Is it Wrong to have a Baby Shower for your second??

[Elmopalooza]

Is it wrong to have a Baby Shower for your second child!? Is that considered 'abnormal' these days??

The reason i ask is because my SIL was lovely enough to ask if she could organise a Baby Shower for me... When the topic came up with my mother however, all she had to say was "Why are you having a baby shower for your second child!?" As though apparently im not meant to!

What are your opinions on the matter?

[catalicious]

Some people say you shouldnt but I did.

I had thrown out everything or given it away...

And my friends didnt seem to mind... if they did they didnt say anything.

One of my friends mums did though and I just blew the comment off.

They are a fun thing to have so why not even if its just an excuse to have a little get together with your friends...

[SilverStarfish]

I didn't get to have one with Sarah, so when our next baby comes along, I'll be having one :)

[Uniquey]

I say go for it. If your SIL is lovely enough to suggest one, I would most certainly take her up on the offer. As far as 'tradition' goes, maybe your Mum is from the old School of thinking whereupon you just have one for your first baby. In this day and age, things are much more liberal. I'm sure you won't have to worry once the invites go out, most people like a good celebration and baby showers are just that.:D

[Grizabella]

Hey Lana - tell your Mum to bite me LOL

Actually no don't - your Mum scares me:D

[Snuffys Mum]

Gosh, it never occured to me that a shower for a second baby might not be appropriate.

Why should subsequent pregnancies be less celebrated than the first? Baby Showers aren't just about presents (if thats what peoples concerns are).

[Elmopalooza]

Lol thanks girls! My SIL has already sent the invites out and it is being help in 2 weeks on the 18th February!

My mum definitely isnt the old school type, she is just annoyed that she wasnt asked to do one (even though it would have been up to her to offer lol)...

My mum is put out by the fact that she hasnt been asked to join my DP and I in the birthing suite i think.

With my first, I did have a baby shower but didnt really have many friends my own age then and certainly none with kids... Plus most of the girls invited this time are my friends from Bubhub!!

Jude - yes, she is a bit scary sometimes hey lol... and she bites.. HARD!!! :laughing:

[Shakey]

from what i've heard its not the done thing to have a baby shower for your second if you had one for your first.

I never had one for my first so i'm hoping I have one for my second lol, anyways if you want one, then I see no reason in having one, a baby shower is supose to celebrate the new beginning, the new bundle of joy that will be soon entering the world

[pookiesossige]

I didn't have one for my first baby, and so when a workmate suggested a casual cuppa at my place for a baby shower when I was pg with Ariene, I said yes. It never occured to me that it wasn't the done thing- I really think that it's fine, particually if there was no baby shower first time 'round. :D

[kiah]

The one we had for dd was heaps bigger than the one for ds.

We invited all the gals and their partners. We had a girly thing upstairs and then a boys bbq downstairs. Then we all came together at the end for a big family bbq. It was fantastic!!!!

We went a little overboard as we were pretty excited about having a little girl. The house was covered in pink baloons and pink streamers and ds had done heaps of pink paintings and drawings of the baby all over the house.

I think u should do whatever makes u happy. I don't think there are rules for this sort of thing:fingerscrossed:

[Eternity]

In my circle of friends its not the done thing, So therefore I wouldnt have one, cause they didnt iykwim but if you really want one and feel your friends wouldnt get offended why not its a new baby after all why shouldnt you get to have a another baby shower:)

[~rambox~]

I think every pregnancy should be celebrated as they are all special.

I had one big one for DS#1 and the next three my girlfriends called them Baby Sprinkles :laughing:

[Ashleigh<3]

I say there's nothing wrong with it at all!

There's nothing wrong with celebrating the 'future' birth of every child you have!

I will be having one for every future child lol
I have a scrapbook of my babyshower, and I'd like Chloe to love it one day too, that goes the same for every other child that may just join the family. :)

[*~alegna~*]

I think every pregnancy should be celebrated as they are all special.

