TTC - DR put me on the pill?

[Kadwil]

Hello,

I had a m/c on Dec 4 last year :angel: and 12 weeks later have not yet ovulated or had AF. Like a lot of people I was hoping to TCC straight away, but it was not to be! I think I haven't ovulated because of stress, as my two sisters are pregnant and due within one week of each other, as well as a few friends (I am just jealous!). Anyway, I went to the doctor after 12 weeks of no AF and he has put me on the pill for 3 months to try and get my body into a cycle again. I am just wondering if there is anyone out there that has done this? Does it work or should I just go off the pill and hope AF returns soon?

ME 30
DH 33
DS 5

[bekkyboo]

Have they done blood tests and such to see what is going on?

:hugs: for your loss, i hope things work out soon....

[aardvark]

You could try vitex. There are threads about using it to regulate your cycles.

[Tubbychook]

First :hugs: sorry for your loss its hard and even harder when other around you are pregnant. Second regarding being put on the pill to try and regulate your af im not sure why your dr would do that. What were your cycles like before you got pregnant were they regular or not. Because if they were then they should be doing blood tests to see why you havent had an af in 12 weeks because you cycles should return to normal. I would maybe seek the advice of another dr. Afterall you are trying to acheive a pregnancy not prevent one. I am very nervous about drs putting people on the pill to regulate a cycle as it only hides a problem not fixes it i found out the hard way. I had regualr af's up until i was 16 (started at 12) and then i only had 3 afs until i was 18 and mum took me to the dr as she found the stash of unopened packets of pads that she had been buying me i had to admit that i wasnt getting my af's then and the dr just put me on the pill as he said that would fix it and it did it made me have an af every month. It wasnt until i went off the pill to ttc that i discovered that it didnt fix the problem it only covered the fact that there was a problem. Turns out the reason i wasnt getting af was because i had pcos. Im not saying that you have something wrong with you i just dont think you should be going on the pill just to regulate your cycle. I know its hard not to jelous of your pregnant family and friends especially after having a mc but i found that you have to try and relax and things will happen. I was stressing so much about not having fallen preg after 3 years and 2 mc then my cousin who had told me she had no plans of falling pregnant for a few years rang and told me she was 3 months pregnant. I was so very upset that i made the decision that i wasnt going to try anymore as i didnt think i could handle the dissappointment and wouldnt you know i fell pregnant the very next week and my little man turned 1 on saturday. I know this was a bit longwinded but i hope it has helped some. Just relax and try not to stress too much i know you are proberly sick of hearing that but its really the best thing you can do. The night i fell pregnant with ds we had gone out with frineds had a few drinks and just had a really nice stress free relaxed night.

[Kadwil]

Thanks for your helpful replies, it has given me some things to think about and discuss with DH. We have decided I will finish this month on the pill and if AF does not return we will see the specialist that did the D&C and ask for blood tests etc. When my GP first suggested the pill it sounded like a good idea at the time, but when we thought about it the pill stops ovulation, which is what we are trying to achieve. I have never really had any problems before with OV or AF, so we are thinking my body is just taking a while to recover from the M/C. I have bought a lovely 'baby box' that holds all our memories of my pregnancy - it sits in the lounge room. I am feeling like this has given me time to grieve the baby which is what we really need before we can move on. Thanks all, for your advice, it is much appreciated. :)

[little kingdom]

Hi, very sorry to hear of your loss, My best wishes for you on the next cycle.. sending you lots and lots baby dust :)

[Kadwil]

Well I have finished my month on the pill yesterday and am patiently (!) waiting for AF to arrive - these days are going so slow! (I can't EVER remember wanting AF to visit!!) I am not sure if she will arrive and am nervous - sounds silly, I know! DH wants me to continue with the pill for the 3 months, I want to stop now. He was fairly insistant until I said it is my body and I don't want to pump any more hormones into it! It makes me angry, sad, cranky and worst of all a little nauseous! Anyhoo, I guess we will see what happens over the next week. I don't know if it is wishful thinking, but I just have this feeling that we will concieve in May...

[Kadwil]

Gee, I know I have only just posted, but I just need to chat some more... 15 weeks now since my D&C and still no AF. I keep reading through all these threads hoping there is some magic solution to my problem, but who am I kidding. It is great to know I am normal, but frustrating because nothing is happening. DH is trying to be supportive, he listens to me and puts up with my violent mood swings. He hates seeing me stressed and tries to tell me to calm down or nothing will happen. Easier said than done. I read through the posts from ladies that had AF return after 4, 6, 8 weeks etc - why is that not happening for me?:banghead: I have one more week to go, if I don't get AF after this month on the pill I am going to see my OB. I never usually get any indication of AF arriving (no cramps, etc). DH tells me I get moody - I know I am really cranky at the moment, and I got what I thought were little cramp-like pains tonight - I am hoping this is AF? Sorry to rave on so much...

