It it just me, or does anyone else fear...

[*Theluvbub*]

Do you fear dying giving birth? Is this a normal feeling, or am I abnormal???
How do you get past the fear?
Sorry for the morbid thread!

[Angelmist♥]

:laughing:I think it's pretty normal mate!Especially for a first pregnancy.I remember with DS1, I just didn't want to go through with it!

Seriously your body and mind take over and it's (well for a lot of women) the most beautiful day of your life.
I'd had 3 natural births and would definitely do it again (lol hmm if someone wanted the baby!).

[Beany]

When I went into labour, I took a little plastic envelope in that contained my antenatal appointment card, my birth plan, my medicare card and my organ donor card. The midwife looked at me very puzzled-like when she saw that. I said it was "just in case." She was really surprised by that response and assured me that everything would be just fine.

I've always had a fear of dying in labour. Don't worry, though, the fear does actually diminish with every contraction. Eventually it's more likely that your husband will die during your labour :D

[our little treasures]

I think it is really normal!! I did with dd and then a little bit with ds!!

[damien's mum]

I think it's just natural, I did the whole way up until after i had ds, and then i was still scared that i was going to die after that.. It's a horrible feeling.. :hugs: :hugs:

[SassyMummy]

I didn't go through labour, and I seriously never worried about dying during labour.

I did, however, fear caesareans, AND worried about dying during mine. I didn't want one, but when I was told I had to have one, I was scared that I'd die. Even after it, I was scared I'd die... that my stomach would just tear open and all my insides would fall out.

I AM scared that next time I could die also - I want a VBAC and I keep worrying that if I get pregnant, my stomach will jsut rip open and everything, baby included, will jsut pour out.

I figure that YOUR fears are natural... and I think that mine are a little ridiculous. lol.

[Shanaynay]

Same as Sassy Mummy :yes:
I didn't fear dying in labour, but I feared dying if I had to have a cesarean.

But fear of labour of birth is natural... once labour starts the fear will just turn into excitement... you'll be fine :thumbsup:

[nut]

Well, my approach to it was a bit different. For DS's birth I acknowledged that people can die giving birth, but it is unlikely. I was living overseas at the time so couldn't physically see everyone, but I made a lot of phone calls in the weeks before the birth and made sure that I was at peace with everyone, and that those I loved knew I loved them. Then I was able to front up to the birth knowing that whatever will be will be- and it was fine! It was more than fine actually- it was the best day of my life and in giving birth to my beautiful son I gave birth to my new self as a mother. :o :)

Now, I'm just about due again to give birth and I haven't given it too much thought- too busy with my son I guess.:cool:

Feel the fear and do it anyway!:yes:

[Ashleigh<3]

I've always had a fear of dying in labour. Don't worry, though, the fear does actually diminish with every contraction. Eventually it's more likely that your husband will die during your labour :D


:laughing:

I feared it as well. But once you go into labor, It's looking forward, not back. And forward eventuates in a baby. :)

[lilpearl]

It's a very natural feeling. I think a lot of the time, women start to fear birth when they are approaching the third trimester, as it all becomes closer. However, usually once a woman is about 37 weeks pregnant (as a major generalisation), her hormones kick in and a fear of dying gives way to a desperate desire for the baby to be born! Birth is a journey of death of the old, and birth of the new....it's a major life transition, and I think a lot of the feeling of dying in childbirth, are just that natural struggle of letting go, and really becoming one with your body for the first time. Birth requires that we completely surrender, something which we will never experience to such a degree except when birthing. It's an amazing, mind-expanding experience to give birth and, I agree with everyone here in that, even if you fear death while going into labour, once you allow yourself to let-go and work with your body and baby, you'll just be doing, you wont be thinking. Happy Birthing!

[iluvmeboyz]

it's all natural hun

[IheartOman]

Do you fear dying giving birth? Is this a normal feeling, or am I abnormal???
How do you get past the fear?
Sorry for the morbid thread!

:eek: I had never thought about dying at birth :eek:

[mum2bubba]

I wasn't actually scared about giving birth the 1st time I was looking foward to it, but this one I am a bit scared I think because I know whats in store, I am looking foward to it too don't get me wrong.

[mumski]

If its keeping you up at night and there's more to it, then maybe you should talk to a counsellor or your doctor, it helped me.