I had one big one for DS#1 and the next three my girlfriends called them Baby Sprinkles :laughing:



I Love that! :laughing:

[Lil X-men]

I didn't have one with my first because we had just moved here from NZ and had no friends to invite, so this time I have some friends lol, and they are throwing me one!
I dunno I have been to lots of babyshowers for babies no.2, 3 and even 4 so I don't mind, going to them!! I don't even mind buying pressies again as who doesn't love baby shopping lol!!

[bearsmummy]

As soon as i saw the title of this post i knew this would be urs Lana lol!

Hey Lana - tell your Mum to bite me LOL

Actually no don't - your Mum scares me
Nah Jude i cant see how she would scare you :p Hey between the three of us we should be able to fight her off! lol!



Why should subsequent pregnancies be less celebrated than the first? Baby Showers aren't just about presents (if thats what peoples concerns are).

This is exactly my opinion...every baby to me is just as special i dont see why all us girls cant get together and celebrate this little mans soon to be entrance into the world just because he is Lanas second bub! Its not about the presents at all... (as far as im concerned anyways)

I just dont understand why she is so put out by me putting this on for Lana:confused: Well now i think of it its probably because im holding it for Lana and not her....

What gets my goat if it is so the done thing for your first baby, then why didnt she do it for me when i had my first???? But thats a whole new thread hey?? :mad:

I have never ever had a shower...i now have 3 boys and i tell ya what... if i have another, id like to have one , just a bbq or similar (esp if i have a girl lol) i would love nothing more than having my closest friends and family with us to celebrate our inpending bundle of joy.

Well Lana all i can say is she can go jump...we are going to have a great time at your shower and if she cant manage to do the same well then its her loss!

I cant wait! :smiliedance:

[melfunction]

I didn't have one for K and probably won't be having one for this bubba either.

[Trumpet]

I only had one for my first and didn't feel comfortable having another with them both so close together.

But my closest friend has had one for all 3 of her children and it's more of an excuse to have a bit of a get together than anything.

[Elmopalooza]

Thanks girls i feel better now!

Rambox - I love your idea of calling them 'Baby Sprinkles' lol.. Thats great!

Mel - Thanks heaps for organising it babe! I agree that baby showers arent just about presents! I honestly couldnt care about that side of things. Its an individuals choice to bring a present or not... I WILL be throwing you a baby shower for your next one, no leaving it to Blake next time round lol! (actually want it to be done!)

Mum can just sit in her little corner and mope if she likes... WE will all have a blast! :smiliedance:

[jess_live_die]

i had a baby shower with my 2nd and my daughter loved it she was so excited that her baby sister was nearly there

[~Emmylou~]

I had one for my second but I felt really weird about it because my two are a bit less than 2 years apart.
But my mother really wanted to throw one because she was pipped at the post by my stepmother who threw the shower for my first baby.
So I agreed to it but we invited only people who weren't at my first one (best friend excluded) so no one was b*tching that I was double dipping.
But I also agree with the person who said every pregnancy deserves to be celebrated for it's own sake so I guess it's a hard one!

[SophieD]

I was so excited to be able to celebrate another new life I was bringing into the world, so I didn't second guess having a second baby shower. Each baby is different and why shouldn't you enjoy every aspect again. Some of my friends annoyed me a bit by asking why I needed to have another one. I think some people assumed I was just having it to get more gifts but I already had everything so that wasn't the case. I loved getting together and telling stories, catching up and playing silly baby shower games. If you want to do it then don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It's your special time in your life!

SophieD
Mother to Biarra (3) and Korraki (1)

[westerner]

Too bad lana your having one... :yes:
Im coming.. :smiliedance:

[the_original_duchess]

i having one next month and its for my 3rd. each baby is a different person, and a different experiance. they all deserve to be celebrated. i didnt have a shower for the gifts (altho thats an added bonus) im having one so that i can share my pregnancy and upcoming birth with the people whom i know and love.
plus what other time am i going to have all the women that i know come over for just a chat and some cake?

