wow we really are obsessed with weight loss.

[Lirael]

:( I find it kinda sad, when I read about mums giving birth and straightaway trying to lose every gram they gained during pregnancy.

you have just had a baby! surely there are better things to be caring about.

Celebs really irk me, they set such a bad example alot of the time, they have a baby then 2 weeks later they have washboard abs and weigh less than they did pre pregnancy:eek:

hello! thats not healthy. or close to being realistic.
it gives people such stupid ideas about losing the'baby weight'

'I only ate prawns'
'I exercised for 8 hours a day'
"I got a tummy tuck and lipo along with my c section'

yeah. cos there all things to be bragging about.

why cant we all have good examples to look to?
healthy and realistic weightloss goals.

some women(and one in particular I know personally) starve themselves during pregnancy so they dont gain too much weight.:(

why are we like this? (by we I mean society today) why are we not 'allowed' to gain alot of weight when we are creating life?
why do we feel so pressured to lose all the weight and then some, within weeks of our childrens births?

[1st-timer@34]

Yes what you said makes sense but for me it is the opposite. I don't look at the thin people and say oh I need to be thin, I watch shows that have those really obese people and think I do not want to be like that. I just want to be healthy and that means I have to lose some weight.

[hippee]

Well thats what we try and do here.. Support each other in getting back to a fit and healthy weight range, in a reasonable time frame.
:thumbsup:

[Areca]

I just have to say....there are some of us who go back to being thin really quickly. I was back in size 8 clothes a week after having DD, size 6 after 3 weeks. I ate well and exercised when I was pg but I never over did it and never went hungry (I ate like a pig, I just healthy food, I gained 14kg).
Except for the occassional walk (maybe once a week) I did nothing until DD was 6 weeks old. I then went back to the gym because I love the gym, it is my second home and I was really missing it. I had the all clear from my doctor first and stayed off a bike for 3 months, because I was advised to by my doctor.
Just wanted to give a view from the other side. There was a tv show not too long ago bagging skinny celebrities and was bagging celebrities for losing weight too quick after birth and they said that no one could do that without starving themselves and without a personal traine/chef/nanny etc. I was deeply offended because they were insulting and I never starve myself and I have never had a personal trainer/my own chef/a nanny etc.
For me it's a simple case of not wanting to let myself go and using the excuse that I had a kid as the reason. The sooner I get back into exercise the easier it is for me to get back into and stay in shape.

Do you really think the diets the magazine's say celeb's are on to lose the post baby look are factual? I mean seriously, how on earth would they know!

[Lirael]

I just have to say....there are some of us who go back to being thin really quickly. I was back in size 8 clothes a week after having DD, size 6 after 3 weeks.

size 6.......

sorry, but I dont know anyone who is a size six so that must be really tiny. which means you prolly werent even 55 kilos full term.(correct me if im wrong please)

and I am in no way believeing what the magazines say. I am not stupid.

[Queen]

Yes it is sad how obsessed we are with our weight, and that we think we should be back to our "pre-baby" shape 2 weeks after birth.

Some people are lucky, and once that bub has popped they ARE their "pre-baby" shape, and happy with it....
I am not one of them, I did get back to my "pre-baby" shape immediately after birth, but that was fat too:o I was fat before, during and after my pregnancy...hell I still am.....

Stars have personal trainers, chef and people to look after their bubs, while they work out all day everyday...but I have a happy well bonded baby which no amount of weight loss or gain could replace.....
I chose spending hours with DD laying on me, snuggling with her over doing exercise...and I would do it all over again in heart beat....:yes:

[kiah]

size 6.......

sorry, but I dont know anyone who is a size six so that must be really tiny. which means you prolly werent even 55 kilos full term.(correct me if im wrong please)

and I am in no way believeing what the magazines say. I am not stupid.

I was smallish to begin with I think. So it hasn't taken me too long to get back to a size 8. But I eat well and have always exercised thru my pregancies. I was 62 kilos the day i had each of my children. I gained the exact amount of weight (10kg) with each pregnancy and my children weighed the exact same.

I sometimes wear between size 6 -8 depending on the make. I wore the same pants thru my pregnancies with my enormous belly hanging over the top. And it was enormous at the end.

