Organsing your own baby shower

[whiteynow]

Im a very fussy person and i love and appriciate when people do things for me but a baby shower was really something i saw myself organising.
But the other day i sat down with dp and he told me that he is going to do everything.... he want to organise the whole thing so i thought why not, i can just give him a list of names of who i would like to invite.
Dp and I threw a baby shower before our god daughter was born and we done such a great job so he knows how i would like things for the day....
Do you think im being to fussy about my baby shower?? I think maybe just because it my first child that i was it perfect.
I also just dont want to put dp to too much trouble either.

[mum2peanut]

I say let him do it. He knows what you like, and you deserve to have someone do it for you. My sister threw me a surprise baby shower and it was great. (I'm a perfectionist so I know where you are coming from)

[iluvmeboyz]

i say let him to it for you and you can relax and enjoy it all

wheni have another one i hope to have it in melb where my all good frinds are that i speak to on another forum there great better then some ppl i know,but i would let him do it

[Snuffys Mum]

Yep I think you're being too fussy.
He obviously really wants to do something special for you so I'd let him.

[tanni_83]

i want to organise my own too. Only because its our 2nd child and i doubt anyone else will think of it :rolleyes: I didnt get one for my 1st pregnancy, i was going to organise one but my aunt said she would and it never happened coz she just "didnt get around to it" her words.

So this time im going to do it myself so i know i get something :o

[the_original_duchess]

why dont you both organise it, thats what me and grant are doing.

[lizzymcfizzy]

I know where you are coming from, I have just organised my own shower because I'm an organisation nazi and wanted to do it my way :D

But since you and your partner have done one together before, I'd leave it in his capable hands, he knows what you like and sounds like he is willing to please. It would mean alot to him if you'd trust him to do it.

[liv78]

just after some advice on baby showers. I'm planning to organize my own - is it rude to ask for "gift vouchers" from specific stores. We have alot on lay by it's 3 shops in total! Honest opinions welcome & thanks in advance!

[ETsMum]

just after some advice on baby showers. I'm planning to organize my own - is it rude to ask for "gift vouchers" from specific stores. We have alot on lay by it's 3 shops in total! Honest opinions welcome & thanks in advance!

No - I don't think it is rude to ask. Some people will appreciate that their money is not going to be wasted on things that you don't want - I do think that it is rude to 'expect' only that tho - IYKWIM?

[she_rambles]

I don't think it's rude to ask for specific things, but I'd present it as just being a suggestion, not a specific request ... depending on who you're inviting, there will be people who really appreciate the guidance because they'll be lost as far as what to buy, but also it might be the first opportunity some of the guests have had to buy for babies, and they might really enjoy getting to pick and choose a few things. I was the first out of my friends to have a baby, and of the guy friends, they all just went out and bought exactly what I asked for, but my girl friends all talked about how great it was getting to buy for a baby for the first time ever. Although one of the girls bought a dog shirt, thinking it was a baby shirt. That had us all a little confused for a few minutes, til we tipped the shirt up and realised what it was.


As for organising your own baby shower ... I think if your partner wants to do it, let him. Presumably he'll know what you want, and it's just a couple of hours of your life, no big deal if it's not exactly how you want it to be.

[Isabeau]

I organised my own I wish there had been someone that wanted to do it that much for me

[taurusmum]

Maybe I read too many etiquette books but they all say that you and your immediate family shouldn't organise your own shower- basically it's a way of saying- Come over and buy me stuff. It's apparently OK for inlaws and friends to host one for you. I know that overseas it's common for mothers to have a gift registry at a particular shop for presents, don't know how well that would go down here though.

[kirstyE]

I held my own shower but only because my mother wanted too but lived ages away, and MIL is ages away in the other direction--the obvious choice was to hold it at mine. So I organised it! My friends were just excited to be invited and visit me.

[danik]

I was the same. And DH helped out at the baby shower and it was great! He greeting the girls at the door, made sure they got a glass of fizz, offered food around and took charge of the games, all with a bit of organising by me but at least I had it all done my way!

My girlfriends all love DH and liked having him there because they also knew how excited he was about us having a baby. He got to enjoy the celebrations also.