Bullying at school...It makes me so mad!

[kristy_lily]

Hi Guys,
My son has just started kindy and is being bullied! We have spoken to the headmaster and also to his teachers but it is still going on :banghead:
The only reason that it started is because connor can't talk properly due to having most of his teeth removed (he was born with chalky teeth) and he has 2 small holes in the roof of his mouth (the dangers of chicken pox in pregnancy was never explained!)
It makes me soo mad :mad: that 5 and 6 year old kids can be so mean, I thought that parents would have told them that you don't treat anyone differently...
Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can stop this before it goes to far? I put up with bulllying myself from kindy until grade 8 because I was "different"...I didn't realise that being adopted was different, I always thought I was special.
It would be greatly appreciated for any suggestions and/or advice.
Thanks,
Kristy

[Elfin]

Bullying is such an ugly thing and I feel so much for your poor little guy. If nothing is being done then you need to keep complaining as there is never any excuse for bullying.

Given you boy has an issue beyond his control, has his problems either been explained to the other children as to why he can't speak as clearly or has missing teeth? My dd has a little girl in her class who has to be fed through a bag and has a colon bag too. When she started this was explained to the children, although she had this problem she is just the same as everyone else and it was something she was born with a cannot help. A note also went home to the parents to explain her condition. Everyone accepts this girl and she has no problems with anyone else.

Maybe something like this could be helpful at least if it was explained to the children.

Hope something gets resolved quickly.:hugs:

[kristy_lily]

There is another little girl in my sons class who has speech therapy with him so it was explained to the class on their first day.
When the therapist first came to see connor he explained to her that he has chalky teeth and that I have the same problem...we thought that this was pretty grown up for a 4 year old who was never told about his teeth but he obviously listened in when we were talking.
A friend of mine suggested taking this matter to the Department of Education if the school won't do anything to resolve the matter but I'm hoping that it won't have to go that far.

[Hokey Pokey]

If the school don't crack down, take it to the department of education. My DD 8 was bullied on the school bus quite badly, luckily her school does not tolerate bullying at all!!

[OJandMe]

It's not on Kristy.

Go in and talk to the teacher. Talk to the kids. and if it keeps happening talk to the parent of the child/children who are doing the bullying. Talk to the principle...


just KEEP TALKING! Go in every day, say something everyday. ask your son every day before he leaves the classroom if he was bullied that day and if the kid was still there.

It's not on. All schools these days have a No Bullying policy.

If it still kees happening I'd consider changing schools.... you don't want your DS to have to 'put up' with it. Especially at this age! He needs to develop a POSITIVE image of school... and bullying won't help.

Stay Strong hun, it can be beaten. Complain to the teacher, the principle the district head and keep complaining until something gets done. Demand a note is sent home to all the parents about the schools No Bullying policy.. and if it keeps happening ask if you can arrange a 'conference' with he teacher and the parents of the kids involved. I'm sure the teacher wants to see this resolved as much as you... as a teaher myself I know I did everything I could to encourage the kids in my classes to support each other.

[kristy_lily]

Hi Guys,

Well, I suppose I could say that I was "lucky enough" to see one of the children's parents in the shop last night while my son was with me, her son was also there.

As soon as the other boy saw Connor he started teasing him so I was able to talk to his mother about whats been going on at school, she hadn't been told anything about it but was very understanding and spoke to her son while we were there so I am hoping that it might settle down :)

We had thought about changing schools but can't get a place for Connor until next year which makes things really hard due to only just starting the school year.

I have spoken to the president of the student council and asked her to talk the other students about starting a "Buddy" system where if a younger student is being picked on in the play ground there is older students that they can go to and ask for help if they can't find a teacher. She thought it was a good idea but I'm really hoping that the rest of the school (teachers especially) like the idea.

Thanks,
Kristy

[Hokey Pokey]

That's great the parent was so understanding. Alot of parents can get very defensive about this kind of thing.