Why is no-one happy for me to go for a 3rd?

[RuthK]

Hi

My DH and I have 2 beautiful children, aged 2.5 and nearly 1. We're currently making no.3. We've mentioned to a few family members that we are planning on having 1-2 more children, and apart from my sister who loves babies, everyone else can only think upon the negative. If I hear 'Not another one!', or 'don't you think you should wait awhile?' again I'm going to scream!

I had my first 2 in Ireland (husband is Irish) and over there 3-4 children is the norm and every pregnancy is welcomed.

Why is it that Australian's have become so entrapped in a 2 child only household and God forbid anyone who goes beyond that?

R

[shell]

hi if your happy with having a 3rd why worry what other people think . my sister is having number 3 , its up each person im going to only have 2 but thats me . So i think dont worry what they say it your life .


kylie
chloe 4 and a half months

[mummyb]

ok im moving to ireland :) ,i love the thought of family not cars houses holiday being valued so highly .
we have two DS and as soon as we had them people would say your not having anymore are you ???
what would you do with them all .
what if you have another boy (like my two are some horrible burden ) :mad:
more would be such a hassle for you .
people are so rude ,and i think sometimes they actually mean to be because nobody could be so insenstive over some thing as presious as children who i belive are agift from a heaven that should be loved above all else.
families are the back bone of our community no wonder our sense of community is so askew if this is now people feel about children .
do you live in sydney ?
good luck i hope you are blessed with as many babies as your heart can hold and from the sound of it that would mean you need a mini bus . :p

[Lucybelle]

Oh hell knows why people are like that. Maybe they had a really hard time with their own kids or something. Whatever!
I just keep my mouth shut about that sort of thing as there are too many rude, stupid people around. Its not as if you are having one to give to them.
Don't bother letting them know what names you have chosen before baby is born either. :mad:

[mamafelix]

Maybe a good response would be to quote Mother Teresa:
"How can there be too many children? That is like saying there are too many flowers."

I'm going for four myself, but I've been telling everyone that since Felix was born in the hope by the time I get round to #4 no-one will be at all suprised.

[StormAngel]

Hi there

everyone said that to me after i had my second, well haha to them now i have my fourth and wouldn't swap them for all the money in the world.
You just do what feels right for you.
Good luck :D

[Mumoffour]

Its amazing how rude people are. We are currently hatching #four and the response has been less than great. Ever since Iwas younger I wanted four kids. People say they cost soooooo much and yet i havent found that. :confused: I think also that people these days want the big house and the big car and the money to do everything and thats why people are saying they cant afford more than two. Go on and reap your blessings- children are a gift from heaven. :)

[mama2four]

We have our number four on the way, and I can't honestly say that it will be the last either. We have many the comment "was it planned?", "what are you doing?". Really it is so annoying!! Obviously it is about them and not about me. I think many people do look at the cost issue, but for us it is not. We don't have the big house or the big car, or the big salary but it has never been an issue for us. I read a quote recently by Mother Theresa, " How can one say there are too many children, it's like saying there are too many flowers". Say no more!!

[RuthK]

Girls

Very encouraging words. With luck we'll have confirmation of no.3 next week! :confused:

The latest beauty has come from my own mother!

"Remember (can't say her name), she had 3 close together and third one ended up spastic, that's what happens when you have children close together!"

It's so bizarre, I can only laugh at her ignorance.

How are you girls with 4 (or nearly 4) coping with the need for a bigger car? That's about the only catch we've found prior to starting No. 4 (after no.3 of course).

I'm also going to have one more small whinge. We have been lucky to conceive first time every go. I feel incredibly sorry for anyone who has trouble conceiving, it's not fair. However now the critics are saying that i should be feeling guilty for being so lucky! I think that I have come across a lot of hurdles in my life, it's about time I got some luck!

Aargh! :mad:

R

[moni]

hi ruth

if you and your hubby want more children what business is it of others. people do not have the right to tell you how many children you should have. (unless its a dr and he is only doing so for your health - but thats another story). My hubby and i are the youngest on his side and we have twin boys. My father in law is always telling us that we should have more. I am happy with the amount that i have and its up to the individual.

good luck and hope everything works out well.

[WeThree]

ah a topic that i can really relate to! Ruth, my husband and i had a child each when we met and it was our wish to have two of our own(which we have done) and i am amazed by the amount of people(usually family and friends, alot of strangers are always telling me what a beautiful family i have and how blessed i am) who seem to think that the amount of children we have is some sort of joke, as if 4 is such a huge amount of children, its not as if we have 15 or something and even if we did it would be noone's business but ours, we recieve nothing off the government and my children are always clean, well fed and well dressed. Do not let these jealous people put you off, there is nothing more wonderful than raising children with someone that you love and watching them develop relationships with each other, if your family keep harping on about it than just politely tell them that if your children offend them so much or are so annoying then dont bother coming to your home anymore ( something i ended up saying to my sister, there was alot of backpeddling on her part that day!) 1 child or 20 as long as you and they are happy thats all that matters, lots of luck for you and your lovely children, however many you have

[RuthK]

I was watching the original version of Cheaper By the Dozen the other day. It's a beautiful old movie. One of the classic quotes in it, when the father was organising the children in a singalong in the car was, turning to his wife "My dear, what fun we have with our 12. I often wonder how small families with only 6 children manage to enjoy themselves!"

[Michele Crocker]

Hi,

My name is Michele, and I have currently have four children and have another on the way. I like everyone else who has more than two children have been critized for having more than the national average. I haven't listened to them. At the moment no body knows that I am expecting again as I am just pregnant(due in November)and I am worrying what they are going to say. Well it is to bad if they don't like it because it is too late, I can't send it back.

Michele
Mother of Christopher, Luke, Melissa, Jayden&?(due in November)