when is too early to go back to work ?

[mumofone]

I was just wondering when was too early to go back to work ?

My dream job has come up and I applied not expecting to get an interview, now I have an interview this week.

my DD2 is almost 4 months, I am feeling guilty about my desire to go back to work already. It is only part time but in the area that I love and have worked in previously, I have been waitng for a job to come up in this area since we moved here 2 years ago.

She would have to go to child care, like my oldest for the three days as we have no local family who could help.
I am wondering whether I am being selfish, I'm also not sure if it is going to be too hard to try and juggle both, I am due to go back to work to my current job in July.

any ideas, suggestions or advice would be gratefully received.

[sam's mum]

If this is truly your dream job, give it a go.

Some people have to go back to work at 6 weeks, and some go even earlier than that.

It is about you and how you feel.

Some mothers might work three days a week and still spend more time playing and so on with their kids than some mothers who stay at home.

Don't let people put you off, it is not often you get a chance at a job that you actually want.

[mumofone]

Thanks for your kind and positive words


It so hard knowing what is the right thing to do.

I'm sort of in the frame of mind at the mo, that this job will suit them as they get older. I'm a nurse and regular day time houred jobs are few and far between.
So I'm sort of hoping if I get it, it will be great for when school etc starts.

I understand what you mean about spending more quality time with the girls than some stay at home mums. I have found I feel that I have been a better Mum to my first daughter as I had the best of both worlds my career and her. I hope, I can make it work this time.

[Me]

The right time is when it feels right for you. I don't see any harm in giving it a go.

Good luck:hugs:

[~Emmylou~]

I agree it's about when it's right for you.
I went back when DD was five months old. I found it hard at first but we adjusted quickly and she stayed home with Daddy for a year.
My DS is 4 months and I can't imagine leaving him at the moment but I don't have to go back until he is 1 so I won't be going a day before I have to :laughing:

[brooke]

i think do what ever you feel is right for you!

if its your dream job and the oppurtinity is there then go for it! Its not the amount of time you spend with your kids that is important its about the quality! :thumbsup:

[~mia&ryan~]

There is no right time, its different for everybody... If you want to go for it!!! A happy mum makes for happy children!:yes: :hugs:

[tegz_84]

My son is 3 months old & I have a job interview this week.

I felt guilty at first & now i couldn't care what other people think.

[mumtojosh&jas]

As the other mums have said, you need to do what is right for you and your family. I went back to work when my DD was 6 weeks old but was lucky enough to work around my DH's working hours. I was going crazy at home and the few hours break was great for them and for me.

To make things easier for you and make you feel better about putting your child in daycare, would it be possible for you to spend a few hours there before you have to start work? I did that with my DS who is now in daycare one day a week so that I can do the shopping etc. (which he hates) and was very impressed with the centre. It's also good to be there so that you can explain their routines and food likes/dislikes too.

The other thing is don't put too much pressure on yourself - you can't do it all (clean house, cook, look after bubs, work etc. etc.). Remember that you are working now and have less time at home to do the housework etc. so just do what you can and the rest will just have to wait!

I hope that your job works out for you.

[Merlion]

I went back to work when J was 5 months old. It was a 4-8pm shift 3 days a week and it was perfect as mum finished work at 4pm so dad came around 3pm (he worked from home) and looked after Jess for an hour and then mum took over. I gave this job up when the contract was over after 6 months but it helped us build up some equity to buy a bigger house.

This time around I'm thinking of going back to TAFE part-time to get a teaching diploma so by the time the kids are in school I will have the same hours as them and won't really have to put them in daycare. That will be my ideal job.

It's really up to you. Don't let anyone sway you. If I listened to my parents we wouldn't be living where are living now and still living in a 3 bedroom unit with no garden

[mumofone]

thanks for the support, i'll see how I go in the interview and take it from there.... my friends and family have given me suggestions. Although some just don't understand you go to work for me time and time to be yourself and not a mother, they think it all about the money, I love my job where ever it is and the money is a bonus like allycat2 said you end up getting where you want to be faster !! it was the same for us after we had our 1st. we got away from the 2 bed unit with no garden and now have the family home with a great backyeard for play.

Mumtojosh&jaz - thanks, my older daughter already goes to the centre, so I know the staff really well. the girls that look after the babies are awesome, you couldn't ask for better !!

[abeckaj]

I went back to work part time when DD was 4 months old - you feel bad for a dew weeks but then you realise that the kids actually don't care! LOL
It has now got to the point where my DD actually doesn't want to come home!
It is also sometimes easier to take them so young so that they just think it is part of their routine - no seperation anxiety at 4 months.

[mumofone]

Hi All

the interview was really good and they offered me the job yesterday.
Abeckaj, my friends have told me the same thing, i didn't go back with the older one till 8 months and the separation thing was bad, we both cried for weeks, she loves it now too and sometimes prefers to be there than home with me !!

I'm going to give it a go and see how we go.

tegz-84 did you get yours ??

:) :) :) :)