Suprise or no suprise

[shorty_851]

Just wondering who here is going to find out the sex of their baby.

Im still so undecided i mean i want to but i also want to be a suprise.

[OJandMe]

I'd like a surprise, but DH wants to find out... so we've compromised... we'll find out for this one... but not for the rest :yes:

[shorty_851]

That sounds like a fair comprimise.

I m in so many minds and looking at so many pro and cons

Jason wants me to find out and not tell him so that i can tell everyone what color to buy

[M O P]

We're pretty traditional and won't find out-
we want a surprise.
Didn't find out last time either.

[M O P]

Shorty- just tell them to buy unisex so you can use the same things for your next bub.
If I have a girl this time I've already got heaps of things she can have that were Hugh's- some he didn't even get to wear before they were too small- in yellows and greens or teddy bear patterns.

We also have a yellow baby's room as we were not going to repaint it every time a new baby came along.

[shorty_851]

I ahve a multicolored baby room at the moment its blue and red.

But the pram we are going to use is blue and im not happy about that.

I have red everything else except the bath.

Iam thinking about just taking guesses off the scans

[M O P]

Iam thinking about just taking guesses off the scans
if you do your own guess work and tell everyone to buy boy things what happens when your little girl arrives?:laughing:

I'm laughing cause when I was preg with Hugh I was so sure I was having a girl- a voice in my head said I was preg and it was a girl. Well I was preg so the rest must have been right, right? :laughing:
I told the lady doing the scan all about how I was having this baby girl- cause a voice in my head told me, she would have been listening to me go on while looking at my baby boy!

When Hugh was born the Obs gave him to me, I just assumed he was a she as no one said anything. The Obs then said "well don't you want to see what you got" so I had a squizz and exclaimed "OMG it's a boy" was genuinely so shocked.

[shorty_851]

Kazza that is a laugh. I will be like that i truly want a little girl

[M O P]

Must say this time I've had no voices,
either that or I've been too busy to notice them!

[Areca]

I will most definitely be finding out! I found out with DD and it was so special! I loved getting to know that I was having a daughter and I truly felt like I bonded with her more, before she was born, because of it. We don't name the baby until it is here (we don't know what he/she will look like) and we still get the excitement of seeing what the baby looks like etc. Honestly, after labour, I was glad I knew DD was a girl. I was really annoyed with my midwife (only at the time!) cause she wouldn't confirm it for me and kept saying 'you can have a look!'
My nana was so disappointed I was finding out but when I did and told her she was so excited and said it was like having a mini birth mid pregnancy!
We still did the nursery unisex and kept all the big things unisez and we had some unisex clothes but I'm not a fan of lemon or green (no offence) and I didn't want a wardrobe full of white clothes.

[jamb]

Definitely finding out, think it really helped last time. I desperately wanted a girl so when they told me it was going to be a boy i literally had a breakdown. Admittedly I was also suffering AND so the news totally wiped me out.

For me, luckily, I had 20 odd weeks to get used to the idea and was okay by the time he popped out. I honestly think I would not have bonded had I gone along thinking, yep think its a girl, please let it be a girl, and then out pops a doodle!

This time I am the opposite, thinking how on earth will i deal with a girl, my DS is such a boy and thats all i know:rolleyes:

It is still a huge surprise, its not like you have ever seen them before or know what type of bub they will be! Helps me with name picking too:thumbsup:

Cant wait to know, if i am blessed with a girl she will still be wearing all my DS's stuff :laughing: we are too poor to go nuts on all pink! So if it is a girl, bring on the pink gifts I hope! We dont have a nursery so no changes needed there!

[chicken]

We won't be finding out. Neither of us have a strong preference and its baby #1, so we figured we'll just leave it as a surprise. I love the anticipation of it!

I've been really shocked by others' reactions though. People around us all want to know and are so surprised that we aren't going to find out.

[ETsMum]

if i am blessed with a girl she will still be wearing all my DS's stuff :laughing: we are too poor to go nuts on all pink! So if it is a girl, bring on the pink gifts I hope! We dont have a nursery so no changes needed there!

HA HA - Same here!!

We found out last time as DP would have needed time to get used to a girl. He was having enough trouble getting used to a baby and it was planned!!!

This time I am trying not to find out. But, with DS I had 5 scans and it will be really hard to not ask 5 times!!! DP wants to know, but I've decided that if we can work it out for ourselves off the screen or the photo's then that is ok, but we won't let them tell us until he/she pops out. IYKWIM?

[OverTheMoon]

Chicken, i've had the exact opposite from people - some happy we're finding out, most get really upset and angry. People are funny.

mumtoone - i am much the same as you on the colour thing.

