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Hi ladies!
I just wanted to see how everyone copes with trying to live a normal life while ttc for so long. I’m sure you all know how it is when you find yourself basing pretty much everything you do in your life on the 'possibility' that maybe you'll fall pregnant this month. I've turned down really good job offers, declined to commit to holidays with friends, uncomfortably danced around the whole ‘when are you guys going to have kids?’ questions and become more worried about having sex based on whether I’m ovulating than whether or not I just feel like a good ol’ shag!
I sometimes feel like I don’t belong to either side of the female game. I can’t connect fully with women who have already been blessed with their little one’s, even though I desperately want a child of my own, and yet I can’t blend happily with women who don’t want kids right now either.
I turn down going and getting ‘silly’ with my childless girlfriends when they plan big nights out because I’m so adamant about staying as healthy as possible while TTC and I can’t justify spending silly amounts of money on outfits on shopping trips in case I’ll only fit into them for another 3 months. But on the other hand, I can’t handle sitting and chatting about baby stuff with my other girlfriends who have kids because I’m not a mum yet and can't relate to stuff like mothers club or poopy nappies .
What do you guys do to stay semi sane???
Be interested to see what you all think...
xpectant
15-02-2007, 18:40
Lil - I totally agree. I had been thinking about changing jobs but since TTC this is not an option because if I fall pg in a new job I'll have no maternity leave or anything! I've also struggled with buying new clothes and put off buying bras in case I'm pg soon - I've even put off buying af pads etc thinking it'll be a waste! It really does control your life. And now that I've had a m/c it means almost everyone know we're trying and that's awkward too. Work people don't know but always make comments about me being pg and i think - "I wish!!". Not sure how to answer your question but I certainly agree it is hard.
That's totally how I feel!!
Every year I wonder if I'll have a tummy this christmas. I would absolutely love to decline all the festive cheer and nominate myself designated driver!!
I'm just starting FT and it's really hard with work. I've had to take time off but am really hesitant to tell anyone the truth about why. I've also had to consider maternity leave and am desperately trying to save my holidays in hope of being able to take about 12 months off.
do you ever feel like you should throw it all in and live dangerously?? My hubby says that knowing his luck, we splashed out on a new car and went overseas for a month we'd fall preggers naturally.
xpectant
15-02-2007, 18:51
Before my M/c we'd mentally started spending the bonus money and I'd thought about having to change my car etc. These thoughts just constantly are on my mind I guess. I hadn't really realised it until your post! I now seem to think a lot more into the future than I ever use to! For some reason I sort of feel as though I'll jinx it if I act as though it won't happen soon - not that I believe in jinx's or anything IYKWIM?
I absolutely know what you mean!
In the first few months of our TTC campaign (which has been almost 2 years) I had printed out lists of baby names, started buying pregnancy mags and (god I can't believe I did this :no: ) brought a freakin' copy of 'What to expect when you're expecting'!!!
pumpernickel
15-02-2007, 20:17
I know the feeling well.
Our life was on hold for such a long time. It's near impossible to plan anything. After two years of not doing anything, we went about our life normally and travelled extensively (our passion) but never booked anything more than 5-6 months ahead.
We had planned to move overseas permanently last November but stayed to do another icsi...
I would have been "OK" about things if someone gave me a crystal ball and said "no sorry no kids for you" or if they said it would happen in 10 years. It's the uncertainty of not knowing that I found the most frustrating.
oh girls i completly relate!:hugs:
When you have been TTC for so long, 17 months for me and DH, its a catergory of its own. My saving grace was finding bubhub and having the girls on here to talk to and reading the posts made me realise i wasnt as alone as i thought i was.
I have descided in June last year that i was going to try and 'live' my life a bit more. I have a few drinks i book holidays ect....it didnt really make much difference. I still think in 'baby' terms when organising or planning anything for that unexpected BFP. I applied to go back to school this year and got into the course i wanted and then when it finally came to start earlier this month I came up on public waiting list for my lap/hist and had to pull out!
Is there anyway to fix this? I think not. All we can do is keep trying and keep hoping and keep using bubhub to get us thru it!!!:fingerscrossed:
Hear..hear. can relate to all of this.I was actually in between jobs when I fell pg the 1st time (ended in m/c) then when I m/c again 3 months later I wasn't in any state to resume my career.Then I applied for a position,got it and then turned it down cos AF was late & I thought I was pg..so I didn't apply for anymore after that.Now another 6 months on I have just applied again and hope I don't get it cos then I think the stress I'll be under will stop me from gettin pg.We have booked holidays and I have even counted how many weeks I'd be in betwee months just to work out how many weeks I would hypothetically be.I don't want to do anything or go anywhere around ovulation nor when AF is due.
