First night in a big boy bed.

[Percy]

Well i finally took the plunge tonight and put jake into his bed.

He went down at 7.00pm with a bottle and was quiet for a few minutes, but now he is crying. He isnt trying to get out at all though. Do i keep going in to reassure him, or do i leave him. What if he is scared of the new bed? Should i just put him back in the cot and try again another night, or will that make it worse.

Anyone got advice?

[Oscar's mum]

I am not very helpful sorry - perhaps someone else has some really good suggestions.:yes: But woohoo to Jake in his big boy bed - don't they just grow up too quickly:gloomy:

[Shazbutt]

I would keep at it, don't put him back into the cot, or you're back where you started.

Is it a frantic crying, or just general whingeing? My girls both whinged a bit on their first nights, but i left them (for a certain amount of time) before going in to reassure them. If he was really scared i''d think he's be at the door screaming yeah?

If he's not getting too worked up, i'd wait a while and see if he goes off.

Good luck! :fingerscrossed:

[OJandMe]

This is what I've done with mine. Both boys have very different needs when it comes to comfort... so I'll give you both and you can try them and see how it goes.



Firstly... is it a proper toddler bed with a 'stop rolling out' lip or a single bed with a detachable rail thingy?

I first tried just putting the boys in toddler beds with no rail, and while they fell asleep, the kept rolling out and waking up. I now have one of those rail things on the beds, and they don't roll out anymore.


This is how I did it (and we've only JUSTR made the transition a month ago.. so it's all very recent)

Follow the normal bedtime routine. When you put him down ith his bottle.. kisses and cuddles etc etc. We say. "Mummy and Daddy are just in the lounge room" (their room is the first room off the hallway, so if they stand in the doorway they can see the loungeroom.)

We leave their door open a little bit so they can see the light, and then we just sit in the lounge.

The first night they came out 37 times in an hour and a half.... and then they went to sleep.

The first time they came out we just said... "It's bedtime sweetie." and put them back in. The second time we say "bedtime." Then when they come out after that, we don't say anything.. just pick them up, put them back ALWAYS with a kiss.

This is where they get different.

DS2 is quite happy to lie down with his bottle and go to sleep. He doesn't need me there.

DS1 is a very sensitive boy and needs the extra comfort. So after DS2 is down and happy and content to lie there and go to sleep.. I go in and sit with DS1. I just sit and stroke his hair, and after a while I stop stroking his hair and just sit there. I don't talk to him, I don't make direct eye contact.... but just having me there comforts him and he's my baby... I don't mind spending 20 minutes sitting with him while he falls asleep... especially as I know he falls asleep comforted and happy.

Once I know they're asleep I close the door... but that's because they've always had the door closed.. and they have toys in their room, so when they wake in the morning they play in there for a little while.

The first night they came out for an hour and a half, the second night it was half an hour. Tonight Oliver didn't come out at all,and Jordie just came to the door to make sure we were still there... and when I went in 10 mins later, I only needed to sit with him for 5 mins as he was already almost asleep. I'm pretty sure that in the nxt few nights he'll be content just knowing that we're in the loungeroom and won't need me to sit with him.

That's what's working for us.. I have no idea if it will help you though :rolleyes: It's all trial and error :yes: :fingerscrossed:

[Trumpet]

Has he slept in the new bed during the day? I did that for about a week and then started putting him in his new bed at night.

[Shazbutt]

How did Jake go last night in his big bed.....did you succeed?! :fingerscrossed:

[Percy]

Jake eventually settled down around 2.00am. I just kept putting him back in his room and sat in there with him. He gave up grizzling and finally drifted off.

I had to wake him at 8.30 this morning so he could get to daycare on time!

So at least i know he will stay in there once he is asleep, hopefully the novelty of being able to get out will wear off soon.:fingerscrossed:

[rynosmum]

You've got a Houdini!!!:eek:

Sounds like you did the right thing though. Hopefully it will only take a few days before he gets used to it and just sleeps away.

Big boy Jake!:yelclap: :hugs: