Housework nightmare.

[2kids]

I can't seem to get our house in any sort of order. I think we are the messiest people alive. I have a 4yr old and a 7mth old. At the moment I work 1/2 day per week plus I do the financials for my husband's business. I also run the houseold finances, pay bills, am trying to finish a course through open learning (not happening). I also try to exercise at least once a day to keep healthy. I find housework so boring, I find pulling weeds out of the garden more rewarding. (I do that too!!!) The most unbearable I find is the washing up - eventually we are getting a new kitchen so a dishwasher will be installed, but for now....

Is it too much to ask my DH who works full-time to help??? I seem to cook most of the time, as well as wash up. Sometimes I think I should do it all, but then other times I know that I do more than enough, but I don't get financially rewarded for it. His idea is that he goes out to work, the rest is my job. I don't think he realises (do any of them?) how much that I do. He also wants to know when I'm going to "work". Ahhhhhh!!! I'm planning to work from home next year, but can't do everything now!!!

Can anyone help me get into a routine and get help from my "partner".

[flower]

Cant help you with reprogramming the partner.....maybe that could be a request for the little green men should they come. Ask for the HouseProud daddy chip.
Order one for me while your at it!
It takes me forever to find the remote....and then undo waht DS did to it.
I can never find my lip balms...eventually they turn up in his toy basket. And he hunts down the tissue box no matter where I hide it and quietly pulls out every single one.....the quiet is an alarm that he's hunted it down!
Let me know if you find the solution!
O's mom.

[BJelly]

If your hubby won't help out, maybe he could bring home a healthy takeaway dinner - it can last for a couple of meals. When I cook, I cook enough for a couple of nights, so that helps.

If I can't do exercise, I can usually fit in the vacuuming - it is pretty good exercise - and it keeps the house nice too!

As for the gardening, I'm the opposite, the garden's a mess at our house, but I manage to keep up the house - mind you I've just got the one child, and while I go in for a few hours one day a week to do our paperwork, I'm not studying. I think you've got a bit too much on your plate - no wonder you are feeling like you can't do everything. Would it hurt to defer your studies until your eldest is at school?

As for training men to help with housework ... if you work that one out you'll be a millionaire, because we all would want to know the answer to that one :D !

[MariaO]

Have you considered taking to your bed on a Saturday and just not getting up for a few hours. Sometimes I think the problem with us women is that we are just to competent. Everyone needs a break sometimes, working outside the home or not.

[stefnriotsmum]

i guess i got a good dh :) as he helps around the house especially when he knows that i'm tired. He has his own business and it calls for hardwork too, yet he still finds time to help and do stuff around the house, sometimes he's a bit particular about cleanliness though and he cooks as well as i'm not so particular too cooking myself :( i just wish i could find some work that i can do at home to earn some extra cash to help financially too since we have an 8mo dd and 10 yo ds

[stormanet]

HIya :)

My sister swears by this site for getting your house in order... http://www.flylady.com/

As far as hubby goes... i think a good boot up the bum might help :)

K

[JnA]

My DP once complained that I gave him DD as soon as he got home from work and didn't give him time to 'wind down'.
Then one day I didn't.. he didn't get a cup of coffee, had to listen to the cats meowing for their food, entertain the dog, watch what *I* had on the TV, almost ran over the washing, couldn't find a clean cup for the dishwasher hadn't been emptied and got dinner late...

now he takes her without a sound :)

[Lallas' Mum]

Hi 2Kids - I know where you're coming from. There's not enough hours in the day. I have two sons. One is 25mths and the other 7mths. I don't do paid work. I run the household so to speak. I found if I tried to get all the housework done so the house was spotless, dishes cleaned, meals cooked, clothes washed,ironed and hung, I simply didn't have time to stop and play with the kids. Then they would be cranky and then I would get cranky. All in all it never worked.

I seem to be on top of things more now. We have put our house on the market. We went through and packaged up everything that didn't get used or seldom got used. We had a big garage sale and at the end turfed the rest (gave it to charity). It made a big difference. If you have less stuff in the house there is less to clean.

Making meals that will do you for two nights really helps too. That way you are only cooking every second night.

As for hubby's. They will never appreciate what you do in a day until you are so sick you can't get out of bed and they have to stay home and look after the kids and the house. After that they seem to appeciate your hard work.