I never deny myself healthy food or any amount of it. And I made sure while preganant that I had an adequate supply of all types of food. I have to be extra careful because I have a weak heart.

However I believe strongly that there are ridiculous celebrities women in particular who use their fame to push the wrong sort of ideas about weightloss after children onto other mums in the world. They disturb me and disgust me for encouraging things like starvation and over exercising. It is far from realistic.

I have learnt to not let them bother me because in the long run they don't really care about their health or whats happening to their bods on the inside. I do what I can do for my body and what fits in with my family.

But it is possible for some women, particularly if they have been very fit and healthy their whole lives to ease back into their bodies a bit more. From having children I feel I am able to eat better and be a healthier and even more fit person than I ever have been before.

Have a great weekend everyone

:hugs:

[SweetSerenity]

I agree...

I think there is too much pressure these days to be smaller quickly after giving birth...

I honestly didnt think of losing weight till 8months after my son was born and i lost all the baby weight in three months :thumbsup:

At the moment... Even though i am trying and want to lose 3kg or so... i have to say i am happy with how i am... if i maintained this weight i would be quite happy for the rest of my life. I actually like my body and think its healthy looking and womanly :D Im a size 12 and quite happy with that.

A thing i realised the other day (which led to me feeling happier about my body) is, i was talking with mum and said "Im finally content with my body and who i am" and she said "Finally Nat !!" lol....I said to her as much as i want to lose only a couple of kilo's, i cant control where exactly those kilos come off iykwim... so i could lose another 2 kilos, but it may not come off my legs, it may come from my upper body or elsewhere... which then leads to you wanting to lose even more because it hasnt dropped off where you were hoping too... i think its honestly just about healthy eating and exercise as exercise will keep you fit all over and burn fat all over (depending on what you do)...

So thats where i am at this point... quite happy with myself.:yes:

ETA: There's a healthy weight and size for everyone... depending on your build, height and shape...we're all different. I dont think generalising sizes is good...i have seen healthy size 6 girls aswell as unhealthy size 6 girls...same with size 12 or 14...12 is healthy for me (i am 174cm tall and medium build) but for someone who is short and small build, a 12 is most likely not healthy....We're all just different and we all look our healthiest at different sizes and weights:yes:

[SamanthaJane]

I look at myself in the mirror and i hate what i see. Whether i had a baby a week ago or whether i had a baby 4 months ago isn't really the point to me. I see what i see and i hate what i see.

During pregnancy i didn't give 2 hoots what i ate, i was so hungry, so i ate everything! :laughing:

The end result... I put on 18kg and by the time i had come home from hospital i had lost 10 or 12, can't remember.

I now have 4 kgs left to lose. They just wont budge. And while i am back to my usual size 8 and 10 i am not happy. I'm not happy because i still have a saggy belly that is so horrible :thumbsdown:

I am trying to work it off tho, so hopefully all this gym workouts will take it away lol :fingerscrossed:

I'm working on my body the best i can because i want to for myself. I don't care what other people think, i just want to see myself and be somewhat pleased lol.

However, i think celebrities really work themselves because of what the media will say. And really, that's the media's fault, not the celebrity's. When you are in the hollywood world and everyone is busily obsessing over the way you look, you would groww so conscious over the way you are portayed. I'm sure the celebrity would rather sit at home and relax with their baby, rather than spend 5 hours a day at the gym with their personal trainer, all to impress the media.

[WeThree]

size 6.......

sorry, but I dont know anyone who is a size six so that must be really tiny. which means you prolly werent even 55 kilos full term.(correct me if im wrong please)

and I am in no way believeing what the magazines say. I am not stupid.

She said she was size 6 a few weeks AFTER having the baby, some people are just tiny.

[Melo]

She said she was size 6 a few weeks AFTER having the baby, some people are just tiny.

:yes: Just their body make :)

[Little Gorilla]

I think starting to exercise when you feel ready after having a baby is a great thing...not only for you physically, but mentally as well.

And not always with bubs...I can't tell you how good I used to feel when I just went on a half hour slow walk around the neighbourhood by myself a few weeks after bub was born:thumbsup: . I collected my thoughts and also had a bit of a de-stress....I think that is a huge benefit of exercise for new mummies too.

