Cant do it anymore........HELP

[Rainbowbrite]

This is a long one. I'm at the end of my rope. Something is wrong with MJ & no-one believe's me :(

MJ is normally the best baby, never upset, sleeps well, etc but since her 6month needles its all gone down hill. She had her immunisations on Wed, 2am thursday she started getting fevers of 38. I kept my eye in her, been giving her Panadol (never more than three times a day) & keeping her cool. She was still sleeping at this stage, but very whingy.

By Sunday morning I was sick of it so I took her to the Hospital. They checked her over, said all is normal, I asked to see a Paediatrition, who said her glands are up & her throat was a little red. Apparrently this is normal, its her body fighting the injections.

Got her home, and it got worse, the fever went but i'm left with a little girl who is grumpy, clingy, wont even go to DH for 2 minutes without getting hysterical & has a blood curdling scream. Won't sleep unless she's in my arms. We co-sleep at times but even thats not good enough. At 10.30 last night I took her back up to the hospital, where they checked her again but said she's fine & nothings wrong :confused: They didn't hear her screaming all day, ofcourse she was perfect up there. As soon as we got home, I put her to bed where the screaming started again. It seems as soon as I let go, it starts again, its like she's terrified?

Tried co-sleeping last night but even with my arms wrapped around her she screamed, won't settle unless i'm sitting up with her in my arms.

She's asleep in my arms now, but if i attempt to put her down she SCREAMS. Its getting to much, i need 2 minutes to myself. I've even tried putting her in the ring sling but even thats not acceptable.

HELP ME PLEASE

[Mother Duck]

Oh RB - this sounds very distressing

I don't have any decent advice other than to say that she could be going through a clingy stage that was set off by the immunisation (Mickayla had one at that age too)

It was just after I mc'd - she is normally really relaxed but for a couple of weeks she wouldn't even go to grandparents etc.

In hindsight I think she was picking up on my sadness

Good luck - is there anyone that you can phone to take her just for an hour or so while you have some much needed chill time??

Has her temp gone back down??? - Maybe she has a huge headache from it all and thus doesn't want to lie down???

Thinking of you

[tickle]

Hi,
I can't really offer too much great advice either. Sorry.
I'm not sure of the age you can use it from, but panadol didn't help my DS when he was particularly unwell so we got some Nurofen and it made the world of difference.
It is not good for use over a period of time but could be worth a try??
Hope it all gets better soon! :(
E

[lil monkey]

Oh Rainbowbrite....................

We went through a similar phase after her last needles too but no fever or being unwell. Just clingy and screaming which was driving me nuts.

Is she teething? Tayla was really screaming and clingy when she was teething and then finally some teeth came through just over a week ago.

All I wanted to do was cry when this was happening, DP coudlnt' settle her so he was cranky and she would only settle in my arms.

[H&B'sMum]

RB (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))
I'm so sorry this is happening to you it can be very distressing when no one believes you. I hate to say it but MJ could just be going through a very clingy stage. Does she sleep ok if her head is tilted up? Just thinking what Jessie was thinking about headache. She may not feel comfortable laying down. Have you tryed tilting up the bed or having her head on a pillow when you lay her down (watched by you of course).
It can be so hard when all you need is a few minutes to your self and you don't get it. It is okay to put her in her cot or a safe place and go outside and walk around the clothesline 10 times and then come back in. If you need to do that, then do it.
Oh another thought, have you tried giving her a nice wam bath, may be with you in it too, this might help calm her down.
Good luck and I hope she gets better soon

[wattle]

I also had more success with Neurofen than panadol. Probably the first thing to try. Other than that, I'd recommend seeing an alternative therapist. Perhaps there's something the conventional medico's are missing. You know your little girl better than anyone else, and it sounds like you know something isn't right.

I'm not sure what to suggest. I know my chiro treats babies for all types of disorders, that might be worth considering.

Let us know how she goes.

[Rainbowbrite]

Thanks for the hugs, really needed them. I've been upset all morning.

If she is teething, would there be any obvious signs?

RB

[Refresh]

Oh, I just wanted to send you *hugs* I hope it all gets better soon:) Have you tried any homeopathic remedies?

[mummycloud]

Thanks for the hugs, really needed them. I've been upset all morning.

If she is teething, would there be any obvious signs?

RB

dribbling, rash on the cheeks and/or chin, flushed cheeks and if you rub her gums and she enjoys it that's a sign too ;)

Maybe try some Bonjella to see if it makes any difference ((((HUGS))))

[Rockett]

Hi RB
I'm also sending you ((hugs)).I don't really have any advice except maybe try giving MJ a soothing massage before trying to settle her?
Just a thought...Good luck :)

[Peaceangels]

So sorry to hear your little one is out of sorts RB, it really is distressing for the whole family (especially when the professional's can't even give you a straight answer).
((Hugs)) to you and MJ......................maybe try and see a naturopath specialising in children/babies? just an alternative, her little immune system is probably having a hard time at the moment, so they may be able to remedy it naturally??
Hope MJ is feeling much better real soon :)

[Poppy'smum]

2 important questions...
First has her fever gone??? If it was just the immunisations it should have by now,
and second, did the doctors check her urine for a urinary tract infection?? Very common in this age esp in girls and hides from doctors and parents alike!! Need to catch some wee to have it tested

[whatwasithinking]

Sorry to hear about your bubs and you.

The only thing I can suggest and it may be a stupid idea but can you get your GP to make home visit so he/she can see the bubs in action in her own enviorment. I know it may not be a good idea as they cost money but I can't think of anything else. Sorry

Hope she is better soon.

Obviously you have an instinct something isn't right so good on you for taking it further. (Hope that came out right? I'm tired too - not much sleep myself)

[Rainbowbrite]

I've got her in the cot with a pillow now, lets see if that helps :confused:


dribbling, rash on the cheeks and/or chin, flushed cheeks and if you rub her gums and she enjoys it that's a sign too ;)

Maybe try some Bonjella to see if it makes any difference ((((HUGS))))

The only thing from here is the dribbling, no other signs. Her gums aren't any different either, no swelling, reddness etc. She's always liked having her gums rubbed. She's had 2 teeth cut through and disappear again already but never had this much trouble. :(


2 important questions...
First has her fever gone??? If it was just the immunisations it should have by now,
and second, did the doctors check her urine for a urinary tract infection?? Very common in this age esp in girls and hides from doctors and parents alike!! Need to catch some wee to have it tested

Fever had pretty much gone its 37.4 which is higher thn normal for her, but 'normal.' And yes, they did a urine test, it was clear.

Will get some bonjella & Nurofen asap, Going to he Dr's on wednesay.

She's at it again :(

RB

[Foxymoron]

((((((hugs))))))) to you both. What a stressful time. Have you tried a bit of Brauers baby Calm? It might take her a while to settle, and she might have also just hit the seperation anxiety phase too. If that's all it is, it will pass- given time. But if it's teeth or if she still runs a fever I'd fo back to the doctors.
I hope you get some rest and respite soon and that your dear little girl feels better too :)