Marital Stress??

[Linkey]

Hi :wave: ..I was just wondering if anyone suffers from stress within their relationship whilst ttc.My 1st anniversary is coming up next week and its Valentines Day tomorrow and with 2 m/c's its been a rough year but I really feel its created stress for us.I try and talk to DH but he doesn' feel as sad as me and thinks I'm obsessed with ttc (thats true-LOL).Rather than bring us closer sometimes I feel its creates distance.Does anyone else feel like this, maybe I'm just hormonal and feeling sad.:crying:

[Lil07]

Hi there,
I'm really sorry to hear about your mc's.
My hubby and I have been ttc for almost 2 years now so for us, there have been heaps of dissapointments and plenty of stress within our relationship. I know what you're going through there.
I guess if you can support each other, your stress levels may stay in check to a certain degree. I've definitely been guilty of telling my hubby he couldn't possibly understand what I was going through and didn't seem as upset as I was, but ultimately, they all want the same thing that we do, but they have their own little ways of dealing with the losses and pains that that we're all feeling.
Hope that helps (even just a tiny little bit)!

[littledarling]

You are not just hormonal- we have stress too:yes: . I think it's natural to start getting a bit anxious and of course you take it out on each other. And lil07 is right, men just cope differently and don't tend to dewell on the negatives so much. Good luck :fingerscrossed: , I hope it happens very soon :hugs:

[MariaO]

so sorry to hear about your m/cs. Yes it is stressful, hugely so I think. As a friend of mine said, her sex life involved too many ovulation kits, not enough sexy underwear. It can be very difficult to just have fun, I think the communication lines being open is all important , even if is just means you are both telling each other you are fed up.

[Pebbles]

Hi Linkey - Come join us in the TTC after M/C Thread mate! Yes my marriage has also suffered stress due to TTC. We also had a m/c 6 weeks ago and its been hard on us. We have been TTC for well over a year now so sometimes the pain of it all really gets the better of me and I take it out on DH. Sometimes I feel like DH doesnt get as sad as me but I think men just deal with things differently.
Hope things get better for you soon hun...

:hugs:

[Duchessa]

Ho yeah it causes stress! I have been trying for over 12 months and had two m/cs too - we already have twins (2 y/o) but dh is very keen to have another as soon as possible (like don't put any pressure on or anything, huh?!) and I am too but geeze Louise, our marriage suffers at times with the added stress of unsuccessfully ttcing.

A great deal of the stress comes from him being insensitive, me feeling like I am doing it all alone, sex becoming mechanical and planned and horrible, me feeling insecure about my body cos it doesn't seem to work etc etc...

It is a hard time for a woman. And men often just don't seem to get it. :hugs: Lately I have been just so ready to just throw in the towel and go and get my tubes tied so at least there is a clear reason as to why it just isn't happening.

[Ruby_Jewels]

You are not just being hormonal! I feel the same way, it puts such a strain on our r'ship too. I get frustrated at him when he turns my advances down. I feel like I am doing all the work sometimes. I know he is as keen as I am to have a baby but if I left the sex part up to him...we would never conceive! Phew! I was meant to be reassuring you but I had a vent instead, sorry!
Just know that there are a lot of us that feel the same way, TTc can be such a strain.

[jonti]

Hi linkey,

i am really sorry about your stressfull situation with your DH. i think you have to give him some time .

I am also TTc for 2 months now and feeling bit depressed. My Dh is very calm but if he is angry he will be too much . I got bit bit scared and dont force him now. Yes from inside i feel very sad , but you cant help it all man are like that. If you ask them to help you they will do it with full of joy and happiness but if you force them they wil turn into a rebel.

So be calm dont force him just try to make him happy . Make good food, be well

dressed when he is coming back from the office. I think this type of little things helps.:fingerscrossed:

[Linkey]

Hello everyone:wave: Thank you all so much for your posts and sharing with me.It made me feel so much better to find out I wasn't the only one.Juts get so damn hard at times and with a new marriage really does put the strain on.

Babydust to everyone :wizard: and thanks for the hugs and drying my tears.:hugs: