please someone help im going crazy

[jess_live_die]

my little/big girl is nearly 4 and she is driving me crzy she wnt listen at all she wnt clean up her toys please any advice would be great.

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

Tell her if she dosnt clean them up you'll throw them out always follow through with what you say,if she dosnt clean them up put them in the bin and later when she is asleep hide them in you room,it WILL teach her the consequences(sp?) of not listening to mum,give her the toys back when she starts listening to you.

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

P.s you arent going crazy!!

[OJandMe]

:yes: agree wholeheartedly... I do this with the boys even now... I just say.. okay, if you won't pick it up, then it goes in the bin.. I put them all in a plastic bag and put them in the 'toy' bin... (a box in the end room where they are not allowed to go) then later on when they're outside I tip them allback into their toy box so they're there when I rotate their toys....

But they clean up now.. Also a lot of praise when she actually does it helps. And a reward 'sticker chart or something'.


Tell her if she dosnt clean them up you'll throw them out always follow through with what you say,if she dosnt clean them up put them in the bin and later when she is asleep hide them in you room,it WILL teach her the consequences(sp?) of not listening to mum,give her the toys back when she starts listening to you.

[3boys1girl]

Maybe start a rewards chart. Buy some card board and right all her chores on it, when she has done it to satisfaction, then she gets a star. When she has a whole weeks worth of stars then she gets a treat. Like a lollie from the shop, DVD from Video store, Go to the movies. Doesnt have to cost much maybe a trip to the park. I found this works great and then your not treating to throw her toys away all the time, which my boys used to reply "do it, then I wont have to clean them up" Cheeky buggers:devil6:
Good luck:fingerscrossed:

[jess_live_die]

thats a good idea thanks i did that when i was toliet training her and worked i neva even throught about it for cleaning up her room.

[Can I?]

At nearly four your little one is not very big for being responsible. A few things that I have found helped with my kids were having a set time each day to pick up, so they know what is coming. Help them get started - either pick up with them, or start them off verbally "Pick up dolly and put her into the toy box please". Play the picking up game - sing a song "Let's tidy up the lounge room tidy-o" or make an imaginary game, get a big box and pretend it is a shopping trolley, or collect all the 'fishes' in the submarine etc.

Small kids (even big kids) find it overwhelming when there is a lot of mess. By helping them get started or pitching in yourself, you make it easier for them to get into it.

[jess_live_die]

At nearly four your little one is not very big for being responsible. A few things that I have found helped with my kids were having a set time each day to pick up, so they know what is coming. Help them get started - either pick up with them, or start them off verbally "Pick up dolly and put her into the toy box please". Play the picking up game - sing a song "Let's tidy up the lounge room tidy-o" or make an imaginary game, get a big box and pretend it is a shopping trolley, or collect all the 'fishes' in the submarine etc.

Small kids (even big kids) find it overwhelming when there is a lot of mess. By helping them get started or pitching in yourself, you make it easier for them to get into it.
kool thankyou ill try that

[Mrs Potts]

One other thing to do to make things easier in the long term is to start teaching her to put something away before she gets something else out.

We have a limit on the number of toys that can be out at a time. This can vary depending on the physical size of the toy. Eg; a race car track has to be put away before one more thing comes out, but he can have a few books, a few cars and a puzzle out at the same time. One of those must go away before something new is taken out. This makes the 'end of day' tidy up much more manageable and not so daunting.

Your DD is not too young to start this, we started with DS when he was about 3. It's not automatic for him yet, but a gentle reminder is normally all that's needed to get him to put one thing away before another comes out. Then he knows that all toys left out must be put away before dinner. Good luck.

[jess_live_die]

kool thankyou ill be tring all these

[biscotti]

One thing that I used to do when things were very messy was to break it down and also make it fun. Like, ...
"go and put 4 things away 'cos you're nearly 4"

"go and put two green things away"

"find something that makes a noise and put it away"

"Now find something that is new/old/blue/has buttons etc"

My daughter loved this at your daughter's age!

Good luck!

[viperpt]

OMG!! i had this same problem already today except with my 4 yr old son. His room is so simple and he can clean it usually in 10 mins its my 5 yr old daughter that takes ages. I said he had to clean his room so he went down there and played.. Mind you I sent him down there at 9:30am he didnt finish till 1 pm I told him that he had to stay in there untill he finished by this time my daughter had finished and she started doing activities and he started getting upset I just told him again that he has to stay there till its done and what do ya know it was done in 5 mins:D