How soon after...

[KarniF00l]

Hi All you TTCer's..

Well i never had thought i would be in this section again that's for sure..

Anyhoo.. I had a D&C on friday and i have already begun to ask myself questions so who better to turn to then BubHub.

The pregnancy came as a surprise to us but after some time to get my head around it i was excited to be having a 5th child. Cuting to the chase.. DH and i have decided to try again but want to hear of other people's experiences after losing a baby and how soon after a D&C did you conceive... ?

Please forgive me if this is too personal :hugs:

Thanks in advance!

[Bron]

Hi Lauren

Firstly, I'll say sorry again for your loss.:hugs:

Secondly, I've had two D&Cs. Both times we waited a couple of months before TTC again - the first time because I was feeling incredibly stressed and unwell for ages, and the second time because the hospital wanted to do some follow up tests two months after the D&C.

I'm not saying that you have to wait. For us, this was the right thing to do because it gave us both space and time to grieve our losses without getting stressed about TTC at the same time. Others find it much easier to just try again immediately. Most doctors recommend waiting until AF comes naturally and then trying.

Once we were actively TTCing, it took 2 cycles to conceive again.

Good luck!

[ziggie]

Aaw, Loz... I can't answer your questions hun, but can I say how pleased I am for you? I was wondering whether you'd try again... I wish you & Jamie all the luck in the world :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[KarniF00l]

Bron - Thanks for replying :hugs: We were thinking about waiting until first AF shows up then start TTCing. I know this is still fresh but i think trying again will help with the process of dealing with this. Hmm.. that kinda sounds selfish eh ? :o

Sarah - Thanx babe :hugs:

[Bron]

Bron - Thanks for replying :hugs: We were thinking about waiting until first AF shows up then start TTCing. I know this is still fresh but i think trying again will help with the process of dealing with this. Hmm.. that kinda sounds selfish eh ? :o


Not selfish at all. Everyone deals with loss differently. For some people getting right back into the swing of things (so to speak) is absolutely the best way to handle their loss. For others, waiting is the best thing.

Do what works for you, no one can tell you how you should and shouldn't act at a time like this. :hugs:

[Percy]

Hi Lauren.
I hope all went well. You were in my thoughts all day on friday.:hugs:

We didnt decide on a time to start ttc, we just didnt use any contraception and figured it would happen when the time was right.

Our time was one month later, and now we have jake to show for it.

There is nothing wrong at all with wanting to start straight away. Every one deals with their greif differently.

You know where i am if you ever need to talk.:hugs:

[BubbaNoogie]

:hugs: Sorry for your loss.

I had a D&C on the 16/5, we waited 2 weeks before having sex again, so that things could heal, I got my 1st af on 1/7 and concieved that month.

Good luck sweetie, I hope all goes well for you this time.

[eternalmaternal]

Hi Lauren,
I had a D&C before we had Josie. i was 13weeks:gloomy: I had a miscarriage prior to that one aswell but didn't require D&C that time. We decided to wait a couple of months as i was sure we would have more trouble. Now we have 4 healthy little girls:yes: . I don't believe it is selfish for you to want to ttc at all :fingerscrossed: it all goes well for you.

[luckymama]

/Hi Lauren, i am so so sorry for your loss :hugs:
i had a m/c on the 29/11/06 but didnt need a d & c, but i did concieve that cycle. I really hope it happens soon for you :fingerscrossed:

[KarniF00l]

Thanks for replying y'all ;)

So there is hope yet! Good to hear. I think this is the only way to help me through this to be honest. For once i'm actually looking forward to be pregnant again :eek: now that's not like me to say that at all.

Hopefully it'll be different this time :fingerscrossed:

[Kells]

Hi Lauren.

First up...I am so sorry to hear of your loss. :hugs:

I too was in your position - I fell pregnant with a 'surprise' in Dec 05, and it took a long time for me to get used to it. I m/c in Jan 06, and found that the only way to recover emotionally was to 'try again'. People thought I was crazy as I'd never planned the first one, but once it was gone, I wanted it so badly.

I now have a 10 week old (who has just woken up crying - so will be quick!)

So I understand that this is the best way to deal with your grief - it was for me too.

Anyway, back to your question :D - I m/c in Jan and was pg in April - so I had two AF's after the m/c.

Good luck sweetie - you deserve the happiness you want :hugs:

[abeckaj]

I had a D&C on 1st November 2006 and we were told to wait for AF to come at least once so that the lining of the uterus was thick enough for the egg to implant properly. We TTC after the first AF and i only ended up having 2 AF and i'm pregnant again!

[Prudie]

I am so sorry for your loss KarniF00l - sending you lots of postive vibes and :hugs:

It's been almost 5 weeks since my d&c, and DH and I have decided to take my Ob's recommendation, and wait till I have had one AF before TTC again. No sign of AF yet, but am thinking she can't be too far away :fingerscrossed: We are going to TTC as soon as possible - this was our first pregnancy, and we're keen as mustard to welcome a new baby to our little family.