AP and childcare

[faery]

who out there is AP and sending their kiddies to childcare???

I'm starting to mull over the idea cause $$ is getting to be an issue and it might be time to start a bit of work again.

ds is "high need child" really sensetive to to noises and is carried around for much of the day, still boobied all the time. I worry about how he would go in childcare. I worry about how i would go, seeing as how we have been velcroed together for 11 months!!

anyone?

[little mermaid]

Your thread just caught my eye and I thought I would just give you a perspective from a child carers point of veiw.

You might be better looking into family day care as it a little less full on and if your child doesnt like noise might be calmer. But in saying that the carer is on her own so wont be able to carry your child around all day as it is not fair for the other kids and will have to be strict on sleeping.

From a long day care point of veiw I will be completely honest and say you could give it a try but I really dont think it will work out best for you and your little one as they will definately not carry your child around all day and will not be able to hold your child to go to sleep. I have had a few AP parents in my 10 years in day care and i was just not working out for them (or us) as we just dont have the time to spend all day with one child.

Now from a nanny's point of veiw yes it is extremely hard also but not entirely impossible. I am very lucky as I "trained" the child I nanny for to not be so high maintanance and she will sleep properly for me :yelclap: but not for her mum.

Do you have a close family member who will be willing to look after your little one?

[Horseymum]

Hey Jess

Good luck with this one:fingerscrossed:
I rang our local daycare centre just to get some info for Jett and the group he would be going into was 14 kids to 2 carers which I thought was a bit crazy, and Jetts pretty independent now but I was still concerned...

I think a nanny is going to probably be your best option...I was looking at a couple of websites and they seem to cost around $13 to $15 per hour so depending on how much you would earn, would it be worth it??

[meme]

i do not label myself as a parent. however i do breastfeed my bub and she is fairly high needs and i respond to her needs often with a carry or a breastfeed.
she was in childcare last year from about 6mths until about12mths and she coped quite well with that, however when she first started she was the only baby in her room and so she did get one on one, i also took my time to introduce her to the new routine, as i did not have to return to work, so i could spend plenty of time in her room and only leave her for a short time at first.

now she is just starting again and i am finding it a bit distressing, i only leave her for about 3 hours in the morning and pick her up before rest time.

while it can be 'normal' for bubs to get a little distressed being dropped off at care and then being happy enough there all day, and adjusting to this is the way it is at care and so doing the sleeps better than they might at home. i really wont put my children through any distress right now, as it is not worth it for me. so i am taking it real slow and hoping that dd will build up a good trust with her carers so that she will adjust to care happily with out stressing.

[Shanaynay]

Hi faery :wave:

I've had my DD's in day care one day a week about 7 hours.
Initially I stressed out about sending bub - I carry or sling her most of the day, and she sleeps with me or in the sling every nap.
ut you wouldn't believe how different she is at daycare. She self-settles in a cot :eek: Just such a different environment, I think she forgets all about what we do at home, and she is very happy there. There is so much going on and so much to do that she is always occupied and content.

Also my toddler is very used to the one-on-one interaction etc... we have at home, but again, at daycare, she is very happy and independent :D

Give it a go, your DS might really suprise you!

[faery]

phineas - self settling in a cot!! holy cow I think i'd die of shock if jarrah did that:laughing: hmmmm.....maybe i'll send him tomorrow.

I do think some of the separation anxiety is my own. we've been velcored for so long it seems weird to send him to someone else, even just for a half day or 2 half days. and i WISH we could afford a nanny, but i don't think i could earn enough to cover it unfortunately.

how about the breastfeeding?? I've never been able to express and i wonder about him just going without for the time there. would it affect supply very much? he's a bit of a boob monster and sometimes it seems like he goes for a drink every half hour even though i know he can go for much longer.

thanks guys. good to talk about. the more i talk about it, the easier the idea is getting to me.

[Shanaynay]

how about the breastfeeding?? I've never been able to express and i wonder about him just going without for the time there. would it affect supply very much? he's a bit of a boob monster and sometimes it seems like he goes for a drink every half hour even though i know he can go for much longer.

Evie is EXACTLY the same - she feeds constantly at home! It seems like every 20 minutes, but seriously, I'd say every 1.5 hours.
At daycare, I go back to feed her, but only every 3 hours and she's just fine. The only thing I find is that towards the end of the day, my boobs are really full and they get quite uncomfortable, so when we get home I just feed her lots, and they fix themselves quite well :)