[Elmopalooza]

Too bad lana your having one... :yes:
Im coming.. :smiliedance:

:laughing: Ok Kristy... You twisted my arm lol!!

Well i am certainly going to enjoy celebrating our litle mans upcoming arrival with all my friends! (Mum can sit there and feel sorry for herself if she likes...Or, she can just go home!)

[bearsmummy]

(Mum can sit there and feel sorry for herself if she likes...Or, she can just go home!)

Oooh oooh can i chose what she does? ;)

[Merlion]

Well I was going to suggest instead of a baby shower why don't you have a blessingway. So instead of bringing gifts for the baby. Bring a bead each (the women) and string a necklace or bracelet together while each woman is doing so say a silent prayer or affirmation over the bracelet or necklace, maybe get a piece of canvas and get each woman to write an affirmation or some kind of thought provoking saying on it. So instead of having more baby stuff you get something that's truly meaningful for you and your baby. Even maybe get the women to bring a thought provoking thought or saying in an envelope and get them to put it in box and only open it when you are either in labour or after your baby is born.

This is something I really wanted to do but no one organised one for me but this is something I wanted to do.

[Elmopalooza]

Allycat - That sounds like a gorgeous idea! Probably wouldnt do prayers though as neither DP or I are religious, but the sayings in envelopes sound great!

Unfortunately though we have already organised the Baby Shower etc.. What a shame that no-one in your family organised one for you.

[Merlion]

Hey does someone in Perth want to organise one for me PLEASE!!!!!!!!!! Just joking

[Merlion]

Allycat - That sounds like a gorgeous idea! Probably wouldnt do prayers though as neither DP or I are religious, but the sayings in envelopes sound great!

Unfortunately though we have already organised the Baby Shower etc.. What a shame that no-one in your family organised one for you.

sorry when i meant prayers it didn't come out right more like something they want to say privately. its more like thought provoking saying, meaning, blessing (thats what i meant by prayer - i'm not very religious but my immediate family is on my side).

my mum organised my last one and i only have MIL and SIL and I didn't tell anyone that I wanted one.

[Merlion]

You could still do the beads thing. You could always buy a selection of bead you like and let the guest pick one when they arrive and just before they leave get them to string it.

[HM77]

Baby showers are fun so why not have another for your second. For my second I decided to celebrate by having a baby shower after she was born so everyone could meet her & I could enjoy the celebrations as much as them.

[TeamAwesome]

I had one but it was more about me just getting to spend some time with friends who I hadn't been able to spend much time with after DS's birth! I got a couple of presents even though I said I didn't want anything. One thing I got was a butterfly mobile from my in laws who were automatically its HAS to be a girl lol...
If I was still near friends I'd probably have a little girly morning or afternoon to celebrate for this pregnancy

[lizzymcfizzy]

i agree with the "baby sprinkle" suggestion.

I just saw this too while I was looking for baby shower games at http://www.babbee.com/shower_etiquette/02.html


Shower Etiquette
Is it usual for a baby shower to be held only for the first baby, or can one be held for a second or third baby, especially if say the first baby is a boy and the later baby is a girl?

Traditionally a baby shower is only held for the first baby, but the modern view is that baby showers can be held for subsequent babies as every baby’s birth is a cause for celebration. It might be a good idea if the person who is intending to host the shower asks the potential guests how they feel about holding a second or third shower. If most people seen keen with the idea then why not have one.

Gifts for the shower are best aimed at being the more useful everyday items that the baby may need and maybe not quite as expensive as those given at a first baby shower. For example diapers, bibs, bottles, formula, receiving blankets and onsies.

If the second or third baby is not the same sex as the original child, or if there has been a considerable lapse in time between the births the mother may not still have the original clothing and equipment it may be particularly appropriate to hold a subsequent shower, often called a sprinkle.

But please do remember that the idea of holding a baby shower is of course not just about giving gifts but is also a social event and it is a good excuse for friends and family to get together and to celebrate the birth of a baby.