We've decided to find out, we both felt the same way about preparing emotionally and physically. No offense to anyone, but we don't want a lemon or green or white room, we are adamant it's going to be cream accented with blue or pink and a feature wall in same colour! I'm so anal, but sick of all the surprises and disorganisation IVF brought with it, i want to have something organised for once.

The way we see it, it's a surprise whether you find out half way through or at the end - you are still finding out the same thing, just at a different time. Our surprise will be what our baby looks like, personality, what name suits etc - and actually meeting the little person it took us two years to make!

Everyone's different, this is just us and our choice - which i wish some of my family would recognise!

[niesl_bug]

We are finding out.
I would be happy either way - but DH is adamant about knowing.

Everyone thinks we should leave it as a surprised - but I am sick of listening to everyone's opinions!

I love white and have bought heaps of white stuff. We plan on decorating the nursery similar to our house in neutral tones - maybe a splash of navy for a boy or hot pink for a girl ... i'm not really into baby blue or baby pink.

We are tempted to find out - but not tell anyone we know and keep it our little secret ... My friend tried to find out but bub crossed her legs and wouldn't have a bar of it so they had to be surprised ... I'm thinking of using that as our story ... just not sure if I can keep my big mouth shut though or not accidentally refer to bub as "he" or "she".
Having said that - I am 99.999% sure we are having a boy. I would be over the moon with either - but would love a girl and DH would love a boy. I don't think you really mind with the first one though, huh?

Sorry, I got a bit carried away :ecomcity:

[Milis]

We're planning another surprise :D .

Neither of us are too fussed if it's a boy or a girl (although I will confess I'm secretly hoping for a girl), we rent so can't really do any decorating, and I like white clothes for bubs, and for us, the element of surprise adds to the whole birth experience.

With DS we 'just knew' that he was going to be a boy. When he was born the m/w told me to have a look and see what I had and I just said 'it's a boy!' without even glancing down there. This time round DH thinks it's a girl and I think it's another boy so I guess one of us will be right in the end :laughing: .

[Snugglepot]

We are finding out, I am actually counting the days till I am 19 weeks and 4 days and we have our scan! To us it is a surprise at 19 weeks.

Two ring tests and the chinese birth predictor chart all say girl.... Anyone else had a go at these old fashioned tests? The chinese chart was correct for DS, but it is a 50/50!!

Oh and you are all so right, everyone knows the best way to do things and you definately do not! :banghead: Its the way of the world....

[deb1234]

mel & Kez - i agree with you both - its a surprise at 20 weeks or at 40 weeks! my DH says we don't need a surprise at the end, it will be enough of a surprise that a baby is coming out of his wife!! :laughing:

i can't wait until we find out!! i'm really looking forward to it. my sister found out she was having a boy and i really think we all bonded with him before he was even born, talking about him by name etc.

roll on 9th March!! :D

[Tan-mumof3]

We aren't finding out with this one. we already have one of each so we don't really need to know.
The only way we will find out is if it is extremely obvious like ds' scan was.

[ETsMum]

Two ring tests and the chinese birth predictor chart all say girl.... Anyone else had a go at these old fashioned tests? The chinese chart was correct for DS, but it is a 50/50!!


Same here. :smiliedance: Both say girl for me, but I just can't shake the boy feeling that I've got... :confused:

I didn't do a ring test for DS as we found out what we were having, but the chinese test was correct.

[deb1234]

with the chinese chart...is the month you conceived the month you ovulated? or the month of your last AF? sorry if this is a silly question...i assume its the month you ovulated ??? :rolleyes:

[Snugglepot]

Not totally sure Deb, but I put in the the month I concieved/ovulated, so 2 weeks after last period. ....

[deb1234]

yeah i thought that as well...which makes it a girl. but then i thought that some people might not know when they ovulated and assume you "conceived" before then...which makes it a boy! :laughing: will have to wait three weeks i guess :D

[xpress2]

I asked at my nuchal if they could tell the sex and she was pretty confident it was a boy, so I guess she seen something down there... I can't wait until my next scan though to know if she was right! :)

[Livy]

We are not finding out for our first ..... we want to keep it as a suprise and we are not fussed either way just as long as we get a healthy bub. We have bought some nuetral things and will go shopping when bubs is here.

[MammyMammy]

Hi All,

i am facing same dilemma...want to find out, dont want to find out, i change my mind all the time!

Just a note for Kez&Kyle, and len....DO NOT rely on the chinese calendar, unless just for fun.

Because....

upon looking on web for one...I found at least 3 or 4 VERSIONS with different gender stated for months when comparing them together!!!

Ha ha! so on one calendar, I am DEFINITELY having a BOY and on one calendar i am DEFINITELY having a girl 9according to the whole "99.9% accurate, hidden in an ancient tomb etc etc" hahaha...anyway, i think the calendar is fun, but dont believe its True all the time!

I want my baby to be a girl some days, and a boy some days...!!!

xxx