two consecutive miscarriages

[jessica]

have any ladies had successful pregancies after miscarrying more than twice? Did you still bleed in the successful pregnancy - did you ever find out what caused the miscarriages?
Looking for light at the end of the tunnel!

[rynosmum]

Hi Jessica,

I have only had one miscarriage and had a successful pregnancy afterward.

I have also had 2 friends who had had 2 consecutive miscarriages and then went on to have a successful pregnancy.

It's a tough question as most miscarriage causes are not investigated until there have been 3 in a row. Without knowing what caused it, it makes it so hard for us to address it, doesn't it ? Unfortunately it's sometimes all a bit of a mystery.

Wishing you the very best of luck ! :)

[Chickadee]

Hi Jessica.
I had 2 early miscarriages and now have my beautiful daughter. So it is possible and even common. When I was preg the 3rd time and doing my medical history with my ob, she didn't even blink at the news of 2 prev m/c. I did spot early on in my 3rd (successful) pregnancy, at around the 6.5 week mark. Very similar to how my first 2 m/c started. But my GP was great and got me an ultrasound right away - he could tell how upset I was.

As Rynosmum said, usually the cause isn't investigated until you've had 3 m/c. I suspect my 2nd was aggravated by stress, flying overseas and massive physical exercise with work (hiking up and down hills, 14 hour days and 40+ heat), but even if I'd been flat on my back it might not have stuck.

[mum2angels]

Hi Jessica
I've had one stillbirth and 2 miscariages and am constently thinking, 'am I ever going to hold a health little baby of my own'. As rynosmum and Matha have said, it is common to have 2 miscarriages and to then have a successful pregnancy after. Hopefully it will happen soon for us that want it so badly

[rynosmum]

Hopefully it will happen soon for us that want it so badly

Hi Jodie, i can only imagine what you have gone through. I pray that you have a happy outcome with your future baby sooner rather than later. ;) 2006 is a whole fresh new year ! :)

[talon]

I have a good friend who had several miscarriages before she fell pregnant and carried to term. She now has a beautiful baby girl!

[Hokey Pokey]

I had a miscarriage and then fell pregnant with twins, miscarried one but successfully kept the other to term and ended with a beautiful healthy daughter :)
She was touch and go aswell so we are quite lucky to have her to term, but be assured there is light at the end of the tunnel!

[shereejoy]

Jessica,

I am so sorry for your loss and I feel your pain. I was nearly in the same predicament as you, but then this pregnancy has all of a sudden turned for the better. So if I can give you hope of experiencing something similar in up and coming pregnancies you will experience, as they don't always turn out badly and there is hope, especially as far as the bleeding goes!

But just to give you some hope, this is my experience. My first pregnancy was twins, I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks 4 days and had a scan as I had been discharging brown for the past week and a half. There was nothing in one sac and a slow cardiac hb of 109bpm in the other sac (which they told me was slow). They were monitoring me with HCG and it didn't appear to be increasing much. At 7 weeks I went back for a scan and no longer a hb. So believe the HCG was telling the story.

This pregnancy I have brown/and a little red discharged from 5 to 8.5 weeks, where my HCG was monitored and scans performed every 10 days. All appeared like it was going well and then at nearly 12 weeks I woke at 3 am in the morning in a pool of red blood. I then proceeded to pass a clot the size of my palm in the toilet and I cramped. I was admitted to hospital and they thought I had m/c, but again all appeared ok as it was early in pregnancy. I am now 16 weeks and haven't been brown discharging for 2.5 weeks and have been told by the gyno there is a very slim chance I would loose the baby now.

So in conclusion, bleeding during pregnancy is not really good, but then it isn't always bad either. And I guess I may even just be a bleeder???? As there may have been other problems with my last pregnancy, as I have discharged again and all is ok. But it is hard to know and not to compare and even think that bleeding is good with all the horror stories you read.

There is a good pregnancy magazine with a story on bleeding during pregnancy, if you are interested I will locate it for you.

