co-sleeping with boobie in mouth

[Tamz]

Hi Guys

I have had supply issues and i have been having bub sleep with us, due to him waking up nearly every hr for a feed etc. :(

Anyways, i have him sleep with us and i put my boob in his mouth, i thought him using it as a dummy might help with stimulation = help milk supply.

i was wondering if i should be burping him or not??? :confused:

Also, during the day, he sometimes falls asleep on my boob, when he was 2weeks old he did it infront of the clinic nurse and she told me not to burp him just put him down to sleep. is this right??? or should i burp him??? its just that if i do it, he wakes up and its a mission to get him asleep again.

Thanks for your help :)

Tam

[alicesmum]

LET SLEEPING BABIES LIE!!!!!!!

That was my motto. I did exactly what you are doing (cosleeping, feeding back to sleep) and I would often feed her on my bed and leave her to sleep there after the feed was over. i never went to a CHN ever because I didn't want them to tell me i was doing the wrong thing because it felt right to ME!

sometimes she would do a burp when she would wake up but having a 'burp in there' never seemed to bother her or wake her up prematurely. other babes might be differnet though. hope that helps :)

[Mummy-2-2]

not that I am disputing your CHN, and i could only breastfed for a week, but when T fell asleep with a bottle, we used to put her down and inthe long run it caused us hassles cos she never learned to get to sleep herself.

When she was 9 months, we had to re-teach her to get to sleep using nothing as a comfort, as opposed to us getting up three, four, five times a night to give her a bottle that she sucked on for 5 mins, lost, then woke up and wanted it back again.

Again, I know nothing about the b/f side of things, but the sleeping side is by far a lot easier, when they can resettle themselves.

[Oscar's mum]

I find that if DS goes to sleep without being burped if he needs burping he will wake later, so that is when we pick him up burp him and put him back to bed. After a feed say if you were feeding bub in the lounge and had to walk to put bub to bed, try putting bub a little up right, don't worry about trying to pat a burp out but it can help with the wind issue.

[JanetF]

I never burped my cosleeping baby ever. The chemicals in bm (and those produced by the mama) clearly show babies are meant to go to sleep on the boob. Self-settling is a totally different issue and something that comes with brain and other maturities. If bubs has wind he'll let you know. In the meantime, GO COSLEEPING!!! WOOHOO!! Imagine getting up every hour to an upset baby who wanted you 5 minutes ago! You rock, mama :D

[Tamz]

thanks guys.

he sleeps in his cot during the day, sometimes he sleeps for 1 1/2 hrs so im guessing hes resettling himself?
other times he wakes up screaming and i dont know if hes hungry or not coz he only feeds for like 5mins and then squirms and arches his back and becomes fussy so i guess hes had enough??? :(
so i then usually put him on my boob, rock and shhh shhh ( to help him fall asleep, and i have to do that anyways to get him to feed because he refuses the boob any other way besides sleeping in bed) and he falls asleep.

gosh, its so hard isnt it...knowing what they want!!!!

*LOL* its funny becuase the doctor i see said its all behavioural..

mum says he is exacually like me when i was a baby - she nearly rang the hospital and told them they gave her the wrong baby :eek:

[Mummy-2-2]

Self-settling is a totally different issue and something that comes with brain and other maturities

I dont doubt that self settling is a different issue to breastfeeding and burping, however I was responding to Tamz's "mission to get him back to sleep again". I disagree however that self settling comes with maturity as I had to take T to Ngala (Sleep experts) when we were trying to teach her to settle, and 5 week old babies were self settling and sleeping through 10-14 hours, whether they were breastfed or not.

I wasnt trying to change the issue or dispute the benefits of co sleeping or breast feeding, I think that whatever works is a great motto, however was passing my experience on, as I know first hand how annoying it is to be woken up numerous times a night, simply because I didnt do something I should have done from the start (not saying everybody should do it, just me)

[joshiesmum]

Mummy to two i agree with you teaching my now eight month old to self-settle was the best thing i ever did. He Still has a feed before bed which he sometimes falls asleep on but i always burp him (had mild reflux when younger) and this means he is awake when i put him into his cot. Now he sleeps in his own bed and sometimes wakes has a chat to himself and then falls back to sleep without my help. I think we all need to do what we think is best but for me co-sleeping wasnt an option.

[AM]

I barely ever burped my co-sleeping baby, he just did not seem to need it, and i have heard that bf babies generally need less burping than ff babies.
Gotta love the co-sleeping!

If you read, an absolutely wonderful book to read is 'Night-time Parenting' By Dr William Sears, it gives great insight into how a baby's sleep pattern develops and matures naturally, at it's own pace, without the need for 'sleep training'
I found it to be just so helpful.

[Tamz]

Thanks for that, i will keep a eye out for the book and will have a read.

Thanks girls for your replys, i appreciate it. :)

being a first time mum i have sooo many questions, i find this forum to be full of information and friendly people to chat to :)

Cheers

Tamz

[Mother Duck]

Hi guys - Mickayla had alot of trouble with wind when she was little

JanetF - I love your posts but on this one I beg to differ (only slightly :) ) - M did not always let me know if she needed burping etc - she would just sleep but wake up with really yukky pains

I think it has alot to do with their tummies (hmmm state the obvious) - what I mean is DH has a really sensitive tummy and still has terrible trouble with indigestion etc, so does his mum - and so it seems does my little M

Anyway on a more practical note, there is a great method to gently burp a baby without waking them - especially when they are little - You just sit them up a little and support their neck - sort of hold them around the neck and shoulders - then you just sort of swirl them slowly - it works in the same way as it would if you had bubbles in a bottle of liquid - gently swirl and the bubble rise - used to work a treat for M and she would just keep sleeping

Good luck!