exhausted/frustrated

[fiveofus]

I can't beleive I am going to have this winge but I need to.....I have the most beautiful 7 month old who is testing me every step of the way. It probably doesn't help that my first was an angel child .... and I thought I was a good mother!!! I think I was just lucky. #2 started life projectile vomitting and after I kept insisting it was wrong he was diagnosed as loctose intolerant at 6 weeks so I removed all the lactose from my diet , he kept vomitting. I finally got some help from the Breatsfeeding helpline and I had to express off the first part of every feed for a couple of weeks and this eventually stopped the vomitting. Great .. I thought it would all be good from there (of course expecting the normal baby hiccups). Then he started sleeping really badly. We got rid of the dummy as that seemed to be part of the problem .... had a couple of good nights .....I thought it would be all good from there! No he still wasn't sleeping well .... waking 3-4 times a night. We went to the sleep clinic. We had a couple of good nights...I thought it would be all good from there. No ...he still doesn't sleep well. He goes down at night OK but then just keeps waking. I thought starting solids would help.....he doesn't want them!!! After about 8 weeks I still can't get any substantial amout into him. He buttons his mouth after one spoonful. he will eat a bit if he does it himself but not much goes down. At one point he was severely constipated and absolutely screaming when he did a poo. We are at this point again. I fed him nothing but stone fruit and prunes over the weekend and nothing. I have given him a laxative and now he has gone a few times but always screaming!!! I just don't feel I am getting anywhere. Or if I do it is so short-lived. His day time sleeps are getting shorter. I am just soooooooooo tired and cranky all the time and so frustrated ......... To top it off my husband is away for work this week....I just can't see an end to it some days.
Sorry that is an essay......

[danielle13]

:hugs: to you, I can competely understand where you're coming from, I'm also an exhausted/frustrated mummy of a beautiful but challenging 7month old.
I'll say the same thing to you that countless others have said to me - Is there anyone at all that could take the kiddiwinks and give you a break?? We all need time out (I'm still working on this one), and with your husband away for work you really deserve some time to yourself.
Anyway I'm not really one to give advice right now, but take care :hugs:

[fiveofus]

THANKYOU!!
Part of why I am so frustrated that he won't take solids is that it means that I am always tied to him (or him to me) as he won't take a bottle either! So stubborn. I am trying to see the positive in that he knows what he wants and is determined. We live a fair way out of town so to go anywhere I really need to take him or else it is feed time. I have great friends who do take him at times and my parents are great. I just wish I was coping better some times or that things were improving. I'm sure they will. Thanks for your reply.

[danielle13]

Has he just recently gone off his solids or has it been a challenge all along? The reason I ask is that my DD really isn't keen on her solids at the moment either, and yes it can get pretty stressful.
I don't really have any solutions for you though sorry, I'm still trying to work on this one. Another hubber who's having the same problem suggested distracting her with finger foods whilst trying to feed the mush at the same time, I've found this works for a little while then she refuses the spoon.
I'm assuming seeing as he won't take a bottle that you're breastfeeding? That does make it a little harder to get time out.
I'm sorry I don't really have any solutions to offer, but keep coming in here and posting, it does help to vent here. Or feel free to pm me anytime.
Hope things look up for you soon :hugs: