Lonely

[mollysmum]

I'm fairly new to this posting thing so please bare with me. I just needed to get some things of my chest and not really sure who else to talk to, mainly because I feel like I need to keep up this front, to the rest of the people around me, that everything is perfect all of the time. Anyhow, I feel so miserable and lonely, I have two beautiful kids, one 6 and a half months and the other 22 months and they are both great, but I just feel like my life has fallen into a big heap, I feel like I have no real true friends, a lot seem to have drifted away since I had my babies, I guess mainly because they dont have kids of their own yet. I just feel like I really have no idea how to make any new friends or meet new people, and I feel very alone. And then (and this is probably just being silly I know but I still worry) I worry that my kids arent going to have enough friends because I'm not spending enough time with other people who have young kids so how are they going to make friends etc etc etc (possibly I have too much time on my hands to worry about stuff like that :) ) Anyhow just hoping that I am not the only one out there that is feeling like this

[littlepickle]

I know exactly how you are feeling, I have been feeling a bit like this at times since dd was born. Most of my friends either dont have kids yet or live interstate. Also, I sometimes feel that I dont have anything very exciting to say to them, so I tend to just keep to myself a bit. Dont worry, things will get better.. its just a period of adjustment.
Have you tried joining a mothers group or anything like that? You can usually find things that are happening in your community from the library. There are playgroups, mothers groups, craft groups etc. They may be worth a try. Also things like swimming lessons for bub and gymboree etc is a good way of meeting other mums that you may have more in common with.
What area do you live in? There are a few threads here on bubhub where people organise get togethers
I hope you start to feel a it better soon:hugs:

[Foxy]

Hi mollysmum,

Have you considered joining a playgroup? It's a great chance for you to meet other mums and your kids can have some socialisation. I don't go anymore but I met two great friends there and we catch up nearly every week.

You could also keep an eye out for bubhub meets in your area.

Good luck. :)

[motherhoodlmb]

Hi mollysmum,

I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling this way. I agree with the other posts - find out what's going on in your local area and just get out there and join a playgroup or whatever the equivalent is. I'm sure there's one in your area. Often councils run different things for mums with toddlers and bubs.

It can be a very lonely time having 2 young children and little support around you. It's just a matter of trying to be pro-active and you'll find there's plenty of people around you who are in the same boat.

Good luck! By the way, it doesn't last forever (which I always thought it would) my oldest son starts prep tomorrow :eek:

Take care and you'll also find PLENTY of support on this forum. :yes:

[Jeffy]

I know how you feel :hugs: I got married when I was 20 and DH was 21. We lost all our friends because we weren't interested in partying. The same thing has happened again now that I am on mat leave and have a bubby. We have a couple of close friends but our bestest buddies and the people we hang out with most are our family members and our dogs :D

I think if you are worried about your kids, then definitely join a playgroup or something. It would good for you as well. Chin up! We're your friends!:kiss:

[elemenopee]

hi,
i feel the same too.
i have 2 friends in this world, that's it really. but i don't see them often and i do get lonely. somtimes on a rainy day, i just want someone to go shopping with, yet i don't have anyone.
i do know how you feel :gloomy:
i agree with the others, why don't you look into getting into a playgroup?