In fact most sentences that come out of my mouth begin with.."What if I get pg by then.."
so I'm officially obsessed and think of little else and my cycle controls everything.I am concious now of trying to dose it down a bit and live a little but it never lasts long.I'm on a misson :p
littledarling
15-02-2007, 20:55
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I'm just about to start FT and am wondering the same thing. What have you told your work? I don't want to tell mine incase I don't fall pg straight away as I don't want them to keep asking. Also I don't want to get into the whole story about it and would just rather do it quietly. I would be very interested to hear what everyone else has done:confused:
And I totally can relate to everything else you said!!
Well..in my case..I haven't got the job yet and thats why I hope I don't in a way so i don't have to think about what to do.I'd really hate to start and then get pg and leave and since I'd be the only one running the company over here and that would make me feel really awful.I guess if I get it and take it..I won't say anything about ttc and then just tell them when I have to.:p
It just so hard to make every decision the right one for everybody so hopefully I will get my long awaited :bfp: then I won't have go there at all.:thumbsup:
Hey girls (thanks for your feedback so far! This forum has been a godsend!!!)
I've had a few dys off work over the last few months and just told them 'that I had specialist appointments' to go to. A very trusted colleague knows all about FT but I've decided that I'm keeping my mouth shut from here on in and not teling the bosses. I don't think it would be in my best interest for them to know about anything until i'm sailing smoothly into a healthy pregnancy. :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed:
although, I thought I'd test the waters a bit to see how the whole pregnancy issue would go down if I brought it up, so on my first day back after my lap this week (which I totally underestimated in terms of the pain and discomfort during recovery!) the boss asked me how my op had gone and I kind of said that we'd found some stuff out that we originally weren't looking for and my plans down the track for a family were going to be complicated and would probably involve me getting fertility help (which for me is looking like IVF). He came out with "thats no big deal! That happens to heaps of women". Can you believe that!!!?? what an ahole!
Anyways, I've got years worth of sick leave that I never took so any other appointments I need to take or any days off for other op's, I'll be taking as sick leave. I'm sure that your GP or FS can provide you with a doctors certificate without going into specifics but maybe ask the question when you have your next appointment.
Have you ever read the book 'Waiting for Godot?"
I'd you haven't then maybe you should. It has nothing to do with babies but a lot to do with being stuck waiting.
Take it from someone who knows. Get on with your life. I'm not saying forget your side project. But you really need to live your life now.......go to the parties.....get tipsy....buy that slim fitted sheer frock...party, interact and learn about others and participate. being sucked into a vortex of depression and mind numbing pain isn't going to do you any favours towards ttc.
It might only take you another week to be knocked up...it might take you another 9 months. You might never get there.
get on with it and do all the other things your meant to do to be a complete and whole learned woman. having a child doesn't define who you are in the community or amongst humanity.
Good luck to all you girls and hope you all get knocked up soon. Just don't sit on your butts and wait for it to happen. go read the book and see what I mean.
I am hearing you flower. I went to talk to someone earlier this week about it all and how it takes over etc. and she suggested that I was limiting myself too much in life and that I needed to start living life again to the full!! And I really think she is right. I have just applied for a job in the city which will involve more responsibility etc and will keep me so busy that I won't even have time to think about ttc. And I think this is how it should be. I need to get on with it and make the most of every precious day of my life!! Good luck ladies! I think this is a great thread and we should keep it going to talk about the day to day struggles, but remember, get out there and make sure you live too!!! It is so important.
RoarsomeMum
16-02-2007, 07:58
OMG yes... Its so so so hard to live a normal life.. Wish I did not realte to every single thing every single person has posted but I do.. I just want this so badly, If I think about other things, or make other plans, its like I am being disloyal/not trying hard enough to achive this long awaited dream. I know I am obsessing now, and I try to back off, but, even more since Ive turned 30.. its like I keep hearing a little voice telling me Im running out of time.. Arggggggg. What makes it worse is that I know its not a healthy way to approach this journey, but I cant seem to stop.. Its like a vicious circle, keep going round and round with nothing to show for it, sept a broken heart and shattered dreams.:crying:
I know Im not alone in feeling like that..