[Kadwil]

Hello again
Well AF did not arrive after the first month, so I called the DR and he said 'keep taking the pill' :banghead: . I didn't like that answer, so I called the specialist that did the D&C and he said to come see him. It has been ONE MONTH LATER when I could finally get an appointment. I continued to take the pill in case this is what he wanted me to do. No, he said stop taking it (I had 3 days to go till the end of month 2 anyway!). It could be my hormones not working properly after the miscarriage, in which case I will get some tablets to make me ovulate (clomid I am imagining?) or it could be Ashermans Syndrome, which is very rare. I don't think it is ashermans, though I do have some of the symptoms, such as pain around the time I should have my period. I am a bit frightened, because ashermans can leave scar tissue, making it harder for the placenta to 'stick' to the uterus walls. I guess I just have to wait - I have to have blood tests when the pill is out of my body and an ultra-sound to 'rule out' ashermans. D-day is next Friday 27th April - I have everything crossed that it is just my hormones!

My sister had a beautiful baby boy the next day after my appointment, which was all very exciting! I did feel a little lonely though, as my appointment obviously wasn't as exciting for my family and it really was a major thing for me. I wish I was more happy for her than I am... I am feeling quite selfish and cranky that it wasn't me. Of course I would never say that to her, it isn't her fault these things have happened. My other sister will have her baby in the next 2 weeks also. It has been 19 weeks since my D&C - I would have been 31 weeks pregnant. :gloomy: Well, time to pick myself up and carry on waiting for that illusive BFP.

[RoarsomeMum]

Oh Kadwil :hugs: :hugs: So so sorry for your loss hon. I would be asking the doc what he is trying to accomplish.. From my understanding, Even if the pill did make you bleed, It would never cause AF in the traditional sense, cause on the pill, you do not ovulate, so the bleeding is breakthrough bleeding only, caused by the sugar (red) pills, that stop the Pill hormone, and thus cause breakthrough bleeding. That, IMO, is Not a cycle returning, its a chemically created non -fertile bleed. and seems like you did not even get breakthrough bleeding.. I would be Peeved too. Sending you loads of :hugs: 's and babydust:wizard: Please let us know how you go!

[Kadwil]

My ultra-sound was today - I didn't really know what I was looking at, but I do know there is a lining there, but it is not coming out for some reason. I spoke to the secretary at the specialist's office - she assured me if the results were urgent the doctor would ring and speak to me straight away, otherwise to wait until my appointment on 24 May (this is the earliest??). So more waiting to come. Here's hoping it's not urgent and I don't speak to him till the 24th! I think in the mean time I will focus on trying to get my fitness back to take my mind off things - I seem to be obsessed by everything still - when does that stop?? I wish my gym had a punching-bag, because I do feel like punching something...

[Lene Lou]

Hi Kadwil,

I too had a m/c on the 19 of april and a D&C on Anzac Day. My heart goes out to you.

My DH and I have to go through the IVF process as he has had a vasectomy from a previous relationship. After the m/c and D&C my Fertility Specialist has also put me on the pill for one month. He said that it will help with the quality and quantity of the next egg collection? or something like. I am planning on discussing it with him at our next appointment on Thursday 3rd May.

I would personally get a second opnion from a Gyne who is also a fertility specialist, most of the time they go hand in hand but not always.

Where are you? I can give you the name of some good ones in Brisbane and I am sure others on the site can give you good ones elsewhere.

Good luck with it all and I hope you finally get your answers and a little bundle of joy.

:hugs: to you and your DH

[Kadwil]

Thanks for the support Lene Lou. I am in the Hunter Valley in NSW, so might be a bit far away from Brisbane. I will talk to my gyno at my next appointment and ask how much experience he has in fertility.
But here's hoping I don't need to? On Sunday I had really sharp cramping pains down low in my abdomen and then yesterday what I think to be EWCM (sorry for TMI). Could these be signs of ovulation? I have never had pain with ovulation before, but maybe because it has been so long that is why I had pain this time? Has anyone else had this and could they be signs of ovulation? I hope so.

[Kadwil]

OK had my appointment yesterday - PCOS! Funny I should be happy about this, but I am just glad I have an answer and I know where to go from here. I have a mild case since I was able to concieve twice naturally, so the gyno is positive that with Metformin we can concieve within the next few months - I am so relieved that I know what is going on now. I am getting closer to having a baby and I am pleased. Thanks all for (cyber)listening!