Friends children very naughty!

[mumma_jessy]

We have soem good friends who we get along with really well, but unfortunately their boys are very naughty.

As much as we love to spend time with them, it is getting to the point where we are going to have to start making excuses not to see them. My DS is usually a very quiet, happy and co-operative child, but when these boys are over he becomes like them, rude, violent and won't listen to a word we say.

I understand that it is hard, sometimes you can't control your children, sometimes you have tried everything and your child is still hard to manage, but these friends are really not very good at managing thier children or their behaviour, in fact if they get told off here it's by us and not their parents.

I don't know what to do, as i said they are great friends, i get along really well their mum and DF gets along really well with their Dad, but their kids are so naughty. They are rude, hit, pull, yell and generally make DS naughty and DD miserable. I don't think i can say anything to them without hurting their feelings or hitting a nerve though can I?

[mum2bubba]

Thats a hard one esp if the parents don't discipline (one of my many pet hates). I think its best to just have a quiet word with the children and their parents, you don't have to be nasty about it or anything, I have had times when we've had kids over (with their parents) and they run amuck (as kids do) I usually wait until/if the parent/s say anything to them but if they don't I calmly but sternly say to the child(ren) "please don't do this or that" (or whatever needs to be said).
I think if they are jumping all over the funiture etc then maybe suggest they go outside for a bit and let them and their parents know that its your house your rules (esp if they are doing something inapropriate or dangerous such as jumping off funiture etc). Another thing maybe get some toys/games etc (or suggest they bring their own) so they can all play nicely together.
At the end of the day the only thing you can do is just have a quiet word to everyone.

[mysonroger]

i was just about to start a thread about something similar. since my almost 3yo Ds has befriended this other boy, who is the 4.5yo son of a good friend of mine, DS has started saying 'kill you' and 'you must die' while he is pointing some sort of toy or implement point blank at my or DD's face.

this has definitely been picked up from the other boy and to be honest, i feel that not even 3 yo is too young for a child to be speaking about killing me or whoever. to be honest, even if he was 10 i wouldn't let him get away with it.

has anyone been i n this situation and what do you recommend i do. i'll try to address it from this end but do you think its too much to ask my friend to ask her son to stop telling DS he needs to die and he is going to be killed.......even if they don't fully understand the impact of what they're saying.

[lovingmotheract]

you see thats what i don't get this day in age everyone is i'll keep it to my self. I say if you don't like what is happening in yor home to YOUR child say some thing and if some thing is happening to MY child i would say some thing to that child.
if the mum/dad saids sh!t all to you about what you just did then cool but if it keeps going on then just say look you can't ome over any more my friend said to her good friend and she was cool with it.

hope that helps:)