No sex drive

[secondtimearound2]

Went to doctor last night for having no sex drive and ended up walking out with anti-depressants and diagnosis of pnd. Today I feel really really bad, scared and worst of all a let down to my family.
Has anyone else lost thier sex drive?? Why isn't this question in the survey you do at the CHN clinic?? Do you think the doctor was very quick to give me meds?? Should I get a second opinion?? Please help :crying: .

[Lirael]

um hun, most antidepressants lower your sex drive.

I do think your doctor was quick to give you meds.

do you have anyone you can talk to? I lost my sex drive but that was cos my ex treated me like cr@p and I felt physically repulsive

[mama2cierra]

:yes: I dont have much of a sex drive anymore, well no where near as good as it was!!
but i think its because of my contraception method and hormones

and being tired and making it the lowest on the list of priorities... yaddyada :o
but i think the DR may have misdiagnosed you
was your low libido the only thing you talked about with your DR?

[Leeny]

I havent had a sex drive for years, the only reason i ended up pregnant was out of pitty for dh really:o :laughing: Not that i regret it ofcourse, i have dd :)

Anyhow, i think your dr was deffinately too quick to play the anti-depressants card.

I feel that too many dr's play the postnatal depression card. If a women has no sex drive, there could be other reasons. Anti-depressants are not the answer for that, as someone else said, alot of them lower libido.

Its just my opinion ofcourse, but i'd deffinately be getting a second opinion. :hugs: to you.

[secondtimearound2]

:yes: I dont have much of a sex drive anymore, well no where near as good as it was!!
but i think its because of my contraception method and hormones

and being tired and making it the lowest on the list of priorities... yaddyada :o
but i think the DR may have misdiagnosed you
was your low libido the only thing you talked about with your DR?


He asked a few questions, then basically said you've got a mild case of pnd he also suggested a psycoligest(s?) too. I was sexully abused as a child. I think my problem lays there not with the kids iykwim. I'm to embarrassed to talk to friends and don't really wont to talk to family cause it was a family member who did this to me!!

[mama2cierra]

oh ok bear :hugs: to you

yea it sounds quite natural to have low libido
is it really detrimentally affecting your life now?

[New to Sydney]

How you going?

i naturally have quite a low libido as well. One of the things that influences mine is the pill (apart from the fact that it makes me completely :devil6: ).

i think the GP was way too fast in diagnosing pnd. It could be any number of things especially seeing you were abused as a child (know where you are coming from :hugs: ), having your own children can bring up a lot of supressed feelings.

I would definitely suggest seeing a psychologist, they can be really helpful if you find the right one, and it will make you feel better than just taking some meds and feeling like you are letting your family down.

Talk to your GP, because there is a new Medicare rebate available for psychologists so I won't cost very much, if anything as some bulk bill now.

Good luck hope you feel :) soon!

[secondtimearound2]

oh ok bear :hugs: to you

yea it sounds quite natural to have low libido
is it really detrimentally affecting your life now?

No I guess not. Hubby has been very supportive and understanding god bless him. I just feel really bad about it.

Why does this stuff come up now. I just wish it would go away :gloomy: . I think I've dealt with it but it just keeps coming back. Will I ever get over it??

[secondtimearound2]

Thanks Cassie :kiss: Have you got over it??

[ThreePinkFaireez]

I'm on anti depressants, and have a very very low sex drive.... nothing compared to what it used to be.

Worse since after DD2.

It's such an effort to get into the mood... poor DP.... if I was you I'd get a 2nd opinion, it couldn't hurt!

[BJelly]

If it's any help, I totally lost my libido when pregnant and while BF - once bubs turned oneish I started to feel more like my old self. Hormones sure are powerful things. I'm not sure how tired or exhausted you are, but that really doesn't help things in the libido department either.

Hope things improve for you soon:fingerscrossed:

[secondtimearound2]

Thanks everyone. I think I will go see a naturapath and psych now and not listen to the advise from that stupid doc :shame: . Been doing a bit of reading and also talked to my cmhn, I really don't have any other symptoms. A big thank-you for your thoughts and kind words. :hugs:

[New to Sydney]

hi again,

I am pretty much cool with it now. It took a long while, it also helps that my MIL is a psychologist (hence my extremely pro-psychologist point of view).

The only time it really affects me is when I am watching tv and someone is attacked, that really gets me, I find it very difficult to watch.

It doesn't really affect my sex-drive, although you could put down my low libido to an after affect of it. It could also be the fact that I have two kids 3 and 3months! lol!

Good luck with seeing the Naturopath and psych. xx :hugs:

[motherlylove]

i lost my sex drive am still looking for it..no pnd here . Just think me personal as a mother i have other things to do with my time and its not a necessity for me

[Zada]

still looking for mine after 3 yrs too

[mama kare]

i have no sex drive since being on the zyprexa (mor e info on that in other threads)..

its made seperating from my babys father much easier as i feel detached.

[aardvark]

I find I have a lower libido when I am breastfeeding, PND or not.

Then the other problem I have is that the mind is willing, but the body would prefer some extra sleep! And DH is a bit of a night owl, so when he finally crawls into bed after whatever late show on the SciFi channel on foxtel, I'm not waking up for frolicking!

I had PND with #1, and was not diagnosed until she was 18 months old. There are lots more symptoms than just lack of libido for PND. Did the doctor go through a questionnaire with you? There is a questionnaire for depression for aiding diagnosis.