How to ask....

[Jaileth]

Not sure where this should got, but anyways....

We have a couple who are good friends of ours, and want to ask them to be the 'Godparents' (but with out the religious connontations) of our bub - but have no idea how to do it!

Any suggestions? Do your kids have godparents (or the like)? How did you ask them?

Thanks

[wattle]

We chose dh's brother and his wife to be Max's godparents. We asked them over for dinner, and I cooked something nice (can't remember what). At the start of dinner I brought out a bottle of nice champagne and put it on the table. They looked a bit surprised, and I said we had something to celebrate.

We then asked them (dh made a lovely little speech saying how special they are to us etc) and we hugged (us girls had a little tear or two) and had champagne and enjoyed the meal.

It was really lovely.

[catnapjack]

Shaelia, Im in a similar boat as I would like to have "Godparents" but without the religious obligations that traditionally come with the title. I know that kind of defeats the purpose, but for lack of any other title I suppose I will use it. Although I was thinking of asking my dear friend to be the Goddessmother ;)

As for how, I would also like tomake it special, so I'll sit back and watch the responses in this thread.

By the way, your cat looks absolutely divine. I adore black cats. :cool:

[BIANCA-mummy of 2]

Hi Shaelia,
I have 2 boys and when my 1st was born I chose my best friend from high school which at the time seemed gr8, although time went on and our friendship drifted due to moving on seperate ways in life etc. I would try to choose someone who is going to be there for your child always and someone you know you can rely on and that really loves your children like family. I think that being a "God parent" is a special thing and that those who are asked should be rapt. Either way it is done being asked to be someones childs godparent is a priveledge. Make it special and be sure that the people you choose are true. Good luck. ;)

[cosmic]

I've been thinking about this too. Is it normal to choose a couple, or is that not necessary? (I guess it's not necessary.. just wondering what the norm is). I have a friend who I might ask to be Godmother, but I wouldn't like her partner to be Godfather - probably my DH would choose a friend of his. Would their respective partners be a little put out? :rolleyes:

[drewid]

Hi Cosmic

I don't think thats strange at all. One of my brothers' godparents are my mums brother and sister. As far I am aware, theres never been any concern from their respective partners.

I think the kind of people you wouldn't choose, are probably people that wouldn't want to be, in any case! If you know what I mean.

[nemosmum]

We didnt choose a couple, O's godfather is DH's best friend and his godmother is one of my dearest friends. We choose them before O was born and we just asked them, nothing special LOL I feel a bit lame now!

Any way I picked the godmother as she is the most wonderful person I know, very sweet and very intuned with her spirituality!
DH chose the godfather becoz he admires this particular friend and believes he will make a great role model for O when he gets older (teenage years etc)

We choose them as more like mentors for O then godparents!

[Jaileth]

Thanks catnapjack - I picked her (or she picked me :confused: ) while she was asleep - she is just too cute! :D

We don't get to see the people we want to ask very often - do you think it would be rude or impolite to ask via a letter?

[rynosmum]

We chose a long-time firend of my husband's as Ry's Godfather. His mother passed away a fortnight before Ry's birth and whilst he and I had never been that close (although I always thought highly of him), the first thing he said when he came to the hospital was that he was at peace with his mother's passing because whilst her life had ended, Ry's had only just begun. He then cuddled Ry tightly and I knew he was the right guy.

Two of my closest girlfriends are Ry's Godmothers.

He's surrounded by people who love him and who he can respect as he grows up - that's the whole purpose of it !

Best of luck choosing yours ! :)

[Jaileth]

We ended up asking them last night - should hear the final verdict tomorrow, as GD (god dad) has to check with his dw, who wasn't able to make it. :(

He was so excited tho - and it was the last thing he was expecting, so the look on his face was priceless. He's going to ask his dw tonight when he gets home - can't wait to see what she says.

[Jaileth]

Oh, and thank you all for your suggestions - we ended up just coming out and asking (while we were having dinner out). It was a really lovely night - still can't get over how excited he was :D

[carls]

Just a tip on making someone Godparents - make sure they are going to stick together! A very silly friend of mine made a couple Godparents of their child, and about 6 months later they broke up. One moved to Melbourne, the other to Ireland and neither gives a flying toss about the little girl.
So the mum then went and found another guy (a friend) to be the 'Godfather' and hasnt even bothered to tell the real Godparents. I have no idea if this is a legally binding thing, but she seems to tell anyone that fits the bill that they are a Godparent! :confused: :mad:

Obviously my friend doesnt really know the meaning of Godparent or the responsibilities that go with it - I think she did it to make her friends feel wanted.

Sorry, didnt want to rain on the parade - just thought I would let everyone know that its a decision not to be taken lightly by both sides. :)

[Jaileth]

It is a good tip carls - you don't want the child to be left 'high and dry' so to speak.

[nemosmum]

Yes Carls is right, it happened to DH's closest friend when he had his first bub, at the time his girlfriend didnt like DH very much so she picked another friend of ours and his gf.

Well they didnt last out the year and four years on never see their little boy, DH on the other hand has a very close r'ship with their son. With their second bub they decided on DH as the Godfather and I have to say, even if Im biased LOL its a much better choice :p