sharvs
24-02-2007, 09:49
I've tried talking to friends, family, a social worker - nothing is helping. Maybe getting it out here will help.
My partner has been overseas with the Army since Sept. This deployment has been really hard on both of us. We have a 14 month old son & he's been away for about 11 months of his life. We've been together 6 years, engaged for 3. Early this year he asked me to take off my engagment ring because he didnt feel ready to commit.
Since then things have gone from bad to worse. We cant talk to each other anymore without things getting nasty. He wants to live a single mans life and cant see why that makes me angry. He is coming home early April - it will be the first time he has seen us in 7 months - hes told me he will be home for 2 weeks, then he is going to Europe with mates for 2 weeks before he goes back to work. He cant see why that makes me so angry.
He had the opportunity to come home for 2 weeks in January but he chose to go to Europe with mates instead.
We are trying to seperate now but i think neither of us really wants it, we are just saying stuff to hurt each other. He is messed up - im messed up. I'm here in QLD with my son, all my family is in SA - i have friends but i think they are getting sick of hearing all my problems - its like im stuck in a soap opera because everytime things start to look up, he drops another bomb shell on me.
He's admitted to me that he doesnt know why he is acting the way he is and he will probably live to regret the decisions he has made but he isnt helping himself - Im thousands of kilometers away and i am useless to do anything.
My partner has been overseas with the Army since Sept. This deployment has been really hard on both of us. We have a 14 month old son & he's been away for about 11 months of his life. We've been together 6 years, engaged for 3. Early this year he asked me to take off my engagment ring because he didnt feel ready to commit.
Since then things have gone from bad to worse. We cant talk to each other anymore without things getting nasty. He wants to live a single mans life and cant see why that makes me angry. He is coming home early April - it will be the first time he has seen us in 7 months - hes told me he will be home for 2 weeks, then he is going to Europe with mates for 2 weeks before he goes back to work. He cant see why that makes me so angry.
He had the opportunity to come home for 2 weeks in January but he chose to go to Europe with mates instead.
We are trying to seperate now but i think neither of us really wants it, we are just saying stuff to hurt each other. He is messed up - im messed up. I'm here in QLD with my son, all my family is in SA - i have friends but i think they are getting sick of hearing all my problems - its like im stuck in a soap opera because everytime things start to look up, he drops another bomb shell on me.
He's admitted to me that he doesnt know why he is acting the way he is and he will probably live to regret the decisions he has made but he isnt helping himself - Im thousands of kilometers away and i am useless to do anything.