I'm currently trying to loose 2 dress sizes so I can start trying for #2 at the end of the year...I wish I had taken care of my health after I had bubs as well as I did while I was pregnant (I was sooooo healthy).

[Mum2Tyla]

Hi,
I agree that we can focus too much on our weight but there are people that are naturally tiny and weeks after having a baby dont look like they were ever pregnant I am not one of these people I put on 34kgs wih my daughter, I was very fit before I had her went to the gym 6 days a week ate very healthy but i had a very bad pregnancy and was unable to exercise, I have lost most of the weight but still hate my body I have loose skin, stretch marks and saggy boobs but she was worth all of it, my partner got me a treadmill yesterday so i hope that will help budge the last few kilo's, I think there is nothing wrong with wanting to lose weight as long as you dont obsess about it and you do it in a healthy way
Kelly

[nickalex]

Funny thing is i don't want to get back to the weight I was before I got pregnant. Anyone who knows me would say that I don't look overweight, I am according to BMI but I am a gym goer which does make a difference.
Before I had children I weighed between 50 and 55 kilos, I didn't eat properly and it was my job which burnt off the unhealthy food that I ate. I had to put on weight and start eating properly before I could conceive my first son.
I put on 26 kilos with that pregnancy and 5 years later 2 more pregnancies and I weigh 68 kilos.
I want to get down to about 60 kilos as I feel this is a sustainable weight for me. I don't want to deprive myself anymore or go crazy because I can't fit into a certain size. I prefer the healthy look myself, I want to look as though I am up for anything.
Yes I don't like my body all that much at the moment but I am off the couch, I work out most days even though I have to go to the gym at 6 now that Nic won't tolerate the creche and I mostly eat healthy. Bugger starving myself I need to look after myself and I have 3 people who depend on me to be fully functional everyday.
I have my bad days where I'll go out but only with my 3 kids as most people would say I look great for having such young ones close together. They are like a shield against a world that would say I am a bit blubby.
I try to enjoy the size that I am,after all I didn't appreciate my pre baby body at all. Sometimes for prespective I will look at slimming magazines and read the success stories and think look at how happy these people are, they aren't skinny skinny but they glow and how lucky am I that I havn't got so far to go to get where I want to be.

[SassyMummy]

I'm currently losing weight, but it's only because I was getting to the "gonna die of a heart attack soon enough" zone... you know, where you started chubby, got fatter and then had to switch from regular shops to plus-size shops (and then noticed you were beginning to creep up in their sizes too!)?

DD is 19 months old mind you, so it's taken for that long to give much of a damn. While I really don't like the way I look, it's my health that has me really concerned... and the impact my weight will have on DD. I don't want her to think it's okay to binge on junk and get fatter and fatter each month. It's not.

I've decided to accept that I'll never have my pre-preg body back though (not that it was all that stunning anyway). I had a baby for Christ's sakes... of COURSE I'm gonna look different from now on. My skin is full of sag, and stretch marks... but it's just a consequence of having a beautiful daughter.

I'm a mother, not a supermodel. It really shouldn't matter how big or small I am... so long as I am healthy (or trying get there).

[Areca]

size 6.......

sorry, but I dont know anyone who is a size six so that must be really tiny. which means you prolly werent even 55 kilos full term.(correct me if im wrong please)

and I am in no way believeing what the magazines say. I am not stupid.


I'm currently (at 14 weeks pg) 53.5kg. I am also 5'8" or 172cm tall. I'm tall and skinny and before joining a gym to gain weight (muscle) I was 48kg. When I was full term with DD I weighed 65kg.
ETA thanks coops...yes size 6 a few weeks after having DD. I left the hospital (when DD was 2 days old) weighing 54kg.

Also in no way do I think it's a good thing for a new mum to neglect what their body needs in order to look like they did before they had their baby. My body does look different...it's small, but different, and I'm perfectly ok with that. I do think that moderate exercise is healthy for everybody (unless they're going against doctor's advise) and like it was said, it's great for you mentally as well as physically. If I'm having a rough week with DD my DP will make sure I can get to the gym (say if DD is sick and not able to go to the creche) because he knows I handle things so much better if I've had my stress reliever!
I just wanted to say that not every thin mum has starved themselves and neglected their baby to get that way! I'm not saying you do think that necessarily but unfortunately there are people that do.