MIL's - Gotta Love Em!

[MilkOnTap]

Inspired by Nara's MIL dilemma - I thought that we may be able to even get a few laughs in!

What is the WORST thing your MIL has ever suggested?

I'll start. I got married 2 weeks ago and to save money she suggested that I have another couple 'bunk in' with us in our accommodation on our Honeymoon night! She also suggested I buy our Wedding cake from the shop window at Michels Patisserie. Not On!

Your turn!

[BubbleBelly]

When making final arrangements for my wedding my ex MIL - to - be (that's a mouth full) told me that if it rained on our wedding day we had a choice of the blue green or silver painting tarps to get married under!!! :eek:

[poshBecks]

What is it with MIL's being cheapscates??

We had my SIL's 18th b'day party at our house the other week & my MIL bought a pink plastic table cloth for $2 at some junk shop. And it wasn't quite wide enough so she raided my linen cupbaord for a white one to cover the rest.... why not just buy another one?.... :rolleyes:

I have many other examples of cheapness too!! LOL

[poshBecks]

she suggested that I have another couple 'bunk in' with us in our accommodation on our Honeymoon night! She also suggested I buy our Wedding cake from the shop window at Michels Patisserie. Not On!

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LOL now that is a shocker LOL

[stormanet]

let's see... so many to choose from... how about just after we were engaged... my MIL sat down with my husband and gave him the advice to marry someone else... as she didn't want "fat grandchildren".... now she has one grandchild... my beautiful son (not fat!! *laugh*) and surprisingly enough she doesn't get to see him very often...

Sorry I couldn't come up with a lighter hearted one.... will try and think if she has a less evil suggestion I could quote for you :)

[melfunction]

That she is coming to live with us!! :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: If I could do more eeks, I would

[Supermum]

That she is coming to live with us!! :eek: :eek: If I could do more eeks, I would
No contest ladies, kaidensmum wins.

OH MY LORD!

My MIL suggested that I wait until I lost more weight before I got married because fat brides don't take nice pictures.

She suggested that I not invite anyone to see me at the hospital when I was having my first child because I looked appalling and hadn't made an effort to look decent for my guests.

I suggested she go to hell :p

[rebeccamum]

LOL all are shockers to me :D

This happened just before my husband and I were formally engaged. I was living in Melbourne and he was in Sydney. He visited me very so often and talked to his mum about "the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with" a lot. Anyway, one day she walked into his room seeing him looking at a ring catalogue. She asked what he's doing and he said he's looking for a diamond ring for me. She replied, "oh, you're going to get her a friendship ring?"

Yeah, a diamond ring for a very dear friend :D

[madvoice]

Wow, reading these stories about MILs makes me feel very thankful that I actually get along with mine.

[drewid]

Wow, reading these stories about MILs makes me feel very thankful that I actually get along with mine.

Me too... :)

[MilkOnTap]

Oh - and my MIL was FURIOUS that I didn't wear a veil for my wedding.

WTF?! Its a piece of cloth for crying out loud!

[Shazbutt]

Sorry, i don't have any bad stories to tell....My MIL and i get along really well, and she actually goes along with whatever i say or want! More than she does for DH!

[Mummy-2-2]

Well mine is good sometimes and not so good at others :confused:

My hubby's family are all very quiet and dont say much, especially about feelings, whereas I am very open and out there when it comes to feelings and showings of affection etc.

MIL is a lovely lady, but is very set in her ways (no telly on weeknights, even tho the only "child" who is left at home is 18, no answering the phone at dinner time etc) I am very much the opposite.

Anyways, when we go over there for dinner, we put T to bed (in her own room set up by MIL, which I love!!) and she will cry. T does it so we will come back in there and take her out, so we dont, we leave her and she goes to sleep by herself. MIL always says stuff like, "she doesnt sound like she is going to sleep to me" then goes in there 500 times and makes T all excited so she wont go to sleep, so I have to take her out, and then she'll say "yeah I didnt think so" with a smug loook on her face :mad: I dont think she realises that I look after my daughter 24/7, as opposed to the few hours a week that she sees her, and I put her to sleep 97% of the time so would know how to do it???

Then another day we were just talking about her middle daughter getting teased at school, I said quite innocently, "I was lucky, I never got teased at school." she turns and says "Yeah you were prolly the one who teased everyone else"... I couldnt believe it. I dont think I have ever teased anyone in my life, but then on the other hand, she says to my mum how glad she is that I married her son, and how much more she speaks to him now than before we got together etc

She confuses me... helps pay for our wedding, then says pointedly "well at least she has a job" to me about someone else when I had just been unfairly fired. I spent half my wedding night in tears cos it cut me right where it hurt :(

On the whole tho, she is a fantastic grandma to T and most of the time, lovely and helpful, just sometiomes I wish she lived a billion miles away!!!

