Ever feel forgotten????

[Ky]

In the past 2 weeks, I have heard that my sister and my father have both moved houses ... my father has moved to somewhere up north of Auckland in NZ ... I have no idea where either of them are?

The only reason I know this much info about my dad is that I got a phone call from my mil last Sunday night after they had been to my Dad's farewell bbq! i didn't even know he had retired and finished work! I don't even have a mobile number for him anymore, as his was a business phone :(

My sister has moved in with her boyfriend and changed jobs ... at least I still have a mobile number for her!

Funny how it seems that I have moved to another country, so I no longer need to be any part of their lives!

I'm not bitter, only a little hurt ... I guess I will find out a bit more when my step-mother sends out her notorious Christmas letter which talks all about her kids, grandkids and their partners and dedicates a sentence each to my sister and I! That is ... if she still has my address! I seem to have to give it to her each time I ring ... that and my phone number!

[Pixie]

Krya,
I feel a little left out too, being all the way over here, I often when I talk to my mother that is, ask how my brother is as he is so slack at responding to my emails, and rarely calls, we are really close as well, I think he is just lazy!!
My sister too I get the quarterly emails that keep me up to date!

I don't have my brothers home number or address lol trying to get that right now so I can send him christmas stuff!!

I don't think it is becuase they don't care I just think people forget or are to lazy in my case. BUt it does leave you feling like HELLO I AM HERE!!

[mummyto3]

Well it changes all the time for me.My mum used to call me at 6am every day just to complain about my 3 sisters and brother.I have 3 young children(3,15mths and 9 weeks),i don t have time(or the energy) to be up at 6am listening to stuff like that!.I am quite close to all of my siblings so it wasnt really stuff i wanted to hear.
She must have got the message that my Fiancee wasnt impressed with the phone calls,as i would get worried about what she said,as she doesnt call me to complain anymore.

We moved to a different suburb 4 mths ago,which is now 45 mins from my family(they all live only a few streets away from each other),and now no one bothers to call or visit at all!.For my nanna is a hige hassle for her to come see me and the kids,though she expects me to come and see her.Though one of my sisters have moved out to the country,and my nanna is talking about going up to see her before christmas!.

[MariaO]

Hi,

I find that I am updating my mother on my brothers and sisters activities even though they all live within ten miles of each other. I speak to my sister most days on Yahoo messenger with the Webcam going so that she can keep up with her little niece. I speak to one of my brothers on messenger every few days as well.

anyway, sorry to hear that Kyra, perhaps you can get in to more contact with your kith and kin via the web?

[Ky]

I have actually received a Christmas card from my Dad and stepmother with an address label attached, so at least I know where they are living!

Neither my sister nor my Dad have the internet, so they are uncontactable that way ... I guess I will just have to wait for my sister to contact me before I can send anything over to her kids for Christmas.

At least my Grandmother still thinks of me! We have just received some presents for the kids in the mail and I was talking to her only a few days ago ... I guess that is some consolation ;)

[Lallas' Mum]

Kyra,

You have no idea how much I have been feeling like you lately!! At least I know I'm not alone. I regularly catch up with my parents and sisters but as for my DH's family.....well. My two sisters-in-law and a close famly friend (who is also my neighbour) just had a girl's weekend away. No hubby, no kids just them and a few other ladies. They never even invited me!!! We get along fine and all chat quite well when we're together. I guess it's because I am a overly doting mum who very rarely leaves her kids behind. Yes, most the time I would probably decline the offer as I enjoy spending the weekends with my husband and kids. But sometimes I would really like a break.

The don't even invite me to their "parties". They recently held a Body Shop party (right next door) and never invited me. I know via my MIL that they are having a Mary Kay make-up party next week at one of my SIL's house - I've still yet to be invited. I really need new foundation. I don't know whether to speak up or not. I don't want to invite myself and I don't want to sound like a cry-baby. I just want to belong. It that fair enough? I guess I'm just to Mummsy for them.

Anyhow to make myself feel better I am helping organise a night out with some other Mums I know. They all seem to be on the same wave length as me. At least I know they like my company. I sometimes wonder about DHs family though. His parents are lovely and wouldn't mind if I went to visit everyday. They love to chat with me and love to see the kids. It is just DH's siblings. I am quite sure they like me. That's why I don't really undertand why they don't invite to more things.