Yet somedays, Im just darn grateful for what I do have.. I have to find a way to make those days the Majority.. Im getting there I think.. Slowly.
It certainly is a very difficult journey!! :hugs: :hugs: I have a friend in particular who complains constantly about her pregnancy and it really is annoying. It's like - you're complaining to the wrong girl buddy!!! And she knows how hard it has been for us.
Anyway, I think a new hobby, travel plans, pets and a change of career are all things which can help to take our minds off it. Although when you have to monitor your temps and cm and opks all the time it certainly isn't easy to take your mind off it.
Good luck everyone!! Wishing us all BFPs very soon!!! :fingerscrossed:
littledarling
16-02-2007, 08:45
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Take it from someone who knows. Get on with your life. I'm not saying forget your side project. But you really need to live your life now.......go to the parties.....get tipsy....buy that slim fitted sheer frock...party, interact and learn about others and participate. being sucked into a vortex of depression and mind numbing pain isn't going to do you any favours towards ttc.
It might only take you another week to be knocked up...it might take you another 9 months. You might never get there.
get on with it and do all the other things your meant to do to be a complete and whole learned woman. having a child doesn't define who you are in the community or amongst humanity.
you're the best! I think we all need to remember that :thumbsup:
[QUOTE]Get on with your life. I'm not saying forget your side project. But you really need to live your life now.......[QUOTE]...I hope I've worked out the quote thingy properly.
You're all absolutely right! I suppose there will be plenty of time to pull back and forgo some of the things we love when/if we reach our goal of a BFP. Here's hoping and wishing for us all!
I'd love to keep this thread going too Morgan. It has really helped to know that I'm not alone and made me feel a whole lot better about getting things off my chest.
Oh and Em, I absolutely adore your Avatar! My 'furry baby' is a 6yo male Rottie. They're such great poochies ha?!!
Let it be your 'secret' side project girls. The reason I say 'secret' project is: its hard enough having to deal with all the tumultuous emotions you experience every day...but it's worse when good meaning friends and relatives are asking you what day your at in your cycle, whether your knocked up yet, whether you should be eating/ drinking that, whats wrong with you, what tests have you done, are you trying to hard.
And my all time favourite..."I'm preggars and due next week but couldn't bring myself to tell you 'cos I was worried I'd hurt you feelings".
Then it goes with " Sorry, I cant hang out with you anymore as you have the non mothers type leprosy.
So: Go it quietly and privately.....say what you want : tell them its been shelved, postponed...be relaxed..even if you have to bluff it. (That way you wont make your girlfriends nervous that your gonna run off with their baby when their back is turned.
Speak to like minded women like yourselves that understand the anxiety, the hurt, the frustration, but tell the others that your 'cool' with where things are at in your life line right now.
People treating you with kid gloves like your a nutter doesn't help the situation one darned bit.
Baby blessings to all.
I think I feel a lot of pressure in this area because of my age!! If I told anyone that we've decided to put it off for a while they would think we had gone nuts or something!! I always feel conscious of everything I do in the presence of friends and family. I know even at work I spot people looking at my tum - wondering if I am or not!! (They know about the miscarriages unfortunately - not ideal). And yes having this website to vent is a great help for sure!!
Femme la Phoenix
16-02-2007, 13:39
My partner and I have being TTC for a long time, 10 years 2 months to be exact, or 122 cycles. That's ok though, I have known others who had being trying longer. For most of that time I had undiagnosed sleep apnea, and had alot of miscarriages more than 10. It was properly diagnosed last February, so I've only had 13 cycles where the embryo has had any chance of surviving.
This is also our third cycle on clomid which was perscribed my our FS/Gyno and he is really happy with how it's working.
We have being through cycles where we are ever so vigilent of everything that enters our mouths and all it seems to do is depress us. Then we have a break and enjoy all things that you normally would enjoy.....so we are living more in the now.
Once we have that BFP then of course I'll cut those things out of my diet (alcohol for example) and it's not like I drink much anyway so why not enjoy it when you feel like it.
Every month I have a scan to check follicle growth and quality, I've being drinking alcohol and coffee when I want too and it has not altered or changed fertility.
I find it helpful to keep the TTC diary to keep check of other symptoms and how long the cycles go for and any other changes. It's come in handy lately as I haven't being keeping track of BBT, but will from this cycle forward.
So we are diffenately not letting our unborn baby alter our lives before he or she is even conceived/born!!!