[MilkOnTap]

Wow - I am so GREEN that some of you have awesome MIL's! My ex's Mum was great - she made my high school formal dress. She would have been an AWESOME MIL to have... Dont think the marriage would have worked with the son though! Hehehehe

I suppose mine isn't too bad on the whole. She can talk though! Blah blah blah... I guess we're into different things too - she is into golf, tennis and heaps of sports where I just cant stand them! Watching cricket is just like watching paint dry. :p

[ozzysmum]

i wish i had an awesome MIL but it was not to be... luckily i have a gorgeous partner and wonderful child. my MILs latest suggestion is that my son will choke to death on his dummy and it will be my fault. she also thinks i'm a bad mother because we gave him an interesting name, because i don't drive and because i "allow" my man to work overseas away from us... all these things are my fault...
however, i am very happy with her this week as she has solved my christmas day dilemna :) i found out that they threw a thanksgiving dinner (my SILs partner is american) and had every single family member in nsw there plus a whole bunch of their friends and kids friends... but not ozzy and i. not good enough to give thanks for, that's us... so no christmas with the grandson for them - i can't wait til she phones when we come back from holiday and asks "so do you know what you're doing for christmas yet" to which i will reply "yes. goodbye" and hang up :p i asked my other SIL if she knew of a specific reason we weren't invited and she said that they'd told people we were, but couldn't make it... how bloody rude.

[Odessa]

My DP's mother is certifiably insane. It's partly religious matters (she's in a cult) and partly hereditary insanity. She tells my SIL (DP's sis) that I'm poisioning DP, keeping him drugged so he does what I say, and that I stop him from seeing his family. I just laugh now, sometimes I don't know if I should believe everything I hear.

DP says that his mother really likes me and says we're doing well for ourselves? All I know is, I don't have a lot to do with her, DP and I used to live under her roof and she was psychotic...she threw me out after 3 years, called me the "devil", etc. She said I was distracting DP from his schoolwork (I think his mates did a better job of that!) I helped him get his first job, and she accused me of making him lose it! She believes in curses and evil spirits and all that kind of nonsense.

All the bad stuff is in the past, she's apologised but I don't know how genuine she is. Too bad for her I hold a grudge. I just hope she doesn't plan on spending a lot of time with her future grandchildren...I have a long memory.

[sasholi]

Haha, what scares me is that I have son and that means one day I most likely will be a MIL... :eek: :eek: :eek:

According to MY MIL - her son had good dress sense when he was with his ex, but terrible dress sense when he started going out with me (puhleeese) because he wears "modern" clothes... :rolleyes:

I had bad dress sense - she told that to a friend of mine when I first got together with my (now) hubby. I confronted her and she denied it and told me she likes what i wear (gosh, how generous)

Oh, and I was going to brainwash my hubby because I grew up going to church - a protestant denomination. She didn't ask what my beliefs were and she knew nothing about the particular denomination, just that because I grew up going to that church I would brainwash her son (I thought her son - my DH - had his own brain!).

She wasnt going to our wedding because we were getting married at a golf club and we "may as well get married on a soccer field" - she did end up coming and commented on how absolutely gorgeous the setting was (duh)

I don't wash my baby's bum well enough and I should be using those highly perfumed soaps and creams on him to make him smell "like a baby" and when he was first born it was unhygeinic to use only water while washing him. And why am I now wasting money on certified organic cleansers for my baby when Johnsons & Johnsons are so cheap (and contain known carcinogens too!)

If my DS is crying he is obviously bored or hungry, never tired... If I try to put him to bed it is as if I am deliberately depriving her of time with "her grandson". If she comes for a visit and he is asleep she gives me dirty looks and acts completely offended as if I put him to sleep to spite her. And if I don't offer her a glass of wine upon every visit, within a few minutes of her arriving, I get the same look.

If we don't see her for a week, "she hasn't been able to see her grandson in AGES" even though my parents live interstate and see him only every few months, but she says my mum sees "her grandson" more than she does...

She called my parents crying because my DH and I decided to buy a "second hand" house in Chapel Hill, when we should have bought a new house in a housing estate. We were making the biggest mistake of our lives. And because we live near a main road, my son is going to get sick all the time (she literally said this) from car fume poisoning, and he won't develop mentally because he won't be able to sleep from noise pollution (it is actually very quiet where we live, and we only hear a distant rumble of cars and the occassional loud truck). She literally said all this.She said we were making the biggest mistake of our lives and the gumtrees would fall on our house in a strong wind because that is what they do.

Oh, and she said that one day I will be a MIL myself, and my son will bring home the girl he wants to marry and she, too, "won't be good enough, trust me".

Then she tells people how much she loves me and how I am fantastic for her son... Go figure!

[MilkOnTap]

Ozzysmum - I cant believe your in-laws would exclude you from their Thanksgiving. What about when bub grows up? Will he still be excluded? Good for you to exclude them from your Christmas. After all - its yours. Dont let them ruin it!

Milly - I was brought up the exact same way about peoples bedrooms. Privacy is really important to me. I lived with DH's parents for a little while (2 months - then I was out quick-smart!) and my MIL insisted on doing my laundry and putting it in my room. I know she did it cause she was being nice, but I was quite capable of doing it myself (yes, including my smalls!)

AND I cant BELIEVE that she took your own daughter off you when you were nud in the shower! Unreal!

Well, I guess we learn something from these experiences. We learn about the kind of MIL's we want to be!!!