Peadiatrician with roaming hands

[princessarra]

I'm not sure where to put this but im going to put it here anyways.Ive been seeing miss 2s peadiatrician since Febuary last year. She has been quite sick in her younger life and is still recovering. I switched peadiatricians to this one as a girlfreind told me he was much nicer and politer than the last one i had, who i was having issues with. Since ive been seeing him he does things like puts his hand on my leg and shoulder, has told me i'm thin and i look nice even though i'm a very hefty size 22 and tells me things like i deserve a medal and i'm an amazing person and i do an amazing job and that he belives in me. This does make me feel uncomfortable sometimes and when i go to see him i try to take mr 13 or mr 4 with me to divert his attention but this method very rarely works as he always comes back to me no matter who i'm with. Everyone ive spoken too says his just eccentric or a lonely old man with no life and not to worry about it as that's just him. I don't want to appear ungreatful or unappreciative for everything he has done for me as he really has bent over backwards, especialy when miss 2 was in hospitaL to make things more comfortable for me when at the end of the day he didn't have to do anything. I'm really unsure of what i should do about this without loosing him as miss 2s peadiatrician or causing him offence as thats the last thing i want to do.

[cheekypossum]

That is a terrible situation to be in.....

I would just ask him if he would not mind touching you....just be honest other wise it will eat you away. I am having a similar situation but with a close family member and it is just eating me away, I always try to make excuses but I am at the point now where I can't do taht anymoe.....I don't watn the person near me nor my daughter

:fingerscrossed: it sorts itself out....

Does the Dr have a receptionist? Maybe you could try having a quiet word with her?

[Bibs]

It's a tricky situation isn't it? He may take offence no matter how you say it but then again he may not. I do think you need to say something if you feel uncomfortable, no matter how amazing he is or how greatful you are to him. I do think it's better if he hears it from you instead from someone else though, or else it could be miscommunicated. Good luck:fingerscrossed:

[princessarra]

No he does not have a receptionist as such..... i see him at the hospital. Normaly when he his holding clinic the nurses keep a safe distance away from him to give him privacy mainly. I mean it's not like i asked for him to like me or him to give me any of the favours that he has given me. I just accepted them in the spirit they were given in. I didn't think there was any strings attached to them. I just want things to be the way they were between us.

[iluvmeboyz]

thats a tricky one

[princessarra]

Maybe this is just another sign that my life is really ****ed up and that i deserve everything thats happening to me.

[AM]

If it were me, I would simply very firmly remove his hand, or even block it, until he got the idea.

What a **** thing to be putting up with!:thumbsdown:

And if he does not get the message, swap to someone else.

[princessarra]

I know i should not put up with it....... I come from a situation where i was nothing but bombarded withj negative and miss 2 being sick was all my faul (or at least that's what i percived) then this older dr comes in and sayus things like your an amazing person and i belive in you. I had no support or anything. I did rely on him alot but now i'm back on my own 2 feet and recovered from this nightmare i was living in and now his advances and support is just making this difficult. Maybe he is just a lonely old man who life has passed him by. Maybe this is my own fault. I just don't know

[Lastcenturymum]

Maybe this is just another sign that my life is really ****ed up and that i deserve everything thats happening to me.


Whoa! you need to stop being so down on yourself. I don't know much about you, but you are raising 3 kids, obviously gone thru a lot with your youngest...give yourself a pat on the back:yelclap:

If you are uncomfortable with his behaviour, then it's not appropriate. You have every right to tell him that you don't appreciate it, though you appreciate what he has done.

I hate those older smarmy people who think they can get away with treating people like that. It's like they are using their authority to put you down (non verbally) make you feel the victim. If he says he's not doing anything wrong, remind him you arent' the patient and if you aren't comfortable then it's wrong.

And don't forget to give yourself another pat on the back. Stuff happens in life and it's not punishment or reward. It's just part of life.:hugs:

[princessarra]

I mean i don't love him and don't want to be with him......i dont want to feel like i gave the impression earlier on that i did. I never told him previously to stop because i had noone and i did need him. I needed his encouragement to get through. This isa why i feel i brought this apon myself.

[Celebrity]

Sounds like a great self esteem booster! What's his number?

[princessarra]

his number is 1800lonelysadoldman........ you can also contact him at Loner@hotmail.com. His website is lonelyoldmanontheprowlornot.com.au

[iluvmeboyz]

If it were me, I would simply very firmly remove his hand, or even block it, until he got the idea.

What a **** thing to be putting up with!:thumbsdown:

And if he does not get the message, swap to someone else.

i agree

[mum_I'm_hungry]

Yuck. Why don't you change doctors? I had a neurologist once who used to touch me on the knee and I didn't feel right about it. It's funny, because I also had an ENT who did this and I just knew it was who he was -- he was a friendly, touchy kind of doctor and I felt fine with it. Good, even. But the neurologist -- no way. It's a gut thing and if you feel like it's not right for you, you should definitely change doctors. I don't think there's much point in saying anything to him as you're still going to feel uncomfortable around him and there won't be any trust. If you're in a public situation and don't feel you can change, I'd write and ask to change doctors (being diplomatic), or phone and ask to speak to the head of the obstetric department. Good luck!

[princessarra]

Ask tweedledum-tweedle dee why not..... she knows who he is. She told he he did it to her girlfreind too.

[iluvmeboyz]

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