Just last night decided that I was going apply for a really great job that has popped up for me. Emailed through my CV last night, while I polished off a bottle of Red with DH and today, I've decided I'm hitting the mall with my credit card and a few of my gal pals who are shopaholics.
I've taken everyone's comments on board (specially yours flower) and realised that there is plenty of time for me to act like a mum when I am in fact a mum (or mum to be in the case of most of us on this thread - :bfp: will be exciting enough!!!).
Staying healthy and happy is my number one priority and to be happy, I guess you've got to give youself a few little pleasures every now and then!
I'll always have my brain turned to Baby to some degree, but for now I'm going to try and enjoy some of the things that I've pushed aside for the last 2 years.
littledarling
17-02-2007, 09:06
My partner and I have being TTC for a long time, 10 years 2 months to be exact, or 122 cycles.
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You are so strong Harmony, and you're attitudue is fantastic :thumbsup: - I think you have definately given us all something to think about.
Lil07- good on you:yelclap: Enjoy yourself- you'll have plenty of time to "do the right thing" when your a mum!!
Well, I'm going to have a coffee now! And them I'm going to head off to the beach and enjoy myself without a baby in tow :D ...
Just last night decided that I was going apply for a really great job that has popped up for me. Emailed through my CV last night, while I polished off a bottle of Red with DH and today, I've decided I'm hitting the mall with my credit card and a few of my gal pals who are shopaholics.
I've taken everyone's comments on board (specially yours flower) and realised that there is plenty of time for me to act like a mum when I am in fact a mum (or mum to be in the case of most of us on this thread - :bfp: will be exciting enough!!!).
Staying healthy and happy is my number one priority and to be happy, I guess you've got to give youself a few little pleasures every now and then!
I'll always have my brain turned to Baby to some degree, but for now I'm going to try and enjoy some of the things that I've pushed aside for the last 2 years.
You go girl!!!! :smiliedance: Can't wait to hear about your shopping spree!! This thread rocks!!
Well, I'm going to have a coffee now! And them I'm going to head off to the beach and enjoy myself without a baby in tow ..
Littledarling, that trip to the beach sounds like a good idea! Can't sunbake with a new born can you! Bring on the sun tan!!!
My partner and I have being TTC for a long time, 10 years 2 months to be exact,
Harmony, your patience, positivity and sanity is something that we all should strive for. You're an inspiration to us all.
You chicks are all awesome! & I'm determined to keep this thread going.
Well I'm going shopping too now!! Have a great day gals!!!
well, ttc#1 took 20 months and this is month #20 ttc#2, so it feels like ttc IS my normal life.:no:
I gave up drinking long before ttc, (had my drink spiked, never drank alcohol since) always ate healthy, never went out much, my lifestyle hasn't changed really at all, just that I used to work around my uni timetable and now I work around my FF chart. :rolleyes:
Just have to make sure BDing dosen't become a chore or something you only do at O time. Keep it romantic and spontaneous... and frequent, LOL! That way he dosen't know the difference between O time and any other time, that's been my secret as blokes don't like thinking their doing a job rather than making love! ;)
littledarling
17-02-2007, 15:13
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quote=Lil07;1122976]Littledarling, that trip to the beach sounds like a good idea! Can't sunbake with a new born can you! Bring on the sun tan!!!
Well the beach was lovely! And the sun tan is starting to look pretty good too :D
How good was the weather today??!!
Well, I ended up cutting the shopping trip short for a dip in the surf and a lovely long sunbake (you totally convinced me littledarling :yes: ) but I busted out the credit card on a new bikini and a pair of ridiculously high heels before I pulled up stumps at the mall.
Just what I needed!!! Hope all you lovely ladies had a cracker of a day too.:smiliedance:
Good on you Lil....invest the time and love on yourself first and enjoy the benefits it later bestows upon you.
Sometimes we forget to be selfish.
So chickies...what did everyone get up to on the weekend? Everyone spoiled themselves I hope.
ziggyzena
19-02-2007, 20:11
Hi guys, I have just applied for a new job too, the first thought was me being about seven or so months pregnant and would it be appropriate for me working there ha ah...
I love having social drinkies on the weekend its only human!!!! (no need for hangovers of course)... I eat very healthy and exercise reguarlly i think its all about balance and especially being positive and HAPPY :smiliedance: Yeh i am constently thinking about weather i am doing the right thing and putting myself in future positions, but i always pull myself up and say "you know what, i am happy, healthy and balanced, and that is exactly when my child is going to want to enter into this world".
