Is this better off left alone?

[Ange&Seth]

Ok, so I had this really close friend (I'll call her K) and she and DPs best mate (we'll call him C) were together on and off for a year or so. She's also DS's godmother. It was very rare for us to go more than 2 or 3 days without seeing eachother.

Anyway, she met another guy while out one night, broke up with C, and within a week was practically living with this new guy. Because of the close relationship between DP and C, I guess K thought that I'd take his side over hers. Truth is, I didn't take sides at all, but I was disappointed over the way she treated C. So K and I haven't really had much to do with eachother since this happened about 4 months ago.

Now, at the time I was of the opinion that if that's how she wanted to be, then I didn't care and that if I'd been given the chance, I would have approved of her with this new guy. As it was, I found out through someone else.

But truth of the matter is, I do care. I want her to be happy, I want DS to know her, I want to be able to catch up for coffee and hang out.

I've been thinking about it all night, and I emailed her, just basically saying hi and did she want to catch up but I got an auto reply saying that she's on leave for 2 weeks.

I guess what I'm after is this :- I have tried to contact her before now, but she's just been really formal and weird. Should I leave it be? Or should I txt her and try once more because maybe she's not sure how to handle our friendship after all that's happened?

Oh and that new guy? Well they're now living together and by all accounts, she's deliriously happy :smiliedance:

Thanks in advance guys, I really need some help here :o

(P.S. She also thinks that I don't trust her due to a betrayal a long time ago, even though I've assured her that there's no problem with that.)

[damien's mum]

I would probably give her a second chance, ONLY for the sake of her being in your child's life. It's hard, coz if you put yourself in her shoe's you would probably feel that it wasn't right to be friends with her, because your dh and her ex were such great friends..

It's really hard, but do what you feel you have to, what is going to make you happy, and put your mind at ease.. GoodLuck :fingerscrossed:

[Snuffys Mum]

It just sounds like a case of gross miscommunication. I'd contact her again and try to make a time to sit down, put it all on the table and move on from it. I'm sure down the track you'll both be laughing about it.

[Ange&Seth]

It just sounds like a case of gross miscommunication. I'd contact her again and try to make a time to sit down, put it all on the table and move on from it. I'm sure down the track you'll both be laughing about it.

Hopefully :fingerscrossed:

I was hoping to take DS to the park today and just txt K asking her if she wanted to have a picnic lunch with us, but it's raining :thumbsdown:

[Ange&Seth]

ok so here's the update - I txt'd her, we caught up for coffee (the new boyfriend was there too) and everything seemed to go really well.

I now just have to wait and see if today was a band-aid for the friendship or just an amicable way to say goodbye to it.

[M O P]

Ange I hope it works!

[iluvmeboyz]

i hope it all works out all the best

[Ange&Seth]

I now just have to wait and see if today was a band-aid for the friendship or just an amicable way to say goodbye to it.

Turns out that the coffee catch up was just an amicable way to say goodbye.

We played pool against eachother about a week or 2 after we met for coffee and she was SO fiercely competitive. It was like she HAD to beat me. As it was I beat her and she then didn't speak to me for the rest of the meet. At the end, I said to her in a really nice diplomatic way 'I love you and I miss you but I'm tired of being the one putting in the effort. So, it's up to you now' and I hugged her and left.

To date, I have not heard a thing from her at all.

So, I'm happy that she's happy :)

[Blessed Mum]

wow thanks for sharing. I have a friendship I have been wondering about a lot lately too, you sharing your story has given me some more to think about.

You are a great person to still be happy for her regardless :)

[Emma 80]

:hugs: You tried your best and like you said it's up to her now.

[Billy]

Good on you for trying- you did a great thing. You sound like a very forgiving, kind person and I am sure it is definitely her loss. :yes:


But, just because I am sure deep down it hurts a bit, have some of these :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:


xox

[proud_mama]

Well at least you gave it a shot hey....at least you wont spend the rest of your life thinking "what if?"

good on ya hun :thumbsup: :yelclap: