Seperation anxiety

[indian mom]

Hi everyone
I was just wondering that whether seperation anxiety has any solutions.

I too suffer from this.My DD is 19 months old n has never been left alone with anyone n now she's so ...(I don't know what to write). So much new is happening to her everyday.I don't want to miss any bit of it but then again sometimes she throws such tantrums that I just want to run out of the mess.If she does not see me for even 5 min. (even in the home but another room)she starts crying n is unable to be consoled till i come n pick her up.


I really want her to be independent atleast a little bit.Please can anyone tell me what should be done so that everything is normal again for me n for her.

Thanx

[poshBecks]

It's a bit tricky when they start doing that :o Maybe taking her to a playgroup somewhere where she can learn to socialise with other children her own age might help a bit.

When ds started doing that when we dropped him off at nursery (during church) we learnt to just leave & after a few minutes he was right (usually).

I hope you can work it out soon!!

[SixtiesChild]

It may just be that your little girl just needs to become more confident to socialize around others. This would take time and patience and spending more time with people like yourselves.
You might be interested in joining a group of mothers and babies in a local playgroup. Or if you'd prefer, there are also some multicultural groups but you'd need to ask around.
You could also try asking the maternal health nurse about what to do because they have a lot of information for you and your baby. They know about such groups and how to contact them.
If you ask at the local library, they might have a weekly story time that small children can attend.
I hope this helps a little. Goodluck. :)

[JanetF]

Separation anxiety is a perfectly normal part of development which children work through at their own pace. Trying to "make" children be independent can often have the opposite effect because they're simply not developmentally ready so it pushes them into deep distress. Just support your child to be who they are and they will come out of it. My son is now 2 and in the last year he has gone from being very shy to walking up to people in restaurants just to say hi. All we did was let him be to do what he needed in his own time and always made sure he had the security of one parent at all times. He now knows he's safe and secure because he's come to it in his own time. He has never been in childcare, he goes to playgroup once a week with me, he has only ever been minded for very short periods of time and only ever by the small number of people he knows extremely well.