And then we go shopping!!!!!:D :D :D
littledarling
20-02-2007, 13:31
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I love having social drinkies on the weekend its only human!!!! (no need for hangovers of course)... I eat very healthy and exercise reguarlly i think its all about balance and especially being positive and HAPPY .Yeh i am constently thinking about weather i am doing the right thing and putting myself in future positions, but i always pull myself up and say "you know what, i am happy, healthy and balanced, and that is exactly when my child is going to want to enter into this world".
And then we go shopping!!!!! :D
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:laughing: I love it ziggy!!!
And good luck with the job too :thumbsup:
I've applied for a new exciting job too!! Eeek! Am so nervous.
Good luck Ziggy!!
Gawd! 3 job hunters in one thread! We certainly are a bunch of go getters. Let us know how you guys go MJ & Ziggy.
I'd be really keen to take the plunge and try something new and exciting (been at my current job for close to 8 years!) but the maternity leave and long service entitlements play on my mind, so that's why it's taken me so long to apply for other jobs. Ahhh, the dilemmas of TTC...:confused:
Lil - those benefits would certainly be very tempting to hand around for.
I've only been at my current job for 18 months and the only benefit I'd get is a guaranteed job after 12 months mat leave - no thanks!!
Anyways, I got the job in the city at a huge law firm!!!! Wow!
I have been at my job for eleven and a half years! I dont want to leave because I know that when it comes time for maternity leave my boss will be just as great about it as he was when I had DS. However I have often thought how bored I am and how I would love to try something new or do the same thing just in a bigger company. Doubt I would ever do it though, in the end it would come down to the fact that my workmates are like a part of my family after all these years!
Good luck to those girls who have applied for jobs :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: !
Sounds like it's worth staying there Pebbles. I'm not happy in my current job and unfortunately I left a great job 18 months ago to go to my current job and I really regret. It was nothing like I was told it would be and so now I want to move somewhere where I'll be happy long term. Changing jobs all the time can be unsettling and it is a big move. We don't have any family here so work colleagues can become like family.
Did you get the job Morgan???? Yippee if you did! :smiliedance:
To be honest, the reason that I've applied for this new job is because I really don't like what I'm doing currently (I sooo know how you're feeling MJ). I've worked my way up the ladder over the past 8 years and pretty much gotten as far as I can go within the company I'm at. The pay is really, really good and it's allowed me and my hub to buy our first home but there is a hell of a lot to be said about job satisfaction and day to day happiness which I why I'm looking elsewhere.
The leave intitlements are literally the only thing holding me back from making the move. Ahhh, we'll see what happens...
Hi everyone
I'm contributing to this thread very hesitantly and humbly because I don't know what its like to really want to have a baby and to be experiencing trouble. So I'm being upfront that I don't know what its like, however, I'd like to offer this:
I agree 100% with what Flower said - get on with your life regardless. Eat, drink and be merry, enjoy everything that life has to offer RIGHT NOW. By putting everything on hold 'just in case', you could be subtely putting stress on yourself that you don't need.
The other thing too which might seem really stupid, but imagine all the good things life has to offer without children. I KNOW sounds ridiculous, but the point is not to try and pretend you don't want children, the point is putting everything you have into this very moment, and not 'half-living' your life, and letting go of the stress - by putting everything off, you're continually living in a state of wanting, not being, IYKWIM. When you think about it, that's the optimum conditions in which to concieve - how many people get pregnant on holidays, after a big party when they're half tanked, or another one I've heard a lot - after they've adopted a child. What's the common theme - not a lot of energy around whether you're going to concieve or not! Yes, easier said than done I know, especially when you're having FT. I think being happy in the moment is still possible though.
I so hope what I'm trying to say is received the way its meant.:o I seriously don't mean to upset or offend anyone.
Well said Leez. I agree with everything you say. And am doing my very best to put that into practice at the moment. I have my days which are still difficult but am trying to stop limiting my life and start planning lots of fun stuff to do this year.
And yes Lil - I got the job!! Yippee!!
Bugger staying with a job your not that into all because the mat leave is brill. Chances are you'll get a new supervisor who's a right a-hole and you'll want to throw yourself under a truck. Or you might find a great job you really enjoy with really crappy mat leave benefits....but you could have put some cash in a piggy for your 'baby fund'....and you can leave that office days before your due..the boss lets you come in soon after...whatever.
