c2p08
31-01-2007, 11:58
Hey Everyone,
I really need some advice. My partner and i are going through a realy rough patch, our daughter is nearly 3 months old, and we are constantly fighting and argueing- i went away last week so we both could have a break and think about what we both really want. When i was away my mum wrote him an email explaining everything that i was trying to tell him that i thought was wrong with our relationship before i went away, he took it as though mum was having a go at him, he got his parents to read it who just had the opinion that my mum is wrong and causing troubles for us. She was just saying what i wanted to say but wasnt getting threw.
So anyways, the night before i went away he went and stayed with his parents, and spent the ngiht with his mates getting drunk, the next day i rang him and told him i was going away for a week to visit my sister and to give us a break. Over that week me and bub were doing the best we've ever done, we were both happy, she was starting to play games with me and smiling all the time, throughout the week he went down hill, he started gettin really depressed, and was on the phone all the time talking to me saying that its so bad i was away etc, i asked him to talk to a counsellor, he did. In the week he asked if it was ok with me for him to have a friend from work over to watch a movie with him, but i said no (cause it was a girl and i didnt feel comfortable wiht it, ive been cheated on before), and so his dad came down instead, then a couple of days later she msg'd him asking if he could go and get her cause she was driving around with a drunk driver and didnt feel comfortable (this was at midnight), and so he did, they started talking in the car and then they went back to our house and watched a couple of movies together then at 5:30am he took her home (she lives with her parents).
That day wehn i talked to him he told me that she was there, and that when he was talking to her in the car it felt like the first day that me and him met. i was so upset i didnt know how to take that. A couple of days after that his dad and him ended up coming and getting me and bub and taking us back to his parents place for a couple of days. Things were good. Then we came back to my parents place and we had like 4 fights in the one night, he left the next day to go to his uncles funeral. He promised he would ring that night, but didnt, then rang the next morning for like 30 seconds. then i talked to him a couple of times whilst he was there, and then that night he didnt want to talk to me, he told me he needed some 'him time' away from me...
Today i rang him and he told me that on friday when he gets home he is just coming to pick up his car then he is going away for the weekend and wont be back til sunday night, and that i cant go. he is going to get drunk with his mates. When we were surpose to spend friday night together, we were going to go out, and mum have the bub for the night. We are surpose to get married next year, but he doesnt want to plan it with me, he just says to wait and see what happens, we are surpose to be looking at moving cause our current lease is up in 3 weeks, and he isnt even doing that.
I'm lost, i feel like im losing my partner, i feel like every dream we had is just falling apart. I'm so lost, when i try and talk to him about wanting time with him he says next week, and that it was my choice i havent seen him for nearly the past 2 weeks. he says he is going with his friends this week, i asked him are they more important and he didnt answer.
Am i just being paranoid, or does it seem like my partner doesnt want the life that we have together anymore? I'm 20, and hes 19. What do i do?:gloomy:
I really need some advice. My partner and i are going through a realy rough patch, our daughter is nearly 3 months old, and we are constantly fighting and argueing- i went away last week so we both could have a break and think about what we both really want. When i was away my mum wrote him an email explaining everything that i was trying to tell him that i thought was wrong with our relationship before i went away, he took it as though mum was having a go at him, he got his parents to read it who just had the opinion that my mum is wrong and causing troubles for us. She was just saying what i wanted to say but wasnt getting threw.
So anyways, the night before i went away he went and stayed with his parents, and spent the ngiht with his mates getting drunk, the next day i rang him and told him i was going away for a week to visit my sister and to give us a break. Over that week me and bub were doing the best we've ever done, we were both happy, she was starting to play games with me and smiling all the time, throughout the week he went down hill, he started gettin really depressed, and was on the phone all the time talking to me saying that its so bad i was away etc, i asked him to talk to a counsellor, he did. In the week he asked if it was ok with me for him to have a friend from work over to watch a movie with him, but i said no (cause it was a girl and i didnt feel comfortable wiht it, ive been cheated on before), and so his dad came down instead, then a couple of days later she msg'd him asking if he could go and get her cause she was driving around with a drunk driver and didnt feel comfortable (this was at midnight), and so he did, they started talking in the car and then they went back to our house and watched a couple of movies together then at 5:30am he took her home (she lives with her parents).
That day wehn i talked to him he told me that she was there, and that when he was talking to her in the car it felt like the first day that me and him met. i was so upset i didnt know how to take that. A couple of days after that his dad and him ended up coming and getting me and bub and taking us back to his parents place for a couple of days. Things were good. Then we came back to my parents place and we had like 4 fights in the one night, he left the next day to go to his uncles funeral. He promised he would ring that night, but didnt, then rang the next morning for like 30 seconds. then i talked to him a couple of times whilst he was there, and then that night he didnt want to talk to me, he told me he needed some 'him time' away from me...
Today i rang him and he told me that on friday when he gets home he is just coming to pick up his car then he is going away for the weekend and wont be back til sunday night, and that i cant go. he is going to get drunk with his mates. When we were surpose to spend friday night together, we were going to go out, and mum have the bub for the night. We are surpose to get married next year, but he doesnt want to plan it with me, he just says to wait and see what happens, we are surpose to be looking at moving cause our current lease is up in 3 weeks, and he isnt even doing that.
I'm lost, i feel like im losing my partner, i feel like every dream we had is just falling apart. I'm so lost, when i try and talk to him about wanting time with him he says next week, and that it was my choice i havent seen him for nearly the past 2 weeks. he says he is going with his friends this week, i asked him are they more important and he didnt answer.
Am i just being paranoid, or does it seem like my partner doesnt want the life that we have together anymore? I'm 20, and hes 19. What do i do?:gloomy: