Spoil the kidlets!

[SimplyMum]

Does anyone else get this?

I like buying my DS things. It's only me and him and I get very excited when I get to buy him more toys and clothes. For his birthday (in September), I've planned on getting him a cubby house and a tool bench and perhaps a bbq to go inside. Amongst a few clothes/pjs and little bits and pieces maybe.
For christmas, I want to get him a train table and a leapfrog video game pack. Again probably little bits and pieces and maybe sopme clothes/pjs.

My Mum mainly keeps saying, don't buy too much. But I don't feel it is too much. I am not trying to make up for the fact that he doesn't have a Dad or another side of the family but kids of coupled parents get way more than he does. My sister just had a baby and her DS has more clothes than Bailey has ever had!

Does anyone get this? I'm so fustrated with people telling me not to spoil him, he's definately not spoiled. I've seen kids with so many toys they need a seperate room or 2. Bailey's fit into 2 corners of the house!

What are people's thoughts on this?

[Veritas]

I have to say I enjoy buying for my DD too.... I can't remember the last time I bought for myself!

Having said that I don't go overboard and she is definitely not spoilt... just a little something every now and then.... a cute little outfit here and there.... a new book.... etc...

Today I bought a cheap CD player for her room so I can play sleep music for her...

And yeah I'm like you in planning way ahead of time for xmas and bday... I already have a gorgeous charm bracelet put away for her bday....

[SimplyMum]

Exactly Kaz, you get it why doesn't anyone else?

I don't usually buy for DS through the year (unless he needs it and it's not usually frivilous (sp?) it's usually more singlets or bigger shoes, although I do usually get him the better brand where mine are payless if I get any at all), I stopped that after he was 1, before that I could jusitfy because his development changes so oftern- he couldn't play with 3month baby toys when he's 9months and crawling!!!

[Veritas]

Precisely... I had to get DD some bigger singlets and long sleeve bodysuits today.... and I only ever buy anything when its on sale!!!

[jess_live_die]

im the same with my dd2 as she dose not have a dad or any other family i mean i buy dd1 alot as well i think dd1 just end up cheaper and she understands that dd2 dosent have a daddy like her she dosent mind so when shes very good she gets to pick out what she wants. my mum says dnt spoil them but i said to her that she used to spoil us so its my trun to spoil my girls.

[munchkin05]

i will be honest ben probley has to much ****
hes always in label clothing (billabong quicksliver etc) but this was started when he was born and i was still with the ex

we sperated just after his 1st bday and kmart had a no deposit xmas layby thing on and i did go over board but its what i wanted to do everyone else said it was to much my brother and his gf couldnt believe it their son got a truck and and i sandpit from them

for birthdays and xmas i go all out they are my thing its a special day so why not
during the year i buy little bits and pieces but not mch

but i dont think bens spolit and as i always say
hes not spoilt hes just a bit extra loved :rolleyes:

[Chanelc]

I love buying Chanel things and hey no one esle can comment as we are doing what we consider to be right for us... nothing better than shopping therapy

[DustyPeach]

Same here girls. I love to spoil my kids. Not a lot you can do on the pension but my kids love the steady home environment I am able to provide them. I think that outweighs not having a dad or another side of family around.

We do a lot of craft and make our own event cards etc. DD and I do some sort of craft every day and when DS stops eating the crayons I am sure he will join in too :)

[tyler's mum]

Tyler has alot of toys, book, clothes problemly way to much. she is very spoilt. To be honest she would have what she has now even if i was'nt single..

Being a single mum i dont feel i have to buy her alot of thing (i buy them cause i want) my biggest thing is worrying how she will deal growing up with out a father. because no amount of toys/book/clothes whatever would make up for not having a dad...

[SimplyMum]

i always think we might as well spoil jack while we can! One day we might be so broke we cant get anything!
I think kids have too many values to learn (I put the right ones in place i think) and they have heaps of time to grow up and learn all that stuff, let em be kids while they can!! We spoil jack terribley, but we never have any problems with him being a 'spoilt brat' at daycare the girls tell me he is so caring towards other kids, if anyone is without a toy he takes something over to them, and he always lets someone go before him if they are taking turns of something.
As a mum, i am pretty happy with that!

Same T. The girls at daycare were really surprised when Bailey started biting (a new cousin- a bit jelous I think), they say it's not like him at all. He's such a sweet natured little boy!:yes:

[SamanthaJane]

I buy Charlotte heaps of things. She has way toooo many clothes. Some of them will never be worn because there isn;t enough time lol unless i change her 5 times a day. I already a have a few presents for her 1st birthday which is 8 months away! I dont go too overboard tho... i still manage to save a fair bit of money! So no one can complain to me about that :p Most of the stuff i buy is on sale tho... i am a sucker for sales.... :o

[daisyxs]

spoiling them isnt about how many toys, clothes they have its about them getting them whenever they want and not being taught to appreciate them