Its really hard to plan to far ahead. First thing is : Enjoy today.
Crappy jobs are so unnecessary because there's always something else out there you can do which you ENJOY>
If you ENJOY it all the perks come from you loving it.
Its one thing to 'prostitute' yourself to a company/ employer who give you no joy...to really finding a fun happy working environment where your appreciated and valued.
That's my theory anyway.
SpecialMumma
21-02-2007, 15:31
Ive only got 5 spare minutes so I cant type much haha
Big big hugs to all TTC :hugs:
I know myself, TTC IS my life at the moment. Nothing else seems to matter :eek: .
Although.. I am alot better then I used to be. I used to chart everything, temp.. OPKs.. the lot.. and now Im like.. well its causing too much stress so Im just letting it flow. Still bad though. I still cry when I see pregnant woman or newborns :o
Got an appt with the IVF doctor next wednesday tho. Fingers crossed.
Hi Everyone
A friend recommended this thread. We've been trying for 7 years and have done all the usual, charting, IUI, IVF and ICSI. Had 3 hysteroscopies and laperoscopies due to endometriosis which they think is why we can't conceive. Had my life on hold for at least last 3 years but realised that there is more to life than children. I have started counting my blessings such as a wonderful, darling husband and great family and a great home and money to travel and afford ski holidays and overseas trips which we couldn't afford if we had kids though I would swap that in an instant!!! I agree that you have to live life and I have recently realised I haven't been. So many have told me that life is what happens when you least expect it, including falling Pg. So I keep telling myself now to relax, relax and focus on other things and hopefully, when I least expect it, something in my body will switch on and we'll be pg. It is hard though to think of not falling pg when doing IVF but keeping busy and taking up another hobby helps.
Great thread. Glad there are a few others out there who get the whole madness of ttc.
lol to everyone
As Samsara said .....Share the maddenss amongst ourselves. It sure beat being treated like a leper amongst the non-barren community...not to mention those pitying puppy dog eyes....
Its nice having a lot of girls who 'get it'.
I met a 'healing' pyschic last night who does healing for 'those' women...she said she's only got one so far she "hasnt got pg yet!".
Interesting.
It helps so much to bounce off one another about how we're feeling and what's going on in our lives from day to day while ttc. I've found that since being able to converse with the girls on these ttc threads, my general outlook on ttc has been given a massive boost and brought some positive thinking back into my life.
You still have your good days and your bad days (I'm having one today for a variety of reasons!) but being able to vent and get things off your chest is very helpful.
Really glad that this thread is getting us all talking and prompting us to think not only about our 'babies in the making' but also all the other things that life has for us as well! :yes:
Hey Ladies. Some wise words being spoken in this thread - it's great we can all support each other here and help each other to stay positive. There is still a little voice in my head which keeps saying - current job is comfy and will be perfect for when I fall pg - but it's so boring most of the time so I think I'll bite the bullett and throw it in for more responsibility at the new job in the firm in town. I just hope I'm doing the right thing. I'm so not good at decisions at the moment.
And yes Lil - I got the job!! Yippee!!
Geez MJ, you must think I'm completely freakin' ignornat! I totally didn't even see your post earlier on!!! Sorry honey.
Massive congrats on the jobby! :yelclap: Look at it this way, if you completely hate it after you've given it a good go, at least you know that you're totally employable (this new place wouldn't be hiring you if you weren't) and you can look for something else with confidence in yourself.
I've taken the biggest step so far since I first started thinking about bailing on my current job...actually applying for another job...so I'm happy that I'm finally considering something outside my comfort zone.
I'll keep ya posted! They might laugh at my CV and turf it out! who knows...;)
I'm a bit of a CV queen and interview fanatic myself if anyone needs help.
Lil - I doubt it if you've managed to climb to the top of the ladder. What industry/profession are you in?
Congrats on getting the job Morgan!
Thanks Pebbles!! How are you going? Any sign of AF yet?
I'm a sales rep in the printing industry MJ. There are only a few places in Sydney that I could move to who specialise in the type of printing that I am selling, but to be honest, it's the industry it's self that I'm really over. I just need a change.
They say a change is as good as a holiday so maybe a move into another industy would eb a good thing. :p
Lil - sounds like a good plan to me!! You just don't know what's around the corner.
