Might need some help

[MGB]

Dh works with a guy who has premmie twins. They are now just over one yr old.

The little girl 'plays up' more than the boy and so dad has hit her on a few occasions. Not on the hand or anything, but a so-called tap to her little face :mad:
The dad freely admits his parenting difficulties to my Dh, who would never lay a hand on our son in anger.
Dh, who is much more diplomatic than me, told this guy that he needs to seek help for his anger issues.
I just want to break his face :mad: and cannot stand the sight of him.

Is it my place to tell this guy he is a bully?

[bronny-jane]

oh i'd confront him, whats his wife doing... she might be doing the same, it has become acceptable to them some how:no:
maybe come at it in a nice way, like a discussion about discipline, and ways that work for you, if he's stuck in his ways ask him this.."do you want your daughter to be in a relationship where its ok for her to be hit by her partner, or to hit her kids, cause if its ok for her dad to do it, then its ok for anyone else, do you think she is going to respect you when she's older... she wont, chances are she wont even love you, what kind of legacy are you leaving this poor girl, how would you feel if your father did this to you right now... cause she will be an adult, you really need to change your ways now, before you raise a daughter who craves any kind of attention from men." "if you dont then i have no choice but to seek help for her, she is an innocent victim in this, if you cant control your anger, leave the room, do you think your tough for hitting a baby.... your really just a low life w@nker"

i hope he can change

[daisyxs]

yet again, hitting is completely different to smacking or a little tap. :banghead:
but either way, it shouldnt be on the face

[pookiesossige]

Dh works with a guy who has premmie twins. They are now just over one yr old.

The little girl 'plays up' more than the boy and so dad has hit her on a few occasions. Not on the hand or anything, but a so-called tap to her little face :mad:
The dad freely admits his parenting difficulties to my Dh, who would never lay a hand on our son in anger.
Dh, who is much more diplomatic than me, told this guy that he needs to seek help for his anger issues.
I just want to break his face :mad: and cannot stand the sight of him.

Is it my place to tell this guy he is a bully?

Yes he is a bully. Good Lord, she's not even one and he's started already. Do you want to know what that sort of thing develops into once a child becomes a normal 3 year old with normal occasional tantrums and an attitude?

Know that if you make a certain call and seek help for him, it is likely he will be enrolled in a parenting course (there are sometimes specific fathering courses that deal with anger, and once for fathers raising girls- they are brilliant). I believe that is the best thing you can do for that family, and especially, that helpless little girl.

A 'tap' to the face.......:mad:

[princessarra]

I agree he should not be hitting her on the face but i think noone can say what it's going to turn into once she hits the toddler stage. I think that's a real generalisation

I think the best thing to do is talk to him and let him know you don't like that at all. Prahaps suggest to him different ways to handle the situation. If he iks admiting he is having problem then he should be ready to accept help.

[2boysmama]

Find out information on Positive Parenting courses in your area..you can google it. Print it out and give it to your DH to give to him at work. Don't make a big isuue of it, just sow the seed of the idea and see how he takes to it. I find a gentle friendly approach generally works.

Follow it up a week or so later and see if he's done anything about it.