Hope this helps!

[melfunction]

I don't have personal experience, but one of my Aunts had 4 m/c and then 1 born sleeping. She now has 2 gorgeous kids..

[valleymum]

Dear Jessica,

I fell pregnant with my first child within 5 months. I fell pregnant with my second child in 5 months and lost it at 7 weeks. I then fell pregnant with my third child in 5 months and carried it to term with no bleeding.

I can understand the worry you are experiencing. Even after only having one miscarriage I grieved badly for my loss. I guess I thought that after successfully having a child that I was invincable.

My doctor told me that a miscarriage is usually to do with a mismatch of chromosomes, so your body rejects the foreign cells. That is what I was told and it didnt make me feel much better.

My cousin is now pregnant after 3 miscarriages and this is due to fertility drugs to assist.

Dont loose hope. I planted a miniature rose bush in my garden to represent my loss and it gave me some closure. Although I didnt know the baby I had to get over all the could of, should of, would of's.

I wish you luck
Valleymum

[MilkOnTap]

have any ladies had successful pregancies after miscarrying more than twice? Did you still bleed in the successful pregnancy - did you ever find out what caused the miscarriages?
Looking for light at the end of the tunnel!

Hey Jessica - My Grandmother had 2 consecutive miscarriages before having her children. She then went on to have 5 kids!!!

There is light! Good luck!


Cheers,

[pippa]

Hi Jessica,

I have had 2 miscarriages this year and we are sort of TTC again, who know's maybe we will get a BFP this year. I am a bit anxious about being pregnant again but hopefullly 3rd time lucky.

I hope all goes well for you but feel free to pm if you want to chat.

Cheers

[Blessed Mum]

Hi Jessica and Jodie M,
I don't have any experience with miscarriages but a very good friend of mine has had three in a row and they don't know why. I have seen her pain and suffering and I just wanted to say I feel for you guys and I hope really soon that you get what you are hoping for.

Tara :)

[lilsprout]

Hi Jessica,
I am sorry to hear that you've lost your precious babies too. I have a personal story to share.


I HAVE HAD NINE {9} MISCARRIAGES

I had my first pregnancy - which was succesful - a DS born Jan 1996, my second pregnancy miscarried on 24/12/1996, with this miscarriage I haemorrhaged, when i went to the gyn/ob he didn't seem to care about the m/c at all and sent for blood test and perscribed medication to stop bleeding. My next m/c, 17/04/97, I had a D&C...the third to the fiveth I can't talk about because they were the most painful of all...the sixth, I was at my mother's and she got me to move furniture and that night I was in agony the pain was so bad the next morning I miscarried. The seventh my son and I were going on a bus trip and I was packing clothes in suitcases and had to stop the pain intense and I was in a fetal position on the floor, I was fine until getting off the bus felt as though my bladder was going to explode but felt weird and passed the gestational sac into the loo. The eighth m/c was incomplete when I finally did pass "everything" my body went into shock i think as I was so cold, so i had a shower to warm up and felt as though I had to "bear-down" {strange as I never gave birth before my DS was born cearesean} and passed tissue and liver looking clots...rang ambulance and taken to emergancy doctors were convinced that everything had being passed and I should be ok now. the nineth miscarriage is still hard to come to terms with it started on the 23rd November 2005 and completed on the 27th Noveber 2005....

As there have being so many We are getting answer's and looking into why I have being miscarring so many pregnancies. So far, I have had a sleep apnoea test. I have a gyn/ob appointment, and there are blood tests that after multiple miscarriages should be checked.

~ We are still hopeful of having a precious child, a baby of our own, I may only get the chance to have one more successful pregnancy....if I do I'll cherish every minute I'm pregnant and our baby will be loved and wanted so much. I have gone through ten years of miscarriage/pain/anguish over this it would be so nice to finally have a dream come true ~

[mummycloud]

Hi Jessica,

I hope this post doesn't upset you, it's intended to give you hope. :)

My MIL had her DD when she was 17 and then had 13 miscarriages in a row over 14 years, till she had my DH.
She says that refusing to get an internal done till her second trimester, and not having sex, is what she believes made the difference.