Morgan - Nope. No sign of AF yet. I did have a BT this morning though so I am waiting for the call from my FS to tell me what my hormones are currently doing. They should be able to tell me if AF is coming or not. If not then I am gonna ask them if they can do anything to help me. I hope so coz I am getting so impatient!
Just thought I'd drop in my 2 cents LIL - go for the change. I'm thinking of changing my job too but as we are going OS later in the year will wait until we get back. I agree with Flower that a stressful or wrong job can really hold you back on the road to falling Pg. If you're bored or stressed in a job its not good for falling pg. Some people even give up work altogether and fall pg (I even know of a clinic that recommends getting rid of anything in your life that stresses you and most of the ladies who go there give up their jobs) but of course if you're doing IVF, how do you afford it?? A change in industry might be just right. A lot of skills you can take from industry to industry.
Congrats MorganJ on you're new job. :yelclap: Good on you for taking the plunge. I may join you later in the year but as I'm about to have a change in boss, I may find the stress decreases but if it increases or my boredom meter goes up :sleeping: then I'm outer there.
Yep, I'm pretty much resigned to the fact that I won't be where I am for too much longer. There are so many jobs out there so I think it's just a matter of finding a few that appeal to me and going for it. I'm lucky I'm currently employed for now and don't have to jump at the first thing that pops up I guess.
I will definitely have a squiz through seek on the weekend! :yes:
littledarling
09-03-2007, 21:56
What are all you ttc'ers doing on the weekend? That includes you too lil07!
I'll be going to a hens party for lunch tomorrow, and for drinkies tom night. Hope the weather is lovely!:) Hope everyone has a good weekend
How was your party littledarling? The weather in Sydney has been just beautiful this weekend! Hope you had a nice lunch yesterday.
I've been doing the family thing this weekend (that's why I've been offline), but I really enjoyed seeing my Mum and Dad so it wasn't a chore at all. Had a beer at lunch yesterday and a few glasses of Red last night with dinner (the first time in ages!) and it was fantastic. Forgot how nice some vino with a meal was.
How is everyone else doing this weekend? Anyone get up to anything exciting??
littledarling
12-03-2007, 19:14
Hi lil :wave: .
Actually my weekend was way too busy!! It was crazy and made me think that maybe I won't mind the quiet family life at all! (But once I have that life I'll probably be craving my freedom!)
I had a few drinkies too which was very nice :yes: - and why not!
by the way thanks for you pm lil- it was so lovely, especially the bit about what your dad said :hugs: . It really brought my spirits up. xx
Yeah I know what you mean about being busy, busy, busy littledarling! I can't seem to get ahead of the eightball at the moment. Can't wait for the weekend!
I've decided that I have to make a huge effort to de-stress (particularly because of IVF next month) so have made a few little promises to myself which should help...
- A 30 minute 'at home' yoga session every few days and a 60 minute jog each alternating afternoon
- A nice long soak in the tub once a week , with a face mask on and a hair treatment in
- Allowing myself a glass (or 2) of red a few night's a week
- Reading at least 1 chapter of my book 'The way of The Peaceful Warrior' each night before bed
- Lots of BDing with my beautiful Hubby (even when I'm not Oing)
I reckon that's got to help get rid of some pent up stress I've got happening at the mo. :yes:
What's everyone else doing to stay happy and stress free?
littledarling
14-03-2007, 20:28
Gosh lil, we are so on the same wavelength:idea: !! It's uncanny!! Only just yesterday I made a list of things that I'm going to do to look after myself. I always seem to be running around after everyone else and trying to keep on top of "chores" and working really hard at work; but now I have vowed to do 2 things from my list every day.
My list includes:
getting a massage
getting a manicure/pedicure
reading a good book
doing yoga
playing basketball
BDing!
walking to work (yes I'm very lucky I can- but often don't!)
having afternoon nap
clothes shopping
And since yesterday I have already done 3 things from my list: I went shopping yesterday (finish work early on tuesdays) and had a massage! And today I walked to work.
It feels good to be looking after myself for a change. Sometimes you have to do these things for yourself and not rely on other people (eg. DH) to make you happy all the time. I think this is really important when ttc. I would be interested to hear everyone else's list :yes:
How funny Steph! Our lists are so similar!!! :p I'm stoked that you have already put a dent in your list! Good on you girl! :yelclap:
When I noticed that most of the things I do each day are all for other people, I thought it was about time I looked after myself more and spent a bit more time on pampering me.
I'm loving being a little bit selfish at the mo!
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