tell me why ?????

[munchkin05]

ive had the day from hell i just want today to end

but when it was getting all to much i rang the ex :confused: i used the excuse benno wanted to talk to him but i really just wanted to hear his voice
i so wanted just to sit there and tell him all my problems and hope he made it all go away
but i didnt

but why with everything that hes put me through did i want him to make everything good for me i just wanted to tell him and for him to come give me a hug

does anyone else ever feel like this ??
todays problems dont have anything to do with him even in the slightest little bit
but i still just wanted him
i must be the biggest d!ck around

sorry just had to get it out

[SweetSerenity]

You're not a d!ck...:hugs:

I was like this last time i seperated from my ex DH.. we used to talk to each other about our problems...

It will be habit that will just break over time....

When you're so used to talking with one person in particular on a daily basis, of course its going to be hard to just stop and not have that connection anymore...

Dont be hard on yourself hun:hugs: Its perfectly normal.

Love Ya...Nat xxx

[sarmelie]

Aww :hugs:
I'm the same, but with my mummy. Whenever im feeling horrendous, just dial her number :(

[Chanelc]

I think it is natural (so no your not a ****) as they know us well and we want them to support us - and we feel let down when they don't understand all we want is support through a hug or understanding.. it is a real bummer when they don't know how to react or what to do...regardless if we have moved on

SO SENDING YOU A BUG :hugs:
Hope your day gets better

[damien's mum]

I know i'm not a single mother, or in this thread...

But ang i know you well, and i think it's alright to feel like that, you and D shared alot of your lives together and went through alot of times, when he did give you that hug that made things seem alot better... It's alright to feel like that, well that's what i think anyways

You know i'm only around the corner if u need anything! :hugs:

[munchkin05]

thanks guys

it just ****s me cause after all the pain and everything that all i want is for the ex to make it all better for me

im feeling a bit better today
but a hug from him would make this problem go away and probley start another on

but oh welll its something that i have to deal with i guess

[SamanthaJane]

Everytime i feel like calling my ex i remind myself of numerous hurtful things he did while we were together. You have no idea how many things i can use against him, but i wont name them, because that would take days to write.

I also changed his name to "I hate him" or "Loser" or "Dont talk to him" LMAO in my phone a few times :devil6: I do that when i am really mad at him. I know it is so immature but it does work. Because it reminded me - hey, i don't need to talk to this guy lol.

Sometimes we get along great, we have a great chat and we happily talk to each other. I think it's good to have that relationship for Charlotte's sake, but for me to remind myself of WHY we split up, and WHY we can't be together, i change his name lol. It stops me wanting an intimate relationship with him.

I think its fairly normal to want that communication. We are human and i guess we still have feelings for people - no matter how my ex has hurt me i still feel for him. I think that's why we do it. It doesn't make us bad people, it just means we care.

[munchkin05]

ive got him as f u cken w anker im my phone lol but i still want to call him

ive been feeling so good about our break up and all that aswell even though i still hated him but i thought i had moved past wanting to be with him and one little thing stuffs up in my life and all i want is him

[damien's mum]

Comfortable.....

That's what it is dude, you are comfortable with him, he knows you and you know him, i honestly don't think you are "wanting" him personally, or are you?

It makes things alot easier to be accepted and being able to share what's made your bad hell with someone that knows you inside and out, and that you are comfortable with

[Snuffys Mum]

I've done this too :laughing: .

I think that it's just that when we're down or upset we need comfort and as much as we don't want to admit it, familiarity is comforting.

[munchkin05]

Comfortable.....

That's what it is dude, you are comfortable with him, he knows you and you know him, i honestly don't think you are "wanting" him personally, or are you?




i do but i dont

i just dont know what the heck i want anymore :confused:

[mummade3]

i wanted to say that u'll get over that feeling but i haven't 100% n we've been seperated for 7-8yrs.. we still have a love/hate relationship.. n it sucks.. but slowly its gettin there.. he tries to be best friend one min n then a-hole the next.. so i'm being strong.. god i hate being strong lol


his in my phone as homer..