I feel guilty

[HanCh]

I have just gone back to work after having DD2. I am currently working 3 days a week, but next term I am going to be back 4 days (money issues.....) the thing is, I feel really guilty having to leave DD2 (DD1 is already at school) another day, just so we can have a little bit more money. I feel that bad, that I have only told DP (obviously) my boss and a friend...... I dont know what to do. Does anyone have any ideas on how to stop myself from feeling so guilty???????

[Mummaof2]

Hey,

Look at it this way is it going to cost you more to put her into day care for an extra day then what you will earn for working that 4th day.

Hope that makes sense

[shed]

I have just accepted a six month contract for a job five days a week and I am re-starting my Sunday job as of next week and leaving DS in daycare during the week and DP will look after him on Sundays for a couple of hours.

We don't even need the money, I just want to go back to work.

So maybe you can think about me and you won't feel so guilty?? :laughing:

I am just giving it a go. If I can't handle it or I think DS is not coping with it then I will quit.

Women have ALWAYS left their children to go to work. Even cavewomen had to go and collect berries without the kids sometimes. Don't worry about it.

[tootiredtosleep]

DD starts childcare tomorrow!! I've got her in 3 days ATM while I am looking for a job. If I get a f/time job she will go 4 days a week (Dh is working from home 1 day).

We took her on Friday to meet the carers and other kids and she loved it! I do feel guilty, but seeing that she would be OK and that daycare is not a bad place, has made me feel better.

[Becteria]

Ahhhh mother guilt. you have to love how providing for your family can still make you have terrible pangs of guilt!

I left my 6 wk old daughter to go back to work full time! I only lasted 6 months it was too much. Now i have just added an extra day in care making it 3, and am missing her too much so am scaling it back to 2 after this baby arrives. I am fortunate that i have my own business so am flexible with the options of care, i can work from home or take her in....

If you dont want to do it and it isnt working for you financially, simply dont do it. They are little for so few years,... i felt intense regret over what i have missed.

[HanCh]

If you dont want to do it and it isnt working for you financially, simply dont do it

Thats why I am doing it.... THings arent working financially at the moment, and after putting her in day care for the fourth day Im at work, we will still be earning more money than what we are now (with me working 3 days.)


you have to love how providing for your family can still make you have terrible pangs of guilt!
I know, we are going to be better off with me working 4 days, but I just feel so slack "ditching" her another day.....

[Becteria]

:hugs: I hope it get easier. One thing i told myself was Quality not quanity is what counts.... :hugs:

[3boys1girl]

Dont feel guilty....I know its hard cause I have times that I do.
Can u change jobs? Do night fill at woolies or something that lets u work and look after the kids during the day.
Im lucky, working as a nurse I work afternoon shift, so I start at 2.30pm and hubby starts early and finishes at 2pm. So we swap the kids. That way im here most of the day for my baby and I dont need childcare which eats up the income. Is there anyway u could work it like what I am? Maybe look at working from home? Its hard hey, wanting to care for kids but having to provide for the family.....Welcome to 2007!
Good luck hun:hugs:

[leebee]

I had to return to work 3 days per week in January when bubba lee was only 11 weeks old. I was devastated...and still am to an extent. I no longer feel guilty, just upset and a little resentful at having to do it. I work Mon-Wed and Sunday afternoons/evenings are very hard for me and I am inevitably always in tears. Everyone keeps saying it will get easier...but I am doubting it.

We are lucky in that my partner spends those 3 days with lee whilst I am at work, so I know he is being looked after by someone equally as in love with him as me! If you really need the money, do it, but maybe you can see it as a short term thing to get you out of a tight spot, then mabe you can drop that extra day once the heat is off?

best of luck

[HanCh]

Can u change jobs?


I am a teacher, so I cant really work from home, or change my hours.
I am lucky in a way because I can be home at 3.30 if I leave straight away and I can do "school work" at home with DD, and she is only going to day care 2 days out of the 4 I am working, so it isnt really that bad. I just wish I could be with her ALL the time.....