
If your refit happens up here, you can always come stay here if you want to...we love sailors and babies round here, so you're set!:laughing:
Oh and hubby is the PO of the gun on Melbourne. He is an ET(W).
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