After all those years of heartbreak, she really cherished my DH, spoiled the crappers out of him infact :rolleyes:

I have had 2 miscarriages in a row also, followed a by full term pregnancy :D

All the best!

[lilsprout]

Thankyou mummycloud it is so sad to hear your MIL had

so many m/c's and the advice is always great to hear how others had a successful

pregnancy after recurrent m/c's and does give hope.

My probelm might = I'm no gyn/ob= but could be due to 2 things:
1. sleep apnoea or blood disorder
2. cervical incompetitence{due to past accute sexual trauma from the m/c's I can't talk about.

After I wrote my post my DH&I argued, clearing the air?? I don't know but we are

s*** scared that we wont be able to concieve children naturally or at all; it's scary

it breaks my heart but we are facing lots of possiables whilst being positive

thanks for the support ... I wish there was a magic potion that after 3 m/c's it was

available and you had successful pregnancies after it :D

[Percy]

Hi Jessica

I have had two miscarriages, one early and one very late in pregnancy. I gave birth to a beautiful little boy in May and he is perfectly healthy. It can happen, just keep your chin up.

[Sarie]

lilsprout, I'm in tears from your story.
I hope and pray that you and your hubby will get your dream bub soon.
All my positive thoughts coming your way.
Best wishes for a merry christmas and a new year full of hope.
Sarah

[~beckkles~]

I had miscarriages at 17 and 20 weeks. I made sure they did pathology on both little ones to try and get some answers. Thankfully they did and we ended up with out beautiful daughter
Bec

[zafyrezmummy]

dear Jessica,
I'm very sorry for you, I cant imagine how I'd cope with more than the one m/c. Today i would of been 21 weeks pregnant. I lost my baby at 14 weeks, which I had started heavy bleeding at 8.5weeks. the bleeding persisted for the 5.5weeks until i m/c.
But even though the worst did happen, I still had hope right up until the final scan where they told me my bub was gone, that I'd had an incomplete miscarriage and needed a d&c.
This was my first pregnancy, so my personal experience is not much.
But my mother, her experiences were this: Her first bub m/c at 12 weeks, with no warning signs. She then had 2 healthy pregnancies to full term. with her fourth pregnancy, she started bleeding in the first trimester and continued bleeding right through to the birth, where she had a baby girl (me) a few weeks premature.
I don't know if this will help but it is possible to have a healthy baby and bleed during the pregnancy, my doctor told me it is actually quite common. ALso a friend of mine claims she continued to get her period regularly for the nine months during her pregnancy and her son is now a healthy (and very tall) 17 year old.
Well all the best for you, i really hope it works out.
-Jo marie

[meglet]

I've had 2 miscarriages and am now 4 months pregnant with a baby so I'll assume it's going to be ok from here.

But more interesting (by far) than me is someone I was talking to who had 9 miscarriages (on IVF) and then gave up. She was pregnant the first month and had a healthy baby girl. Then decided no contraception after the baby just incase they were lucky enough to get another one, and the first month after her daughter was born, she concieved triplets, all who were born safely. And she has her hands full with 4 children under 1 (actually the elder daughter will be 1 very soon)!!!

Best of luck - it can happen for you I promise!

[Belinda1000]

hi a miscarriage is never easy
i had two missed miscarriages showed no sign of miscarriage at all until the 6 week u/s when there was no heart beat. luckily i have a great dr who sent me to specialist who could find nothing wrong but believe my babies were dying because they were not being nourished by my blood.i was put on half an asprin for my third pregnancy to thin my blood and guess what? i carried the pregnancy to full term. who would have thought that the humble aspro clear kept my baby alive. my advice DO NOT accept continual misses and demand specialist help.