Worried... girls, can I please have some advice?

[Mahjong]

Hey gals,

Thought I would ask you here as you know me and Wyatt the best.

Last Monday, Wyatt chucked a huge wobbly when it came to dropping him off at Kindy. He's hasn't done this before, he started on 3rd Jan. He was excited to go and then when we got there he wanted to come home.

He did settle after 5-10 mins after I left, but he's going tomorrow and it's playing on my mind. I ask him if he wants to go and he always replies "No"

Im really worried that Im doing the wrong thing leaving him there for the day now... they say that he does have a good day after he settles down, but it's still not making me feel an better. He needs to go for interaction with other children as he is so bored at home, no matter what new things I come up with.

Anyone else been through this and if you kids have done this same thing, how long till they settled again and really enjoyed their day at Kindy?

Thanks in advance,

Bep

[mum2littleman]

hey, o poor little man i hope he settles back in, maybe it's just the throught of being away from you maybe if your worried go for a walk down there{or drive} and try have a look at him with out him seeing you just so u no he is fine maybe it will put ur mind to rest i no id rather see for my self rather than ringing and maybe getting told that his fine when his not..


have u asked him why he doesnt want to go? and if the kids or teacher's are mean to him> ?

hope all turns out well:hugs:

[PMS]

Hi. My DD has been the same. Her first two weeks she cried a little when I left; the two weeks after that were bad. She was crying before we even left home! But; she always settles fairly quickly after I leave and she has a great day! I asked her if she liked her teachers and she does. She has made a lot of new friands as well. I think it is just the separation from me that upsets her. I just keep talking to her very positively about kindy and about how much fun she has and the friends she has made. I'm hoping that the tears will stop soon; she just loves her Mummy!!
I hope your DS starts to enjoy kindy more too!

[*Chels*]

Oh ya poor thing!!
I agree with what Lou said bout watching him without him knowing.
Im sure its still an adjustment thing-for both of you.:hugs:

[Mahjong]

Thanks for the advice, I think I will do what you suggested Lou :) It's only two streets away from where I am so I can just walk down there.

I will also have a chat to the director and the girls in the room to see how he is going for the day, is he having a great day after he settles everytime we go there, does he get upset easily and is he liking the carers. Wyatt has always had separation anxiety, even when I leave him with his dad, BUT having said that, since starting Kindy, I can drive away and he'll just say to his dad "Mummy gone" and just wanders off and does other stuff, so I guess it IS helping with it.

Bah, this mother's guilt sucks majorly LOL! I will let you know how he goes after his day today.

Thanks again :)

[A&Omummy]

I have sent you a pm!

[Mahjong]

Thanks Diana :kiss:

[Zada]

my DD has been going since she was 6 months when she was about 2ish she didnt want to go it lasted a couple of weeks then she was fine:)

[suemp]

sorry to be bearer of bad news but jakes been like that all the time and still often is and he's 5. so everynow and than i take a sneak peek while he doesnt know im looking and he's fine. the shows all for us:rolleyes:

[Mahjong]

Thanks everyone for your input :)

Wyatt did cry and yell for me when I walked away this morning when the carer held him. BUT, as soon as I walked through the door to leave and go home, he was fine :rolleyes: Apparently some kids do this to see how far they can push before you crack LOL!

I did speak to the Learning Co-ordinator this afternoon, she said that Wyatt is going brillantly and she's happy with the way he's going, I guess that's a positive :thumbsup: She's going to help us at the end of the month start up the toilet training LOL!

The only main concern she had was with regards to him now having a security item, which is his drink bottle, which he only has expecially for Kindy. We weaned him off his dummy, and he likes to carry the drink around now. BUT, I would prefer him have that than a dummy so Im not too concerned. We have security items as adults for comfort, so I guess kids are the same :) Just something to remind him of home.

[*Chels*]

Beth,try not to stress.
I know how you feel-as you know Riley is still a boob man,and its only been the last month or so where I will just leave him with Mark or Aiden to settle.I used to not be able to go out to girls nights without getting Riley to sleep first,but now I know he will be OK,hes not going to collapse without me ya know?
Now when I leave Riley I make sure he waves me off and then hes sweet as!
Its all just an adjustment period,and these things take time.The babes need to learn that we are always there for them,but if we leave for awhile its OK.
If ya need to chat-ya know where I am:hugs:

[Shakey]

Beth Wy seams like a normal boy to me, some kids are fine as starting kindy and then play up after a few weeks and others play up as soon as they start kindy and then fine a few weeks later

J is the same, he's started playing up this week, if it makes you feel better do what lou suggested, or if you want and have time, spend some time with him down there, I usually play with J with the toys for a bit before I go, that gets him more comfy with his surroundings

this is most probably just a faise, he'll be fine in no time and you'll be thinking what was I worried about lol

[Mahjong]

Thanks Jo and Chels :) Daniel thinks Im a worry wart LOL! He will be fine in the end with me leaving him again, he was to start with so he will be soon again :)

On another note though, he brought a lovely cold home yesterday, always the downside of Kindy.... DOH! Most of the carers were off sick yesterday with it, so it's doing the rounds.

[indimum]

oh beth i feel so sorry for you!im not in your situation yet of leaving her at kindy or anything but i suffer the guilts so bad ive never been to a girls night with you guys or anyone else and the first time is going to be stressful for me and ill probably feel guilty as hell that i should be home with my girl!its the hardest thing turning your back and walking away when they are crying for their mum.i feel like i am abandoning her although i leave er anywhere so rarely and if i do its with jon !but you are right,it is good for his development and independance.i think part of me doesnt want indi to be fine with strangers for a day!so if she cried when i took her that would be my excuse to grab her and run.bu i remeber my first day of school and there were kids banging oin the door,balling their eyes out for their mum and id say they were the kids who had never spent a day away from mum.so as long as you dont think he is being picked on or anything i reckon perservere.and i also think indi is ready to be without her mum for a night very soon.if i dont try i wont know will i ??

[SassyDiva]

Hey Bep, Even tho it's so hard leaving them when they are crying for you..you are doing the best thing for him. I've seen Jordan grow so much from the social enviroment at kindy. And he went thru exactly what Wy is now going thru so I totally feel your pain..

The first 3 weeks were a breeze with him running off to play with his mates as soon as we walked in the door, then 3 wks down the track we had the full on tears, and the dredded leg cling. This went on for about 2 weeks and all the teachers assured me it is absolutly normal and most kids go thru the same process. It's cause at first kindy is such a new exciting place, then a few weeks down the track they think..ummm hang on...Im back here again...then it's I WANT MY MUMMY...But I found everytime I called once I got home he was happily playing with his fav toy or activity. It wont last.

Just keep talking to his teachers to check on his progress, and so long as his sleeping and eating while at kindy, you know he is relaxed and comfortable as I find Jordy wont do these things if his stressed.
Also when you pick him up, just sit in the backdrop and observe him in action. Im sure you'll find his running around with his mates having a ball.

Oh and one thing Jordys teachers do which helps, is as soon as I walk in with him in the mornings, they would approach him straight away and get him involved in an activity while I unpacked his bag. So by the time I was ready to leave he would be busily working away.
That was 2 years ago and now he absolutly loves kindy.
Dont feel guilty, your giving him a great social experenice...if it gets no better in a month, maybe re-asses then. :)

[Mahjong]

Thanks Mel :) It is certainly hard, but I know in the long run, he's going to get a lot of experience and have a lot of fun. He needsd the social interaction and this way is best and also stimulates his mind, no matter how many things I think up to do at home, it's not enough!