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[Billy]

:wave: Hi all have a few questions today- but will post separate threads to keep track hehehe ;)

I am wondering if anyone is having any issues with their bubs being extremely attached to them... I don't really like to call them 'issues' I guess because it makes me feel sort of special- but it is getting a little difficult...

Background- DH works away so its just me and my girl most of the time. She has no issues with me, hubby or my mum- but thats it. Anyone else tries to hold her and she screams :crying: I hate hearing her sad so I don't let it happen most of the time- just take her back.

The reason I'm asking is I am thinking of going to the gym for a couple of hours a week and they have childminding for the hour classes. When DH is home there will be no probs- but otherwise that's what I would need to use.

So point (yes there is one lol :o) how can I get her more used to other people- or should I at all??? I won't just leave her to cry with someone else for an hour- so that is out of the question...

Oh Rhianna is 9 months this weekend and we go to mothers group most weeks aswell

Please help me my fellow APers :-)

[Billy]

*Bump bump* :o

[MordecaiAliVanAllenO'Shea]

Hi, I don't necessarily know the answer, but I know that my parenting style is mostly AP and my bub is very sociable (just wants mum when tired or hungry, other than that he's fine with others), while my non AP sisters DD is VERY clingy and has been since about 6-7months, at times not even letting her dad hold her. So I don't know wether it's becuase of AP parenting or not....anyway, if there is someone else you trust that could mind your daughter in your home (where at least she will feel more secure) you could start having them over a lot so that your daughter gets used to them and will eventually feel comfortabke with them too. I made a special effort with my niece, being involved with bathing, feeding, dressing etc to build a close bond with her so now my sister can leave her with me no worries, but aside from my mum and dad, she still wont go to anyone else.

I don't know if that's any help, good luck. BTW love you AV, your DD is gorgeous,

Mel

[cheezelkat]

My bub was the same. At around 8/9 months he turned antisocial and there were only 3 people who could hold him without him screaming. he cried at his grandmas.

Now, he doesn't interact much with other babies but he has a shy personality. I don't think its anything to do with AP parenting. He's improving with others - around 11 months old I noticed a big difference.

[Billy]

:hugs: Thank you guys for your replies- much appreciated!! :yes:

Thank you Mel I think she is gorgeous too :D


If anyone knows any other tips to make bubs more comfortable with new people please don't hesitate to post :thumbsup: