Would love your opinion!!!

[AshleyG]

Hi Ladies,

Would really love you thoughts on our situation...

My husband and I have finally decided that we would start TTC! I have been super clucky for ages and he is now feeling the times is right.

We have spent ages decideding that now is the right time... now the thing is that I am suddenly wondering how I will go having a baby at home while hubby is working away!?!?!?

He is currently away for a month and then is home for 5 weeks before going away for 7 weeks.

I get really sad when he is away and find it hard to cope (I don't even know how I will go next time when he will be away for 7 weeks cause the most we have been apart is a month)

My mum seems to think that I might actually find it easy to cope when we have a baby if he is away as I will have something to disctract myself with (though this in no way would be a reason to choose to TTC)

The other thing is there is a small chance we will do a 1-2 year stint overseas as part of his job, not composory but something he would like us to consider.

I have always believed in 'fate' but I don't know if we should start TTC now and leave it up to fate or hold off becuase of his travel or the chance of moving...

Do you think we should start TTC now or wait???

Thanks, sorry for rambling!
x Ash

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[Laksa]

hello! :wave:
my DH works one week on and one week off so quite a different situation to you but i will still give my opinion lol
i don't think you should put your family plans on hold because of his work. i think go ahead with TTC (might take a while with that roster, gotta make sure he is home on the right dates!) and then when baby arrives, i'm sure your life will change to fit around having a family.
i am a bit nervous about looking after bub by myself when DH is away but i think we will get used to it. (our first baby is due in 3 weeks)
re working overseas, it might have to wait a little bit. my DH wants to go o/s for work for a year or so but i have said we have to wait til we have two kids and they are both toilet trained before i am ready to go live in another country. so that might be 5 years. oh well... i know the happiness of his wife and kids is more important that his job anyway!

PS - the best thing about a FIFO dad is that when he is home, he is a full-time daddy and thats gotta be good :yes:

[2s'nuff]

Mt first thought is "it's NEVER the right time to have a baby". No matter how organised you are in life, if you worried about work and money, you'd never end up having kids. So if you feel it's the right time within yourself, go for it. You will adjust and manage once bub has arrived.

As for coping with a bub by yourself while DH is away, you'll manage. Although my DH is on a 2/1 roster I've managed a stint with DD1 and bub on my own and know as bub gets older things will only start to improve. Realise that it's ok to call for help from family and friends and that whats important is getting through each day. The washing and housework will always wait for another day. I have a rough routine that seems to get us through each day and I look forward to DH coming home to help out for a week before he is off again.

As for overseas, you might find your priorities change once you have a bub and/or find it easier or harder than you originally thought. As it's not compulsory for you DH's work, I'd deal with the matter if/when you felt comfortable with it.

Good luck TTC!

[kewlchicmum]

[quote=mousebrown;1095627]
"it's NEVER the right time to have a baby". No matter how organised you are in life, if you worried about work and money, you'd never end up having kids. So if you feel it's the right time within yourself, go for it. You will adjust and manage once bub has arrived.

I agree with mousebrown my DH does 2 and 2 different to yours but I was putting off and putting off TTC cause I was scared about how I would handle things while DH was away (andI do have family here) but in the end I thought like what mousebrown said above some times you just got to do whats in your heart.
My DH has gone back to work and this is my second week being home alone wit bub and ya it's hard at times but you just get on with it and I think it's good having bub cause the time has gone so quick he's home like on Tuesday but I must say I was quite upset when he flew out this time even more so I think cause of bub and being home alone for the first time and after having him home for 6 weeks.